Re: nada and (lack) of household goods

[Guest guest]

Hi Charlie,

I don't recall my nada running out of stuff but I can definitely

sympathize with you, as I can't stand running out of things! I keep

lists of all those things that are running low, and make weekly or

biweekly trips to the store just so nothing runs out. I think for me

it's comforting that we do have the ability to establish a regular

supply of things in the house... I guess it's order vs. chaos, or

something like that.

Ironic that she has to be in perfect comfort all the time but lets

the toilet paper run out... you sure she doesn't have a stash hidden

somewhere? And I'd give you coffee creamer if I could... right now I

have two, because one's running low....

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> A vent: my nada cannot keep her household stocked with basic

items.

> She is in good health, and does not work, and lives alone in her

> house w/dishrag. Yet literally EVERY time I visit, she is out of

> something, or about to run out. Something basic. Often it's

toilet

> paper--that one is most annoying. Today it's milk and cream for

> coffee. Another day it might be lightbulbs, to replace ones that

are

> burnt out, or laundry detergent. She just cannot keep UP. She

has

> no sense of normalcy, of going to the store regularly, of making a

> list every day. It drives me crazy! Really, really CRAZY.

Either I

> have to keep track and buy the stuff for her, or *I* have to live

> with the lack. She really, truly doesn't seem to notice it. Even

> though she is a narcissist and must have her physical appearance

and

> physical comfort perfect at all times.

>

> One of the first things I did for myself when I learned about bpd

was

> institute a regular schedule. Get groceries once a week, never

run

> out of anything, clean the house regularly, etc. For over 30

years,

> I didn't even realize that was in a person's power! Now, unless I

am

> on the road, my household has a sense of normalcy. I almost never

> run out of basic stuff. And it is a pet peeve of mine when my

> friends do. Ugh!

>

> Love,

> Charlie

> with no cream in her coffee

>

[Guest guest]

But of course, Charlie, because keeping track of such things

requires a consideration for others - something our dear BPD parents

lack. And they do seem to manage to be able to get someone to come

to their rescue, don't they? ARGGGGGG! They are so frustrating

(and that is at their best!)

Sylvia

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> A vent: my nada cannot keep her household stocked with basic

items.

> She is in good health, and does not work, and lives alone in her

> house w/dishrag. Yet literally EVERY time I visit, she is out of

> something, or about to run out. Something basic. Often it's

toilet

> paper--that one is most annoying. Today it's milk and cream for

> coffee. Another day it might be lightbulbs, to replace ones that

are

> burnt out, or laundry detergent. She just cannot keep UP. She

has

> no sense of normalcy, of going to the store regularly, of making a

> list every day. It drives me crazy! Really, really CRAZY.

Either I

> have to keep track and buy the stuff for her, or *I* have to live

> with the lack. She really, truly doesn't seem to notice it. Even

> though she is a narcissist and must have her physical appearance

and

> physical comfort perfect at all times.

>

> One of the first things I did for myself when I learned about bpd

was

> institute a regular schedule. Get groceries once a week, never

run

> out of anything, clean the house regularly, etc. For over 30

years,

> I didn't even realize that was in a person's power! Now, unless I

am

> on the road, my household has a sense of normalcy. I almost never

> run out of basic stuff. And it is a pet peeve of mine when my

> friends do. Ugh!

>

> Love,

> Charlie

> with no cream in her coffee

>

[Guest guest]

, you're adorable! Thanks for the cyber-creamer!

Charlie

> >

> > Hi everyone,

> >

> > A vent: my nada cannot keep her household stocked with basic

> items.

> > She is in good health, and does not work, and lives alone in her

> > house w/dishrag. Yet literally EVERY time I visit, she is out of

> > something, or about to run out. Something basic. Often it's

> toilet

> > paper--that one is most annoying. Today it's milk and cream for

> > coffee. Another day it might be lightbulbs, to replace ones that

> are

> > burnt out, or laundry detergent. She just cannot keep UP. She

> has

> > no sense of normalcy, of going to the store regularly, of making

a

> > list every day. It drives me crazy! Really, really CRAZY.

> Either I

> > have to keep track and buy the stuff for her, or *I* have to live

> > with the lack. She really, truly doesn't seem to notice it.

Even

> > though she is a narcissist and must have her physical appearance

> and

> > physical comfort perfect at all times.

> >

> > One of the first things I did for myself when I learned about bpd

> was

> > institute a regular schedule. Get groceries once a week, never

> run

> > out of anything, clean the house regularly, etc. For over 30

> years,

> > I didn't even realize that was in a person's power! Now, unless

I

> am

> > on the road, my household has a sense of normalcy. I almost

never

> > run out of basic stuff. And it is a pet peeve of mine when my

> > friends do. Ugh!

> >

> > Love,

> > Charlie

> > with no cream in her coffee

> >

>