Guest guest Posted February 19, 2006 Report Share Posted February 19, 2006 Oh Charlie! I know how that feels! Nada used to have huge family get togethers but never invite me or my children. We would find out about these gatherings and then she'd tell me that we were not invited because no one could get along with me...and then I'd find out later that she would tell the rest of the family that I thought I was too good for them... This began to back fire on her tho. I would get calls and it would get out what she had done... Big hugs to you! I know how this feels! charlottehoneychurch wrote: Sorry to double-post on this; it's got me tied up, is all. Recent events have to do with the 'secrets' I keep from my family--that I have boundaries w/nada, that the B* & ^ has bpd and I must protect myself. None of the family knows this. Nada and her cronies keep setting it up so that if I want to attend family events, I have no choice but to somehow violate those rules. It looks to my family like I do not care about them! And there would be no way to explain myself except my saying 'I don't have dinner alone w/nada' 'I don't ride in a car alone w/nada' etc. It is tearing me up! I hate her so much! I know she is doing this on purpose, to help keep me cast as the black sheep! sad Charlie Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at @.... SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON THE GROUP. To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35-SHELL () for your copy. We also refer to “Understanding the Borderline Mother” (Lawson) and “Surviving the Borderline Parent,” (Roth) which you can find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community! From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE and the SWOE Workbook. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 19, 2006 Report Share Posted February 19, 2006 Oh Charlie! Thanks for posting. I JUST got the mail and in it was an invitation to a family reunion nada is planning. I was feeling crazy - actually starting to rehearse in my head how my next therapy appoint should start. " Am I crazy? Just getting an invitation to a family reunion from her makes me feel physically ill. Why? I must be nuts! " Then I read your post and realized that I have every right to feel ill. I am trapped. My last contact with her was a letter saying that until she apologizes for treating me and my husband so rudely, I do not want to be around her or to have her around my children. If I go, I am breaking that - um - promise - um - I'm not sure what to call it. If I don't go, it give her a ton of fodder to tell my extended family how awful I am. Thanks for posting. I hope you can come to a resolution. a little more Sorry to double-post on this; it's got me tied up, is all. Recent events have to do with the 'secrets' I keep from my family--that I have boundaries w/nada, that the B* & ^ has bpd and I must protect myself. None of the family knows this. Nada and her cronies keep setting it up so that if I want to attend family events, I have no choice but to somehow violate those rules. It looks to my family like I do not care about them! And there would be no way to explain myself except my saying 'I don't have dinner alone w/nada' 'I don't ride in a car alone w/nada' etc. It is tearing me up! I hate her so much! I know she is doing this on purpose, to help keep me cast as the black sheep! sad Charlie Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at @.... SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON THE GROUP. To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35-SHELL () for your copy. We also refer to “Understanding the Borderline Mother” (Lawson) and “Surviving the Borderline Parent,” (Roth) which you can find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community! From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE and the SWOE Workbook. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 19, 2006 Report Share Posted February 19, 2006 No thank YOU, and , too. I felt awful for having a panic reaction to one of nada's family 'invitations'. Solidarity, commonality.... your post helps me see we all have strong reactions when nadas try to set us up this way. Nada's don't just invite their daughters; it is a call to battle, and the battle is for our own very existense. And the fact that anyone who doesn't know the whole story would see that as an extreme exaggerration ...why, that is extremely helpful to nada! Thanks bks I am still in the initial panic stage on this and soothing emails are comforting. Your nada knows what she's doing. So, should you lie? Should you make sure one or two key relatives know that you are 'sick' and can't make the reunion? Maybe there's some way you can stretch a truth, so you don't have to lie. For one major holiday, I told my relatives it wasn't good for my health to make a long trip. That WAS really true, it's just that it wasn't good for my mental health more than physical. At any rate, the people I told didn't bother to spread it around so much. The nada cronies will only believe nada, and the sympathetic ones don't need to be told anyway, I guess. It all still is a horrible feeling. > > Oh Charlie! > > Thanks for posting. I JUST got the mail and in it was an invitation to a > family reunion nada is planning. I was feeling crazy - actually starting to > rehearse in my head how my next therapy appoint should start. " Am I crazy? > Just getting an invitation to a family reunion from her makes me feel > physically ill. Why? I must be nuts! " Then I read your post and realized > that I have every right to feel ill. I am trapped. My last contact with > her was a letter saying that until she apologizes for treating me and my > husband so rudely, I do not want to be around her or to have her around my > children. If I go, I am breaking that - um - promise - um - I'm not sure > what to call it. If I don't go, it give her a ton of fodder to tell my > extended family how awful I am. > > Thanks for posting. I hope you can come to a resolution. > a little more > > > Sorry to double-post on this; it's got me tied up, is all. Recent > events have to do with the 'secrets' I keep from my family--that I > have boundaries w/nada, that the B* & ^ has bpd and I must protect > myself. None of the family knows this. Nada and her cronies keep > setting it up so that if I want to attend family events, I have no > choice but to somehow violate those rules. It looks to my family like > I do not care about them! And there would be no way to explain myself > except my saying 'I don't have dinner alone w/nada' 'I don't ride in a > car alone w/nada' etc. It is tearing me up! I hate her so much! I > know she is doing this on purpose, to help keep me cast as the black > sheep! > > sad Charlie > > > > > > > Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at > @... SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON > THE GROUP. > > To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35- SHELL > () for your copy. We also refer to " Understanding the Borderline > Mother " (Lawson) and " Surviving the Borderline Parent, " (Roth) which you can > find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community! > > From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE > and the SWOE Workbook. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2009 Report Share Posted January 5, 2009 At my transplant center, parking is free in the hospital parking lot as long as you have an appointment. When I was in the hospital, my husband didn't have to pay for parking because he spent nights with me, and they gave him a visitor's pass that lasted a few days at a time, and when it ran out, he just had to renew it, and he had to wear it after visiting hours. At my transplant clinic, there are computers that can be used right in the clinic's waiting room. Penny > > Some hospitals have libraries inside of them with a public use > computer. Usually, they allow you on there for 15 minutes. > You may have to sign to use it. Here, you would be able to save alot of > money and still keep people informed of how your loved one is doing. > I suggest that you place the people you want to receive an email > into a group...that way you just have to post the group in the > To: section of your email and it will go to everyone you listed at > once. We never owned a lap top computer. In many sections of the > hospital, cell phone use was not to be used. > > Also, if you have to pay alot for parking at these hospitals. See > if they offer books of discount tags for the hospital parking lots. > Ours did. With the coupon you can stay the whole day for about 4 > dollars, where.. without the coupon it would cost you about 10 to 25 > dollars a day. Where we were at, it is best to park in the > hospital parking lots because they have their own security than > out on the streets. They patrol these parking lots constantly. > We would buy a book of coupons from the cashier department in the > hospital. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2009 Report Share Posted January 5, 2009 We have to pay for that here in Dalllas. Lyncia In life family and friends take us on all kinds of adventures, God helps us choose our path....Enjoy your journey! Subject: Re: A little more To: livercirrhosissupport Date: Monday, January 5, 2009, 9:37 PM At my transplant center, parking is free in the hospital parking lot as long as you have an appointment. When I was in the hospital, my husband didn't have to pay for parking because he spent nights with me, and they gave him a visitor's pass that lasted a few days at a time, and when it ran out, he just had to renew it, and he had to wear it after visiting hours. At my transplant clinic, there are computers that can be used right in the clinic's waiting room. Penny > > Some hospitals have libraries inside of them with a public use > computer. Usually, they allow you on there for 15 minutes. > You may have to sign to use it. Here, you would be able to save alot of > money and still keep people informed of how your loved one is doing. > I suggest that you place the people you want to receive an email > into a group...that way you just have to post the group in the > To: section of your email and it will go to everyone you listed at > once. We never owned a lap top computer. In many sections of the > hospital, cell phone use was not to be used. > > Also, if you have to pay alot for parking at these hospitals. See > if they offer books of discount tags for the hospital parking lots. > Ours did. With the coupon you can stay the whole day for about 4 > dollars, where.. without the coupon it would cost you about 10 to 25 > dollars a day. Where we were at, it is best to park in the > hospital parking lots because they have their own security than > out on the streets. They patrol these parking lots constantly. > We would buy a book of coupons from the cashier department in the > hospital. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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