Guest guest Posted August 19, 2005 Report Share Posted August 19, 2005 Dorothy, What you wrote was very significant. As a KO, separating myself from by nada was very painful, and it took some time, even with learning about BP. It was counter-intinctual in one sense - as you mentioned that the relationship with your parents is supposed to last a lifetime. However, it was also a conflict of instincts, because I too was aware that my 'self' would die if I continued in a relationship with my nada. Something had to die - and I chose the sick relationship with nada instead of death to my own self. Sylvia .......> Coming to terms with the fact that your mother never really loved you > the way a mother is supposed to love you can be devastating. Cutting > off contact with the person whom you once relied on for your very > survival severs a bond that is supposed to last your entire life. It > goes against instinct. How could it NOT be painful? > > Maybe one way you could explain it to your husband is to think of it > like you would losing a physical part of yourself, say a leg. If your > leg is rotting with gangrene, you need to have it amputated or it will > kill you--but it's still your leg! You lose something either way, but > you lose more if you keep it: you lose your life. > > All the best to you. > > Dorothy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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