Re: Confusion

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Lowry wrote:

<< I do think confusion can set it very easily if we discuss things from

other lists, I don't mean anyone is divulging names or personal info but

I think that commenting on things that have happened on other groups

during discussions here, can be confusing to listers on this board.

Maybe I'm the only one who gets confused about this.

Comments ? >>

Honestly? I don't think it's a problem if people actually read the

posts rather than merely skim them.

I was very clear in saying that my experience took place in another

group. I don't know how to state it any more plainly. Do you have any

suggestions?

FWIW, not everyone was confused.

Best,

~CJ

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" The reason so many people misunderstand so many issues is not that

these issues are so complex, but that people do not want a factual or

analytical explanation that leaves them emotionally unsatisfied. They

want villains to hate and heroes to cheer -- and they don't want

explanations that do not give them that. " ~~ Sowell

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HI C.J.

I realize I was confused but not everyone was confused. It was not meant as a criticism , just an observation as I saw it.

I do read, i don't skim but I did get confused

Cheers

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To: aspires-relationships Sent: Thu, June 10, 2010 10:19:16 PMSubject: Re: Confusion

Lowry wrote:<< I do think confusion can set it very easily if we discuss things from other lists, I don't mean anyone is divulging names or personal info but I think that commenting on things that have happened on other groups during discussions here, can be confusing to listers on this board.Maybe I'm the only one who gets confused about this.Comments ? >>Honestly? I don't think it's a problem if people actually read the posts rather than merely skim them.I was very clear in saying that my experience took place in another group. I don't know how to state it any more plainly. Do you have any suggestions?FWIW, not everyone was confused.Best,~CJ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~"The reason so many people misunderstand so many issues is not that these issues are so complex, but that people do not want a factual or analytical

explanation that leaves them emotionally unsatisfied. They want villains to hate and heroes to cheer -- and they don't want explanations that do not give them that." ~~ Sowell

[Guest guest]

Hi CJ,

I know what means in the sense that there is a lot of stuff flying back

and forth on this list. As a moderator I try to read as many posts as I can, but

it is not possible to read them all, even tho I'm not employed at the moment.

When there are contentious issues I go back through the archives as Yahoo does a

decent job of threading them, but even then, it's a LOT of reading.

When you talked about your difficulties in another group, I didn't pick up on

that fact right away (even though you said so .. I think the story was spread

over more than one post) and you wanna believe I was checking the archives to

make sure whatever it is didn't happen here. That took half an hour to read all

the various threads and get it all straight in my own mind.

On this board, as in real life, a lot of busy people can only skim. I used to be

astounded by that ... in real life. I'd be thinking OMG, don't they LISTEN? But

that's how it is ... lots of folks are miracle workers as it is, doing all they

do, so I've learned that it's really important to be clear in my meanings and

try to leave out anything that could be confusing or construed as sarcasm, even

if I don't mean it as such.

Even then, sometimes I fail... and maybe it has nothing to do with my own AS,

it's just like that " telephone " game ... we did that in a class I took earlier

this year, and holy smokes, by the time the message gets to the 15th person,

it's completely different!

- Helen

>

> << I do think confusion can set it very easily if we discuss things from

> other lists, I don't mean anyone is divulging names or personal info but

> I think that commenting on things that have happened on other groups

> during discussions here, can be confusing to listers on this board.

> Maybe I'm the only one who gets confused about this.

> Comments ? >>

>

>

> Honestly? I don't think it's a problem if people actually read the

> posts rather than merely skim them.

>

> I was very clear in saying that my experience took place in another

> group. I don't know how to state it any more plainly. Do you have any

> suggestions?

>

> FWIW, not everyone was confused.

>

> Best,

> ~CJ

>

>

> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

>

> " The reason so many people misunderstand so many issues is not that

> these issues are so complex, but that people do not want a factual or

> analytical explanation that leaves them emotionally unsatisfied. They

> want villains to hate and heroes to cheer -- and they don't want

> explanations that do not give them that. " ~~ Sowell

>

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hfoisyca wrote:

<< On this board, as in real life, a lot of busy people can only skim. I

used to be astounded by that ... in real life. I'd be thinking OMG,

don't they LISTEN? But that's how it is ... lots of folks are miracle

workers as it is, doing all they do, so I've learned that it's really

important to be clear in my meanings and try to leave out anything that

could be confusing or construed as sarcasm, even if I don't mean it as

such. >>

Oh, I totally understand what you're saying. I'm not taking issue with

that at all.

I guess that I'm just from the school of thought that says, " If I don't

have the time to read, I sure don't have the time to respond

intelligently or in context. "

Just me too....

Best,

~CJ