Guest guest Posted August 2, 2006 Report Share Posted August 2, 2006 <<Before I realised how disturbed she was I used to try and reason with her and so forth and tell her that no one wanted her to be a martyr of any sort, etc, and maybe she really was too sensitive, etc. Of course that always backfired. >> It just doesn't work to try and be nice and reasonable, does it? One reason I do minimal contact now is that I just have nothing to say to her. Conversations are so awkward because there are no non-hot-button topics. She's got lots of problems, but hates any response you give to her cpmplaints. I remember getting a diatribe on how much she hated it when I would say, " Oh, really? " LOL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2006 Report Share Posted August 2, 2006 LOL!!!!! Sorry about the giggle, but thatjust reminds me of something I said to my DH the other day regarding nada and stepfada. He laughed as I referred to them as " The evil, soul-sucking, parasitic hellspawn and her guard dog husband " That being said, it is amazing that nadas and other BPD's seem to believe that they are constantly a victim, and that people are out to get them or punish them. It is pretty characteristic of a BPD or nada to " forgive " their apparant attacker. Too bad they don't seem to realize that when we set boundaries, it is because they have failed to respect the casual boundaries that are put in place within society and culture. maryec73 wrote: My BPD office manager told me a couple days ago that she FORGAVE me for writting her an email outlining her job duties and setting boundries. That was mighty big of her. I suprising did not rap my hands around her neck. I did not even respond. I just thought, I am not taking this personally. She is one SICK " B " . I got 7 weeks till I'm out of there and she can think what she wants about coming with me. I do not care. BPD'S never really hear what you tell them. She honestly believes that I will give her half my work so she can pay her bills and live nicely and I will sacrafice my own well being for hers. She told me she forgave me because she knows I can be a demanding bitch, but I am good hearted. She is a true saint-hahaha!!! Excuse the following vent. Bpds are blood sucking parasites. I would like to round them up and ship them to their own dang island in the middle of nowhere. Devil spawns that leach on and don't let go until they find a better host. They are the most selfish parasites every created, and they make my skin crawl and I want to run for cover when I see them coming. SORRY if I offended anyone out there with my vent. Somehow I don't think I did. --------------------------------- Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2006 Report Share Posted August 2, 2006 We call nada " the dementor " . It's a little shorter, but entirely accurate. On a brave day, her trusty sidekick (fada) called her that to her face - but quickly and painfully rescinded. > > My BPD office manager told me a couple days ago that she FORGAVE me > for writting her an email outlining her job duties and setting > boundries. That was mighty big of her. I suprising did not rap my > hands around her neck. I did not even respond. I just thought, I am > not taking this personally. She is one SICK " B " . > > I got 7 weeks till I'm out of there and she can think what she wants > about coming with me. I do not care. BPD'S never really hear what you > tell them. She honestly believes that I will give her half my work so > she can pay her bills and live nicely and I will sacrafice my own well > being for hers. She told me she forgave me because she knows I can be > a demanding bitch, but I am good hearted. She is a true saint- hahaha!!! > > Excuse the following vent. > > Bpds are blood sucking parasites. I would like to round them up and > ship them to their own dang island in the middle of nowhere. > Devil spawns that leach on and don't let go until they find a better > host. They are the most selfish parasites every created, and they make > my skin crawl and I want to run for cover when I see them coming. > SORRY if I offended anyone out there with my vent. Somehow I don't > think I did. > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2006 Report Share Posted August 2, 2006 I have to laugh too sometimes. people will ask about my mother doing certain things in regards to the wedding stuff, especially as she wants to get more involved. I just explain, oh no, you don't understand my mother hates me. And then I smile and laugh. Because it is just so ridulous... She too has forgiven me for certain things, like the life long campaign I have been embarked on since I was a small child to suck her dry (her words) and get every penny I can out of her. Before I realised how disturbed she was I used to try and reason with her and so forth and tell her that no one wanted her to be a martyr of any sort, etc, and maybe she really was too sensitive, etc. Of course that always backfired. But it all is rather funny, in a twisted sort of way. The other day my best friend (maid of honor) said maybe your mother could do something- I just had to give her a look and she said- " oh, never mind " . -Ata > > We call nada " the dementor " . It's a little shorter, but entirely > accurate. On a brave day, her trusty sidekick (fada) called her > that to her face - but quickly and painfully rescinded. > > > > > > My BPD office manager told me a couple days ago that she FORGAVE > me > > for writting her an email outlining her job duties and setting > > boundries. That was mighty big of her. I suprising did not rap my > > hands around her neck. I did not even respond. I just thought, I > am > > not taking this personally. She is one SICK " B " . > > > > I got 7 weeks till I'm out of there and she can think what she > wants > > about coming with me. I do not care. BPD'S never really hear what > you > > tell them. She honestly believes that I will give her half my > work so > > she can pay her bills and live nicely and I will sacrafice my own > well > > being for hers. She told me she forgave me because she knows I > can be > > a demanding bitch, but I am good hearted. She is a true saint- > hahaha!!! > > > > Excuse the following vent. > > > > Bpds are blood sucking parasites. I would like to round them up > and > > ship them to their own dang island in the middle of nowhere. > > Devil spawns that leach on and don't let go until they find a > better > > host. They are the most selfish parasites every created, and they > make > > my skin crawl and I want to run for cover when I see them coming. > > SORRY if I offended anyone out there with my vent. Somehow I > don't > > think I did. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and > 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2006 Report Share Posted August 2, 2006 You painted a pretty funny picture all I could see were like zombie or something with all these freaks coming to get us and suck us dry. I think it will be hard to offend anybody who has had to deal with a bp person. Anyways I have heard the whole " I forgive you " from my mom to and I think wow what a big person she forgives me for her harassing me and literally trying to take my life and the life of my children. Wow she can forgive me for her spreading rumors of my husband and trying to ruin my marriage and she forgive me for her having sex with her boyfriends in front of me and all the other things she has done to me. WOW I have such a great mom and I am so happy to get her forgiveness. RIGHT! Lizzy > > > > My BPD office manager told me a couple days ago that she FORGAVE me > for writting her an email outlining her job duties and setting > boundries. That was mighty big of her. I suprising did not rap my > hands around her neck. I did not even respond. I just thought, I am > not taking this personally. She is one SICK " B " . > > I got 7 weeks till I'm out of there and she can think what she wants > about coming with me. I do not care. BPD'S never really hear what you > tell them. She honestly believes that I will give her half my work so > she can pay her bills and live nicely and I will sacrafice my own well > being for hers. She told me she forgave me because she knows I can be > a demanding bitch, but I am good hearted. She is a true saint- hahaha!!! > > Excuse the following vent. > > Bpds are blood sucking parasites. I would like to round them up and > ship them to their own dang island in the middle of nowhere. > Devil spawns that leach on and don't let go until they find a better > host. They are the most selfish parasites every created, and they make > my skin crawl and I want to run for cover when I see them coming. > SORRY if I offended anyone out there with my vent. Somehow I don't > think I did. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2006 Report Share Posted August 2, 2006 > > <<Before I realised how disturbed she > was I used to try and reason with her and so forth and tell her that no one > wanted her to be a martyr of any sort, etc, and maybe she really was too > sensitive, etc. Of course that always backfired. >> > > It just doesn't work to try and be nice and reasonable, does it? One reason > I do minimal contact now is that I just have nothing to say to her. > Conversations are so awkward because there are no non-hot-button topics. She's got > lots of problems, but hates any response you give to her cpmplaints. I > remember getting a diatribe on how much she hated it when I would say, " Oh, > really? " LOL. > > ******So true, , there isn't a right answer and nothing I say it ever the right thing. I've given up caring or trying. Dee > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2006 Report Share Posted August 2, 2006 " Life sucking parasites " ; that is what BPD's are. You are my hero ... you didn't internalize that horse sxxt. Sister hug, Carol In a message dated 8/2/2006 7:56:08 AM Eastern Daylight Time, maryec73@... writes: My BPD office manager told me a couple days ago that she FORGAVE me for writting her an email outlining her job duties and setting boundries. That was mighty big of her. I suprising did not rap my hands around her neck. I did not even respond. I just thought, I am not taking this personally. She is one SICK " B " . I got 7 weeks till I'm out of there and she can think what she wants about coming with me. I do not care. BPD'S never really hear what you tell them. She honestly believes that I will give her half my work so she can pay her bills and live nicely and I will sacrafice my own well being for hers. She told me she forgave me because she knows I can be a demanding bitch, but I am good hearted. She is a true saint-hahaha!!! Excuse the following vent. Bpds are blood sucking parasites. I would like to round them up and ship them to their own dang island in the middle of nowhere. Devil spawns that leach on and don't let go until they find a better host. They are the most selfish parasites every created, and they make my skin crawl and I want to run for cover when I see them coming. SORRY if I offended anyone out there with my vent. Somehow I don't think I did. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 4, 2006 Report Share Posted August 4, 2006 Hi All, Now, now. How could you folks all say such horrible things about BPDs? Didn't they sacrifice their lives for you? Didn't they give up all their pleasures so you could have yours? Didn't they endure all the pain of life so you wouldn't have any (pain, that is!)? Tsk, tsk. Thanks for the dark humor and the laughs. I'm right there with you. One Non-BP Recovering Man --- getevenpersevere@... wrote: > > " Life sucking parasites " ; that is what BPD's are. You are my hero ... > you > didn't internalize that horse sxxt. Sister hug, Carol > > > In a message dated 8/2/2006 7:56:08 AM Eastern Daylight Time, > maryec73@... writes: > > My BPD office manager told me a couple days ago that she FORGAVE me > for writting her an email outlining her job duties and setting > boundries. That was mighty big of her. I suprising did not rap my > hands around her neck. I did not even respond. I just thought, I am > not taking this personally. She is one SICK " B " . > > I got 7 weeks till I'm out of there and she can think what she wants > about coming with me. I do not care. BPD'S never really hear what you > tell them. She honestly believes that I will give her half my work so > she can pay her bills and live nicely and I will sacrafice my own well > being for hers. She told me she forgave me because she knows I can be > a demanding bitch, but I am good hearted. She is a true saint-hahaha!!! > > Excuse the following vent. > > Bpds are blood sucking parasites. I would like to round them up and > ship them to their own dang island in the middle of nowhere. > Devil spawns that leach on and don't let go until they find a better > host. They are the most selfish parasites every created, and they make > my skin crawl and I want to run for cover when I see them coming. > SORRY if I offended anyone out there with my vent. Somehow I don't > think I did. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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