Guest guest Posted April 23, 2006 Report Share Posted April 23, 2006 Kerrie, Sorry to hear about this. You're not alone. I keep praying and meditating when things like this happen. I've said one for you. Keep coming back. One Non-BP Recovering Man --- Kerrie wrote: > Hi guys. I found out Friday that one of my friends killed themselves > on April 10th. I'm a bit sad about it and just having a difficult > time processing two suicides in one months time period. She was not > borderline or related. Her dad was an alcoholic and I think that > really screwed her up- she's was super codependant and such. But > she's had a lot of problems these past few years and I think her > physical pain took a major toll on her outlook for life. I really and > truly believe she was not in her right state of mind and she said as > much in a few emails. I wish I could've picked up the warning > signals. It seems clear in retrospect, but I also think people who > are genuinely going to do it don't give off as many as say a > hystrionic bp whose saying suicidal things just for effect. > > I'm sad. If you're a prayerful person, please pray for me. It just > sucks seeing two people throw their lives away in a month's time > period. One thing this has taught me is that childhood trauma > definitely can carry over long into adulthood and that everyone is > responsible for getting the help they need- therapy, etc- and trying > to get over these demons from the past. That in the end, life is a > gift, but we have to open that gift- not settle on the pretty > wrapping on the outside- to truly delve into the soul and try to heal > the wounds and see the real beauty beneath. I am sad though and I > think I'm fighting depression now. I really need to get back to my T > soon. > Kerrie > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2006 Report Share Posted April 23, 2006 Dear Kerrie, I'm so very sorry to hear of this. I never know what to say to comfort people dealing with grief (perhaps because I've not seen many examples...) I just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you. I really am, and hope you the best as you process this and try to make sense of it all. It sounds like you are already in a very wise place. To understand that, if we are willing to truly face these things and work through them, that progress IS possible. But that it's a door only we can walk through. Maybe this would be a good time to remind you of the subject we were posting on a few months ago--that when it rains, it pours, doesn't necessarily mean the universe is singling you out (or your loved ones) in particular for pain or 'bad luck.' The smoke will clear and you'll be able to see this better soon. Just remember that today is only today, and you needn't live out the pain for the entire past, present and future all at once. Take care Charlie > > Hi guys. I found out Friday that one of my friends killed themselves > on April 10th. I'm a bit sad about it and just having a difficult > time processing two suicides in one months time period. She was not > borderline or related. Her dad was an alcoholic and I think that > really screwed her up- she's was super codependant and such. But > she's had a lot of problems these past few years and I think her > physical pain took a major toll on her outlook for life. I really and > truly believe she was not in her right state of mind and she said as > much in a few emails. I wish I could've picked up the warning > signals. It seems clear in retrospect, but I also think people who > are genuinely going to do it don't give off as many as say a > hystrionic bp whose saying suicidal things just for effect. > > I'm sad. If you're a prayerful person, please pray for me. It just > sucks seeing two people throw their lives away in a month's time > period. One thing this has taught me is that childhood trauma > definitely can carry over long into adulthood and that everyone is > responsible for getting the help they need- therapy, etc- and trying > to get over these demons from the past. That in the end, life is a > gift, but we have to open that gift- not settle on the pretty > wrapping on the outside- to truly delve into the soul and try to heal > the wounds and see the real beauty beneath. I am sad though and I > think I'm fighting depression now. I really need to get back to my T > soon. > Kerrie > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2006 Report Share Posted April 23, 2006 Kerry, I'm sorry you have to go through this again. I can certainly understand how you'd be feeling down right now and would surely feel the same in your place. I am glad to hear that you are in such a strong place--realizing that your well-being is your responsability and being willing to fight depression. From all I've read here, you seem like a very strong and insightful person with a loving and supportive family. I'm sure you'll get through this although I'm sorry you have to. I'll be thinking of you, so let us know how you're doing. Trish > > Hi guys. I found out Friday that one of my friends killed themselves > on April 10th. I'm a bit sad about it and just having a difficult > time processing two suicides in one months time period. She was not > borderline or related. Her dad was an alcoholic and I think that > really screwed her up- she's was super codependant and such. But > she's had a lot of problems these past few years and I think her > physical pain took a major toll on her outlook for life. I really and > truly believe she was not in her right state of mind and she said as > much in a few emails. I wish I could've picked up the warning > signals. It seems clear in retrospect, but I also think people who > are genuinely going to do it don't give off as many as say a > hystrionic bp whose saying suicidal things just for effect. > > I'm sad. If you're a prayerful person, please pray for me. It just > sucks seeing two people throw their lives away in a month's time > period. One thing this has taught me is that childhood trauma > definitely can carry over long into adulthood and that everyone is > responsible for getting the help they need- therapy, etc- and trying > to get over these demons from the past. That in the end, life is a > gift, but we have to open that gift- not settle on the pretty > wrapping on the outside- to truly delve into the soul and try to heal > the wounds and see the real beauty beneath. I am sad though and I > think I'm fighting depression now. I really need to get back to my T > soon. > Kerrie > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2006 Report Share Posted April 23, 2006 HI Kerrie, I can't tell you that I understand what you're going through but know that my heart is saddened for you. I have also said a prayer for you and your friend's family for comfort and peace and will continue to do so. Thank you for sharing with us. --- Kerrie wrote: > Hi guys. I found out Friday that one of my friends > killed themselves > on April 10th. I'm a bit sad about it and just > having a difficult > time processing two suicides in one months time > period. She was not > borderline or related. Her dad was an alcoholic and > I think that > really screwed her up- she's was super codependant > and such. But > she's had a lot of problems these past few years and > I think her > physical pain took a major toll on her outlook for > life. I really and > truly believe she was not in her right state of mind > and she said as > much in a few emails. I wish I could've picked up > the warning > signals. It seems clear in retrospect, but I also > think people who > are genuinely going to do it don't give off as many > as say a > hystrionic bp whose saying suicidal things just for > effect. > > I'm sad. If you're a prayerful person, please pray > for me. It just > sucks seeing two people throw their lives away in a > month's time > period. One thing this has taught me is that > childhood trauma > definitely can carry over long into adulthood and > that everyone is > responsible for getting the help they need- therapy, > etc- and trying > to get over these demons from the past. That in the > end, life is a > gift, but we have to open that gift- not settle on > the pretty > wrapping on the outside- to truly delve into the > soul and try to heal > the wounds and see the real beauty beneath. I am sad > though and I > think I'm fighting depression now. I really need to > get back to my T > soon. > Kerrie > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2006 Report Share Posted April 24, 2006 Hi Kerrie, I will put you on my prayer list... ((( hugs ))) twin.less Kerrie wrote: Hi guys. I found out Friday that one of my friends killed themselves on April 10th. I'm a bit sad about it and just having a difficult time processing two suicides in one months time period. She was not borderline or related. Her dad was an alcoholic and I think that really screwed her up- she's was super codependant and such. But she's had a lot of problems these past few years and I think her physical pain took a major toll on her outlook for life. I really and truly believe she was not in her right state of mind and she said as much in a few emails. I wish I could've picked up the warning signals. It seems clear in retrospect, but I also think people who are genuinely going to do it don't give off as many as say a hystrionic bp whose saying suicidal things just for effect. I'm sad. If you're a prayerful person, please pray for me. It just sucks seeing two people throw their lives away in a month's time period. One thing this has taught me is that childhood trauma definitely can carry over long into adulthood and that everyone is responsible for getting the help they need- therapy, etc- and trying to get over these demons from the past. That in the end, life is a gift, but we have to open that gift- not settle on the pretty wrapping on the outside- to truly delve into the soul and try to heal the wounds and see the real beauty beneath. I am sad though and I think I'm fighting depression now. I really need to get back to my T soon. Kerrie Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at @.... SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON THE GROUP. To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35-SHELL () for your copy. We also refer to “Understanding the Borderline Mother” (Lawson) and “Surviving the Borderline Parent,” (Roth) which you can find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community! From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE and the SWOE Workbook. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2006 Report Share Posted April 24, 2006 Thanks so much ! > > > Hi guys. I found out Friday that one of my friends > > killed themselves > > on April 10th. I'm a bit sad about it and just > > having a difficult > > time processing two suicides in one months time > > period. She was not > > borderline or related. Her dad was an alcoholic and > > I think that > > really screwed her up- she's was super codependant > > and such. But > > she's had a lot of problems these past few years and > > I think her > > physical pain took a major toll on her outlook for > > life. I really and > > truly believe she was not in her right state of mind > > and she said as > > much in a few emails. I wish I could've picked up > > the warning > > signals. It seems clear in retrospect, but I also > > think people who > > are genuinely going to do it don't give off as many > > as say a > > hystrionic bp whose saying suicidal things just for > > effect. > > > > I'm sad. If you're a prayerful person, please pray > > for me. It just > > sucks seeing two people throw their lives away in a > > month's time > > period. One thing this has taught me is that > > childhood trauma > > definitely can carry over long into adulthood and > > that everyone is > > responsible for getting the help they need- therapy, > > etc- and trying > > to get over these demons from the past. That in the > > end, life is a > > gift, but we have to open that gift- not settle on > > the pretty > > wrapping on the outside- to truly delve into the > > soul and try to heal > > the wounds and see the real beauty beneath. I am sad > > though and I > > think I'm fighting depression now. I really need to > > get back to my T > > soon. > > Kerrie > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2006 Report Share Posted April 25, 2006 Kerrie, I'm so sorry. I'm sending many good thoughts your way and for the spirit of your friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2006 Report Share Posted April 26, 2006 Kerrie, I saw your post the other day about another suicide--how tragic and sad! I said a little prayer for you and for your friend and her family right then--but I don't think I actually posted you at that time to let you know: I'm sorry, and am thinking good thoughts for you. Be well, Flea --------------------------------- Blab-away for as little as 1¢/min. Make PC-to-Phone Calls using Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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