To Beach Bunny and all

[Guest guest]

My nada like to collect animals, but really take care of them. She

would get big show dogs for my one sister , who is also BPd,

and they would show them off as puppies, but not take proper care of

them as they aged. It was sad and I was just little and couldn't do

anything. When I got a little older, nada started to collect cats.

alot of cats, and left me to take care of them. I was not going to

stand by and watch her destroy them like she did everything else.

I owe me sanity and life to those cats. They are the only ones who

really loved me unconditionally as a child and adult. I swore to God

to always save them from her and take care of them, and that is what

I do. They are like my kids. I busted my butt to climb out of that

hell hole to save me and save them. Every time I felt like I

coundn't go on as a teenager. I knew I could never leave them

behind. They saved me. I will always save them. I owe them.

Alot of people don't understand that, including my only normal

sister.

TOO BAD! I have a really good job, I am gutting a big old house with

lots of space and those animals are fixed and well taken care of.

SPOILED! My life. My choice. They to this day keep me sane, I guess

kinda like other peoples kids do for them. You always have their

love and you always keep going no matter what. They need you, and I

need them. Wonder if anyone else out there has alot of pets?

I should probably marry a veternarian or something? HA HA HA

> > >

> > >

> > > Go for it!! I mean, it sounds like you have thought it all

out,

> > and have

> > > most of the bases covered. It sounds like it would be

absolutely

> > perfect!

> > > I know my hubby has always told me that being the child of

BOTH

> > parents with

> > > BPD has given me this drive that alot of people don't have.

When

> > I get my

> > > mind, my heart, and my soul dedicated to something that i want

> to

> > make work,

> > > it usually happens. It sounds like it will be the very same

way

> > for you too

> > > You have given it alot of thought, and it sounds like only

good

> > things can

> > > come from it.

> > >

> > > Being a " work from home " mom, I have found that it really is

the

> > best way

> > > to live. I have a Ph.D. in English and certification as an

> > Opthomology tech

> > > After working in the working world, I decided to get my Ph.D.

in

> > religion

> > > (man, this sounds like i am a full time student...but this is

> > actually fall

> > > out from my nada and fada) I became an ordained minister, and

> now

> > pick and

> > > choose my " gigs " . I doing weddings, christenings...etc. It's

> > great, and as

> > > far as I am concerned....the only way to go. My only piece of

> > advice to you

> > > is....make SURE you set up " business hours " ...otherwise you

end

> up

> > working

> > > 10-12 hour days...and 7 days per week. People have a tendency

to

> > feel like,

> > > if you are home...you are " open " . Fight the urge to just do a

> > little " work "

> > > on sleepless nights or on weekends if that is what you choose.

> > (Obviously,

> > > I don't have that luxury as most of the weddings I do are on

> > Saturdays and

> > > Sundays.) At one point, I had such a hard time with it...I

> > actually had to

> > > get up, get dressed for work and pack my lunch just as I would

> do

> > if I were

> > > headed off to work. Of course, I didn't do that long...just

long

> > enough to

> > > get myself acclimated to the new schedule.

> > >

> > > Whatever you do, I'm sure you will do a great job and be great

> at

> > it. I

> > > hope it really works well for you....it has a feeling of

success

> > to me

> > > already!

> > > Kisses and Nibbles,

> > > Bunny

> > >

> > >

> > > -- Question???

> > >

> > >

> > > Does anyone out there work from home? I have played this over

> and

> > > over again in my mind. I am really thinking about doing this.

I

> > will

> > > have to set up a nice home office and dismantel my company to

> get

> > me

> > > out of a lease if I can't sublet. I am a residential appraiser

> and

> > I

> > > can do this out of my house. I can make about the same money

and

> > of

> > > course it will be a 1 woman show. A smaller work load so I can

> do

> > it

> > > myself, but no overhead or employees to pay, so the money will

> be

> > > about the same.

> > > I'll have to work out the kinks and I will wait till the busy

> > season

> > > slows down, so it won't be so overwhelming at first.

> > > Ant tips on working from home? I just keep thinking I am

killing

> > > myself to keep a business open for what? I can still do my

job.

> > > Still make good money, I will work about the same hours, but

> alot

> > > more will be spent at home and not on the road or in the

office.

> I

> > > will have to do everything myself, but I should do just fine.

> I've

> > > learned alot about that stuff in the past 2 years. I just

think

> I

> > > have learned that

> > > I can deal with people in business and the homeowners just

fine,

> > > can't deal with all the stress of having an office to run

> > > (employees). I am constantly sought out to do or to help or to

> fix

> > > at work anyways, so it would be less time and stess just to do

> it

> > > myself right in the first place. Any thoughts?

> > > I do not think after nada wanting me to take care of her and

> cater

> > > to her, and to fix everything, I am cut out to be someone's

boss.

> > > I work hard and I am very good at what I do, but the stress I

> feel

> > > from dealing with their problems, thier moaning and them

always

> > > wanting me for something just gives me flashbacks of nada. I

> keep

> > > think that if I chose to have a baby, it would be a part of

me,

> I

> > > would love it and do my best to raise the child right. I DO

NOT

> > want

> > > to raise employees! HA HA HA! Anyone else out there feel the

> same

> > or

> > > have gone through this? Even working with people, not just

being

> > the

> > > boss,

> > > I find people exhausting and stressful in the workplace. I

know

> > you

> > > still have to deal with crap on other aspects of the business.

> > There

> > > is crap not matter what job, but I just don't seem to be able

to

> > > deal with the extra bullcrap from co-workers and/or employees.

> > >

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