Guest guest Posted September 5, 2005 Report Share Posted September 5, 2005 Unfortunately, it seems in the nature of someone with BPD to somehow dispose of the animals we love. I guess part of it is that they are so needy for love, and they can't handle the fact that an animal is getting the love they want. I just realized that my nada 'found other homes' for 3 of my pets. In each instance, it was a done deal before I learned about it. Sylvia > my nadas sister was caring for my cat, since I had gotten bad allergies, then > lived overseas for years. we paid her at first, but she has five other cats, > and said she was happy to care for him. > > I think she has bp or np too, she has gotten pretty weird over the last > years, esp when she wouldn't do anything to help me with my nadas rapid decline. > > Well, I ended up moving my nada into the same nursing home where her mom was. > sadly, 6 mos later, grandma died of a severe infection she picked up from > the home, norwalk like. > > Not only did this aunt, who was in charge of grandmas care, not take her to > the dr on time, but then forced my poor dear 94 yo gma to go on the nursing > home bus to see the dr, can you imagine. > > I tried to give her pedialyte, and got a very angry call from the aunt, > telling me to back out. I had my mom to care for, so I didn't fight weird > aunt...well, grandma died a week later, weird aunt then pitched a fit that she must > have all gmas furniture, greatly pissing off my mom and the rest of her > sibs...but they let her have her way,,, THEN, the day of the funeral, (I found out > later) she put my kitty down, saying it just so happened that day of the > funeral, he got very sick (he was very old) and so after the funeral, she took him to > the vets and had him put down. > > dh and I were very disturbed by all this. she really had a breakdown. I > have not talked to her since. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2005 Report Share Posted September 5, 2005 To be jealous of a pet animal! How sick is that! UGHHHHHHH! --- smhtrain2 wrote: > Unfortunately, it seems in the nature of someone > with BPD to somehow > dispose of the animals we love. I guess part of it > is that they are > so needy for love, and they can't handle the fact > that an animal is > getting the love they want. ______________________________________________________ Click here to donate to the Hurricane Katrina relief effort. http://store.yahoo.com/redcross-donate3/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2005 Report Share Posted September 7, 2005 Hi Joyce, Wow! I had no idea this was a BPD trait. I thought it was just a bizarre and annoying quirk of my Mother's. How horrible and confusing for you. I understand this feeling of hating her so much. That is how I woke up this morning. Consumed with hatred for my Nada. And, I absolutely can't stand feeling like this. I don't know how to make it go away. I feel like it's killing me. This whole thread about pets, helps me to see this behavior for what it is. It's very abusive isn't it? I feel so badly for my childre, especially my daughter, and that I haven't been able to do something different. My 12 year old is the dog lover. She wants to be a veterinarian. But, I am also relieved, because it just makes me that much more committeed to change what I can ASAP, for my children. If it wasn't for them, I don't know if I could do it for just myself. I never could before when I was not a mother. I've struggled with this problem for many, many years (although I didn't know what the problem was exactly), you know? Re: losing pets > > >> Unfortunately, it seems in the nature of someone with BPD to somehow >> dispose of the animals we love. I guess part of it is that they are >> so needy for love, and they can't handle the fact that an animal is >> getting the love they want. I just realized that my nada 'found >> other homes' for 3 of my pets. In each instance, it was a done deal >> before I learned about it. >> >> Sylvia >> >> >>> my nadas sister was caring for my cat, since I had gotten bad >> allergies, then >>> lived overseas for years. we paid her at first, but she has five >> other cats, >>> and said she was happy to care for him. >>> >>> I think she has bp or np too, she has gotten pretty weird over the >> last >>> years, esp when she wouldn't do anything to help me with my nadas >> rapid decline. >>> >>> Well, I ended up moving my nada into the same nursing home where >> her mom was. >>> sadly, 6 mos later, grandma died of a severe infection she picked >> up from >>> the home, norwalk like. >>> >>> Not only did this aunt, who was in charge of grandmas care, not >> take her to >>> the dr on time, but then forced my poor dear 94 yo gma to go on the >> nursing >>> home bus to see the dr, can you imagine. >>> >>> I tried to give her pedialyte, and got a very angry call from the >> aunt, >>> telling me to back out. I had my mom to care for, so I didn't >> fight weird >>> aunt...well, grandma died a week later, weird aunt then pitched a >> fit that she must >>> have all gmas furniture, greatly pissing off my mom and the rest of >> her >>> sibs...but they let her have her way,,, THEN, the day of the >> funeral, (I found out >>> later) she put my kitty down, saying it just so happened that day >> of the >>> funeral, he got very sick (he was very old) and so after the >> funeral, she took him to >>> the vets and had him put down. >>> >>> dh and I were very disturbed by all this. she really had a >> breakdown. I >>> have not talked to her since. >>> >>> >>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2005 Report Share Posted September 24, 2005 planetlula wrote: > Date: Mon, 5 Sep 2005 21:29:30 -0700 (PDT) > > Subject: Re: Re: losing pets > > To be jealous of a pet animal! > How sick is that! > UGHHHHHHH! My parents hate animals. My mom is insulted when she comes over and my cats leave the room. She expects immediate attention. Cats don't work that way. They got rid of every one of my dogs I had growing up. They would always find some problem with them that made them impossible to keep. I found out years later that they took my very first dog and dumped him out in the country. They let that slip one day. I think my mom doesn't like them because she doesn't like responsibility and is jealous if they like me. My dad hates them because he hates anything that you can't sell, and in his opinion, animals aren't worth a cent. He thinks anyone that spends any money on an animal is crazy. Holly __________________________________ Yahoo! Mail - PC Magazine Editors' Choice 2005 http://mail.yahoo.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 26, 2005 Report Share Posted September 26, 2005 > > Date: Mon, 5 Sep 2005 21:29:30 -0700 (PDT) > > From: planetlula <planetlula@y...> > > Subject: Re: Re: losing pets > > > > To be jealous of a pet animal! > > How sick is that! > > UGHHHHHHH! > > My parents hate animals. My mom is insulted when she > comes over and my cats leave the room. She expects > immediate attention. Cats don't work that way. > > They got rid of every one of my dogs I had growing up. > They would always find some problem with them that > made them impossible to keep. I found out years later > that they took my very first dog and dumped him out in > the country. They let that slip one day. > > I think my mom doesn't like them because she doesn't > like responsibility and is jealous if they like me. > My dad hates them because he hates anything that you > can't sell, and in his opinion, animals aren't worth a > cent. He thinks anyone that spends any money on an > animal is crazy. > > Holly > > > > __________________________________ > Yahoo! Mail - PC Magazine Editors' Choice 2005 > http://mail.yahoo.com God how awful! I feel so sorry for you. All I can say is that having animals really saved my sanity when I was growing up. At least my mother loved animals. Sheila Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2005 Report Share Posted September 27, 2005 An animal is always its true self. I think this frightens people with BPD. A long time ago I worked for a while as a counselor in a program for troubled kids. We had mules that the kids worked with. They were, by far, the best therapists on the place. Ivy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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