Does Constant Hope Make Things WORSE?

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Hi there:

A day or two ago (or was it yesterday?) I asked you if hope helped you get

through this. I got some " yes " responses and some " no's. " Then I also

received " hope has killed my soul, " and I realized I should have known

better and I remembered why I always ask people for their input.

I also believe that hope can be misplaced when you feel abused and your BP

doesn't want to get better (because everything is " all your fault, " of

course). These can be in unchosen relationships as well as chosen. I don't

believe that blind hope should keep people in unhealthy situations as they

wait for the light bulb to go over someone's head.

Whatever you decide to do, however, there can be hope for YOU-perhaps a time

when you can envision yourself more skilled at the types of techniques I

talk about in SWOE, or of finding the right treatment when your BP DOES want

help, of having a life again, of loving again, of taking joy in the everyday

things..maybe overcoming a BP parent. I should have been specific.

I would really appreciate your thoughts. Talking about hope can be a

dangerous thing if it's interpreted in the wrong way?

And, if you needed to, how did you go from hope to accepting reality the way

it is? (acceptance of the situation the way it is).

PLEASE ANSWER TO ME AT RandiBPD@....

Randi Kreger

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