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Sorry about the empty post just before this one.

The book Surviving a Borderline Parent is a sort of work book with

thoughtful assignments to do. I worked through it too. It was funny

because I thought when I came to the chapter on Anger that I didn't

need it because I didn't have any anger. But I ploughed ahead anyway.

What a surprise. I had been in so much denial about my own anger. I

don't know what I thought it was. I figured I was just a terrible

person who couldn't love her own mother. After I addressed the anger

and did the exercises there I began to slowly get over some of the

feelings I had. Of course, I will never forget them, but they don't

seem as intense as before and I am able to feel some empathy for what

my mother's reality must be like. She is so sick. Her paranoia and

negative take on EVERYTHING keeps her depressed and unhappy. She is

very insecure and truly does think everyone will abandon her, even

though the facts of our involvement in her life belie that. Anyway

that is one more book I value, have studied and reread occasionally.

It has helped me a lot too. Dee