husband needs silicone breast implant support group

[Guest guest]

I was forwarded to your group in hopes of finding an online support

group

that my husband could use to talk to other men about their mutual

situations as care-givers for their wives. I had reconstruction in

the late 80's after a double mastectomy. I fell ill almost immediately

with Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia and many others - but the worst has

been syncope (fainting.) My husband has seen me through all of this,

but now I would like for him to have someone who can understand the

kinds of things he struggles with everyday. If there is anyone out

there willing to share their thoughts and feelings (preferrably

another husband, but doesn't have to be. I would be very grateful.

Thanks, and Hugs

[Guest guest]

Betty,

I just read your post to my fiance' and he's not likely to get

involved in a support group or do any chatting but he definitely

understands what we're dealing with. Like I just said to him, I'm

sure he must get tired of listening to me whine and complain about

how miserable I feel and how much I hurt but luckily for me, he's

wonderful about it and puts up with it. I feel guilty sometimes for

complaining so much and if I say to him " I'm sorry, I know you must

be sick of hearing this " , he will say " yea I guess I am " but he

kinda has his own way of making me feel better, by just letting me

whine and not telling me to shut up I know he believes me when I

say I hurt and today has been quite a test for both of us because

we've been moving all day and we're both hurting all over. Of

course, we've got the computer hooked up already but there are a lot

of other things left to do that probably should've been done first.

He's working on putting together his new computer desk now so he can

get his computer set up. We're both Pogo game addicts...that's our

way of unwinding most of the time. We'll have a lot more to keep us

busy now though because we bought an old house that needs a lot of

work. I'll write more to you another time, when I'm not quite so

exhausted, and tell you my story with implants. For now, I'll just

say this...I was born with a birth defect (Poland's Syndrome..you

can look it up and you'll have a better idea what I'm dealing with)

and I've been through at least 30 surgeries in the last 25 years.

I'm 45 and on SS Disability, with fibromyalgia and probably more

that just hasn't been diagnosed yet. I'm hurting so bad right now

that I need to curl up with my heating pad and try to get some

relief after all the work I've done today. I'm hoping I'll be able

to move tomorrow so I can get a little more done but at least I know

I have to do whatever I can't handle. Thank God for good

men! It took me a long time to find one and it's frustrating that

I'm not healthy enough to enjoy life the way I should be able to

with him. So for now, tell your hubby that I have a man here who

can relate and I guess you'll just have to communicate through me.

Good night for now. Take care. Dianne in PA

[Guest guest]

Hi Betty

I am sorry to hear of another woman who has had a masectomy only to

get sick from their reconstruction. That makes me so sad. You

didn't say if you ever had your implants out? Did you? I certainly

hope so. You will find lots of good advice here on ways to detox

and to help regain your health back. We don't have a men's support

group, but he might just like reading the posts on this group. It

might give him more insight into the symptoms and problems that

women sick from implants contend with.

Hugs,kathy

--- In , " Betty_Schnur " <bschnur@e...>

wrote:

>

> I was forwarded to your group in hopes of finding an online support

> group

> that my husband could use to talk to other men about their mutual

> situations as care-givers for their wives. I had reconstruction in

> the late 80's after a double mastectomy. I fell ill almost

immediately

> with Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia and many others - but the worst

has

> been syncope (fainting.) My husband has seen me through all of

this,

> but now I would like for him to have someone who can understand the

> kinds of things he struggles with everyday. If there is anyone out

> there willing to share their thoughts and feelings (preferrably

> another husband, but doesn't have to be. I would be very grateful.

>

> Thanks, and Hugs

>