Feeling good

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Hi everyone!

I am feeling good about myself today! Even though there is a lot of

crap-sandwiches on my plate I finally feel like I'm doing the right thing.

Nada is facing felony charges and turned down a darn good plea deal from the

prosecutors. Normally I would stress about this- I don't want her to be

overstressed b/c she takes it out on my younger sibs and my dad. Not this time.

She believes she is innocent and will be able to BS her way out again, so she is

fairly calm for now. If she is convicted, she will be taken into custody right

away- leaving her no time to get revenge. Fine with me! If she's not going to

behave, then she gets to go live with the other people who can't/won't behave.

The divorce between my dad and nada is 90% finished. My dad is starting to

look alive again. Nada took most of the " stuff " that she just had to have and my

dad was completely fine with that. It's just stuff after all. I'm so glad that

he is coming out of this darkness. He seemed to think it was going to stick

around forever.

As for little 'ol me. I am in the preliminary stages of suing my former

landlord. She spent my deposit money to landscape the yard and upgrade a few

things. I sent her a letter in hopes of trying to reason with her and her

response was a typical BP one: It's your fault that I had to do this to you! Why

didn't you try harder?! She sent me three pages of condescension and blame. So

now I am here. I have statements from our old neighbors regarding the condition

of the yard when we moved in. I also looked up the statutes and found exactly

what I need to hopefully win my case in court. I feel good about standing up to

her. It's the right thing to do, both for the situation and for me. I worked

very hard to get everything ship-shape for her and she still found justification

for spending my money. I realize now, just how manipulated I had been for all

that time, and am still pretty angry about that, but grateful for the ability to

recognize it (a little late).

I just thought I'd check in. I hope all of you are doing well. It's an ugly

mess of hurdles that we as KOs have to try to get over to feel good about

ourselves (blame, FOG, shame, the list goes on and on), but when you feel like

you've cleared a couple, it's such a sunny moment! Lately I feel I have made it

over a few, and it feels good! I may trip again and fall back into some of my

fleas, but for now I'm ok.

Happy thoughts and wishes to you all!!

Adria

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