Guest guest Posted July 28, 2004 Report Share Posted July 28, 2004 Replace instead of add. Or better yet, just HIIT your run. Do wind sprints. That's what you will be doing refereeing anyway, so no better training for it than HIIT! Jen B. > I have to get ready for soccer refereeing. Can I add a run or 2 along > with my HIIT or would that hurt me?? > > Jack Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2004 Report Share Posted July 28, 2004 Thats a GREAT suggestion!! Thanks Jen B. Jack > > I have to get ready for soccer refereeing. Can I add a run or 2 > along > > with my HIIT or would that hurt me?? > > > > Jack Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2006 Report Share Posted June 3, 2006 Sassy, I hear some of the same hopelessness in your post that I felt about 6 months ago. At that time, the self-esteem issue seemed huge, looming and unsurmountable. I suppose that I began to make positive steps to improving my self esteem about 6 years ago though. The major contributions to me feeling better about myself were 1. choosing to follow my own interests, 2. accepting my physical appearance 3. loosing weight(which I did better at after I accepted myself) 4. learning about organization(slowly but surely) 5. going to therapy to help me be more assertive and stop bashing myself. There are more things than that even--it is almost ridiculous what I've done in the period of 6 years, but I only was able to do that by taking small steps here and there to work towards what I wanted for myself. For instance, when I was still overweight, it made me feel a lot better just to be able to tell myself, " well, that's ok if I'm overweight, at least I'm eating pretty well now and exercising. " It's as if for me, just knowing that I'm taking steps to resolve a situation that has me self-esteem low is an affirming action. Just the fact that I care enough to do something makes me feel better in the short-term. Good luck to you. I can completely empathize with how huge a task it all seems at the beginning. Another thing to look out for that I remember doing a lot(and still sometimes do) is bashing myself for having a low self esteem--Hah! That's productive. Be careful that your kind to yourself as you think of ways to resolve your concerns with self-esteem. It helps me to think of how I'd treat a friend or a child that was feeling that way. . . Trish > > I've got a question for you guys. How do you go about healing a > wrecked self-esteem? I am reading, and reading on BPD...but I was > wondering if any of you have any good tips for healing the damage that > has been done to me by my nada? I have always been very non- > confrontational to the point of having a hard time speaking up no > matter what the problem. When I get angry, I just cry. I think I > said before, that I've kind-of fulfilled my nada's prediction of me > being a lazy woman who is incapable of doing anything. I have let > myself go! I've been married for almost 13 years now to a very fit > and attractive military man. He is great, but no matter what I am > still insecure and overweight, and my house is a mess. The best I can > see it, from a slightly distanced perspective, is it's easier to hate > oneself when you are fat and living in a chaotic mess. My mother was > very controlling and narcissistic. Everything is about her, and I now > know that is a trait of BPD. Everything I did, she went behind me and > did again. Nothing I ever did was good enough. I'm just wondering > how you build up a self-esteem that has been destroyed by 30 years of > my mother's abuse? > Sassy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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