Re: [Modoasis] sort of funny update

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Hi Theresa,

Good to hear from you. Sorry to hear all the " news. "

To tell you the truth, I am very upset for you.

A few weeks ago, you, to me, appeared to be

healthfully detaching/separating yourself from nada

and her shenanagans (sp?). You were contemplating

being transferred to another state/locale by your

employer. You were contemplating selling your house

(and asking a realtor the best way to handle the roof

issue, maybe aa simple disclousre would suffice). And

I thought that you saw clearly that living close to

nada and all of the folks that she's roped in, is a

very unhealthy situation for you.

I am disappointed that nada is sending her new

therapist to bother you. A therapist is supposed to

diagnose on her own. The fact that this therapist is

contacting you asking your opinion of nada, in my

opinion shows that nada asked the therapist to do so.

Otherwise, it would be a breach of patient

confidentiality and the therapist could get sued.

So, nada is still roping in drones to contact you and

do her dirty work.

Theresa, this will never end, as long as you are

living close to nada and all this chaos. And, I know

you're sick and tired of hearing this, but....

It does not matter what the therapist thinks of nada.

It does not matter whether the therapist confirms that

nada is BPD or psychotic, or whatever. It does not

matter what others think of your relationship with

nada.

What matters is how all of this is affecting you and

ruining your happiness and your life.

I would distance myself physically - and far away.

I would ask myself, do I want to surround myself with

this dark cloud?

What really matters is that you regain your life, your

peace and your happiness. You have to escape from Oz

and live elsewhere. I know I'm not supposed to give

advice, so I apologize. I live 3000 miles away, and

believe me, it's the only way.

Right now, you're so hoovered/enmeshed that you cannot

separate yourself from this Ozmosis!

Hope this helps.

Hugs,

Lula

--- taptyper wrote:

> Hey, all!

>

> I don't know if you guys remember me posting about

> how my nada was

> going to go see a therapist who specialized in

> borderline personality

> just to get testing done and all to PROVE to me and

> daughter (esp

> daughter) that she is not a borderline. This was by

> the encouragement

> of my sister who told nada that if she wanted to

> prove it to me, then

> she should go to this therapist and prove me wrong

> (this is a trick,

> of course, just to get nada over there hoping it

> will help all the

> rest of us out in the long run). Well, before my

> nada went out of

> town to visit sister, she told sister that this

> therapist was going to

> be calling both me and sister to let us know she is

> not a borderline

> (or something like that). So, when I did see this

> therapist calling

> on my ID, just last Fri, I did not answer it b/c I

> freaked, and she

> did not leave a message. BUT, I had emailed this

> therapist before mom

> ever went to see her, so I went and emailed her

> telling her I saw she

> tried to call but that I do not under any

> circumstances answer the

> phone unless I know it's someone who is not going to

> be giving harmful

> messages, etc, that it's tootraumatizing for me to

> answer the phone

> around here, and that if she was calling me to tell

> me nada was normal

> not to call me back. I went into a little shpiel

> about how nada had

> traumatized me and daughter and now we have to back

> out of homeschool

> groups, halfway live as hermits, etc. I did tell

> her it's possible

> she was calling to get my perspective and would not

> mind that. Well,

> the T emailed me back simply saying " I was just

> calling to get your

> perspective. I did not mean to upset you. "

>

> I mean, can you imagine? Good thing she specializes

> in BP or she

> would think I have major issues (well, I do with the

> phone anyway).

> She should see something wrong with my reaction

> right there in terms

> of nada. I emailed her back saying I would give my

> perspective in

> writing and mail it to her as she said it was ok for

> me to write it.

>

> Well, I felt like such a nada in that I ended up

> with an 8-page

> perspective (and I left out whatever I possibly

> could!) but I mailed

> that plus the 3 articles I emailed you guys that

> wrere really helpful

> to me, plus email and other electronic exchanges

> betw daughter and

> ex-homeschool friends. That was 2 days ago. I

> guess I will

> eventually hear from her agai. She is supposed to

> call my sister but

> has not yet, so I figure she wanted to hear from me

> first.

>

> Get this- my daughter sent a very angry email to one

> of the girls who

> was helping nada out with the little horses, and it

> ended up that the

> girl's mother thought I was the one who sent it to

> her daughter! I

> think she got that idea from nada, of course. So

> that parent thinks I

> am a mean idiot. Oh, well. Good thing I did not

> answer the phone

> when I saw their name on the ID b/c it probably was

> her wanting to

> chew me out.

>

> Now daughter's confirmation sponsor claims he wants

> to try to meet

> with her this weekend. Daughter is happy, but I am

> just thinking he

> may be doing spy/reporter etc work to report to

> granny. But I did

> tell him to keep everything daughter and I say,

> email, or whatever

> confidential. Well, he did tell nada I had emailed

> him (not what I

> want, either) but I don't think he told her what my

> email said. He is

> a physician, so he should know plenty about

> confidentiality. Will

> see how that one goes.

>

> So far we have missed 3 horse shows; this last one

> nada tried to

> hoover us in by stopping by the house on her way out

> of town with the

> horses, stating she had no one to show them so we

> could come drive

> there the next day or two and daughter could show

> them. Major hoover.

> Why would she spend all that money with no one to

> show the horses at

> the show? Just a hoover attempt, I guess.

>

> Things may eventually get better with this therapist

> she has; I sure

> hope so! DAughter is dying being in no contact

> with her little

> horses. CAn't find anyone around here who will let

> her ride or work

> their horses or just be around them, either. It's

> either they want

> her when I am working and the place is 45 minutes

> away or b/c she is

> 15 I have to stand around with her (not my cup of

> tea. She likes being

> out in the heat with horses, but I sure as heck do

> not!) STill

> trying to find a way, though. She wants me to buy a

> mini horse for

> our back yard, but I told her I think she needs to

> get a job and earn

> plenty of money for that, just even getting its

> hooves trimmed and the

> shots and stuff! Eeek! I hope school can keep

> her busy when we

> start up again as it's killing me she suffers but I

> can't save her

> from it, either.

>

> Theresa

>

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