Guest guest Posted July 10, 2007 Report Share Posted July 10, 2007 what is your Nada's reasons for cutting out Step- Grandmother? > > So, my NADA's stepmother - my wonderful, healthy-minded grandmother - > is now feeling the wrath of my NADA. NADA (and my enabling father along > with her) has completely cut off all communication with my grandmother. > I know this as standard NADA behavior, but my grandmother seems > confused and surprised by it. She keeps saying that it saddens her and > that she doesn't know what she did to deserve it. I explained BPD to > her, but I don't think she really understood. I recommended the > Eggshells book, though it's unlikely she read it (and I won't be > pushier about it.) Is there anything I can/should say/do? It frustrates > me that NADA is succeeding at making yet another family member feel > lousy. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2007 Report Share Posted July 10, 2007 You can't be the bandaid for everyone. All you can do is encourage your step-grandmother to read the books we all have read, and when she asks questions answer them honestly. It has taken most of us a long, long time to figure out things about BPD's, and I think I can say that every day is a learning process when you are dealing with BPD. Good luck!! Janie imbernadette wrote: what is your Nada's reasons for cutting out Step- Grandmother? > > So, my NADA's stepmother - my wonderful, healthy-minded grandmother - > is now feeling the wrath of my NADA. NADA (and my enabling father along > with her) has completely cut off all communication with my grandmother. > I know this as standard NADA behavior, but my grandmother seems > confused and surprised by it. She keeps saying that it saddens her and > that she doesn't know what she did to deserve it. I explained BPD to > her, but I don't think she really understood. I recommended the > Eggshells book, though it's unlikely she read it (and I won't be > pushier about it.) Is there anything I can/should say/do? It frustrates > me that NADA is succeeding at making yet another family member feel > lousy. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2007 Report Share Posted July 10, 2007 My reasons? Do you mean my nada's reasons? My experience is that a person with BPD loves you one moment and hates you the next. There are no reasons per se. > > > > So, my NADA's stepmother - my wonderful, healthy-minded grandmother - > > is now feeling the wrath of my NADA. NADA (and my enabling father > along > > with her) has completely cut off all communication with my > grandmother. > > I know this as standard NADA behavior, but my grandmother seems > > confused and surprised by it. She keeps saying that it saddens her > and > > that she doesn't know what she did to deserve it. I explained BPD to > > her, but I don't think she really understood. I recommended the > > Eggshells book, though it's unlikely she read it (and I won't be > > pushier about it.) Is there anything I can/should say/do? It > frustrates > > me that NADA is succeeding at making yet another family member feel > > lousy. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 11, 2007 Report Share Posted July 11, 2007 You're right. And yes, she does know I'm here. I guess that's why she shares with me her feelings about it all. Thanks! > > True -- but don't discount the fact that she has lived to > grandmotherhood and is " healthy " -- so she probably will look for > ways to handle the situation. She's survived into this stage of > live with her health intact for a reason! > > She knows you're there for support. > > -Kkyla > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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