My First Counseling Session

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Hey guys - I just HAD to share this with you. Yesterday I had my first session

with a therapist. She's very versed in AS, depression, anxiety, OCD, eating

disorders and racial/military issues. I was just down right scared of what she'd

be like; past experinces have often left me wanting.

At the end of our session she even said that we need to earn each other's trust,

that I should let her know if she does or says something that I don't like or

would like her to do. She said I deserve the best treatment possible including

finding someone else if I feel she can't help me. I could not believe it! No

professional has ever said that to me before. There's little doubt that she's

capable to help me, but I'll honestly hold final judgement until the 3rd visit

like she suggested. I cried for joy when I left. Finally some happy tears!!!

It felt so good to talk about stuff. All we went through was my past up till my

early 20's. Lots of yucky stuff. Odd thing is that I thought most of those

things didn't still effect me. I've been in couseling before (even in-patient

for the eating disorder - anorexia). But I kept welling up as if it were

yesterday. Also strangely enough, I went in without a gimp (when my walking is

messed up) and no movements, but by the evening time they were both back! I was

so emotionally drained I had to take nap when I got home and I rarely nap! Why

would I convert now, I'm exposing stuff not hiding it. Oh well. It just goes to

show me how deep and serious this all is.

Anyway I'm really stoked about FINALLY starting counseling and taking care of

myself! This feels really, really good. It's going to be really painful, I can

tell; in the end I thinks me will be free of alot of weighty junk! Able to see

clearly now.....

Yeahhh and woooohhhhhhoooooo for me!!!

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,

I am so glad for you, that first of all you took the huge step

of finding a counselor and taking care of YOU. That’s something we all say, but

few of us do. I certainly need one …. But anyway, it is such a blessing that

she “gets” all those issues – many don’t. This is fantastic! It will be a hard

journey, but I know that you will do it! Whooohooo times two!

- Helen

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Sent: Thursday, June 10, 2010 10:50

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Subject: My First Counseling Session

Hey guys - I just HAD to share this with you.

Yesterday I had my first session with a therapist. She's very versed in AS,

depression, anxiety, OCD, eating disorders and racial/military issues. I was

just down right scared of what she'd be like; past experinces have often left

me wanting.

At the end of our session she even said that we need to earn each other's

trust, that I should let her know if she does or says something that I don't

like or would like her to do. She said I deserve the best treatment possible

including finding someone else if I feel she can't help me. I could not believe

it! No professional has ever said that to me before. There's little doubt that

she's capable to help me, but I'll honestly hold final judgement until the 3rd

visit like she suggested. I cried for joy when I left. Finally some happy

tears!!!

It felt so good to talk about stuff. All we went through was my past up till my

early 20's. Lots of yucky stuff. Odd thing is that I thought most of those

things didn't still effect me. I've been in couseling before (even in-patient

for the eating disorder - anorexia). But I kept welling up as if it were

yesterday. Also strangely enough, I went in without a gimp (when my walking is

messed up) and no movements, but by the evening time they were both back! I was

so emotionally drained I had to take nap when I got home and I rarely nap! Why

would I convert now, I'm exposing stuff not hiding it. Oh well. It just goes to

show me how deep and serious this all is.

Anyway I'm really stoked about FINALLY starting counseling and taking care of

myself! This feels really, really good. It's going to be really painful, I can

tell; in the end I thinks me will be free of alot of weighty junk! Able to see

clearly now.....

Yeahhh and woooohhhhhhoooooo for me!!!

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>

> Anyway I'm really stoked about FINALLY starting counseling and taking care of

myself! This feels really, really good. It's going to be really painful, I can

tell; in the end I thinks me will be free of alot of weighty junk! Able to see

clearly now.....

>

> Yeahhh and woooohhhhhhoooooo for me!!!

Hooray for you too!

Finding a counselor who gets it is so wonderful ... it's like having to dig a

hole and having someone hand you a shovel.

And shovel is right ... you've got a pile of history to dig through, and it's

going to be messy. It almost has to be -- you have ## years of issues to get

through in a lot less than ## years of time! But the right therapist will guide

you through, and you'll emerge from each session a stronger person.

--Liz

with a great therapist now

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To: aspires-relationships Sent: Thu, June 10, 2010 12:50:21 PMSubject: My First Counseling Session

Hey guys - I just HAD to share this with you. Yesterday I had my first session with a therapist. She's very versed in AS, depression, anxiety, OCD, eating disorders and racial/military issues. I was just down right scared of what she'd be like; past experinces have often left me wanting. At the end of our session she even said that we need to earn each other's trust, that I should let her know if she does or says something that I don't like or would like her to do. She said I deserve the best treatment possible including finding someone else if I feel she can't help me. I could not believe it! No professional has ever said that to me before. There's little doubt that she's capable to help me, but I'll honestly hold final judgement until the 3rd visit like she suggested. I cried for joy when I left. Finally some happy tears!!!It felt so good to talk about stuff. All we went through was my past up till my early 20's. Lots of yucky stuff.

Odd thing is that I thought most of those things didn't still effect me. I've been in couseling before (even in-patient for the eating disorder - anorexia). But I kept welling up as if it were yesterday. Also strangely enough, I went in without a gimp (when my walking is messed up) and no movements, but by the evening time they were both back! I was so emotionally drained I had to take nap when I got home and I rarely nap! Why would I convert now, I'm exposing stuff not hiding it. Oh well. It just goes to show me how deep and serious this all is.Anyway I'm really stoked about FINALLY starting counseling and taking care of myself! This feels really, really good. It's going to be really painful, I can tell; in the end I thinks me will be free of alot of weighty junk! Able to see clearly now.....Yeahhh and woooohhhhhhoooooo for me!!!

[Guest guest]

(((((((((())))))))))))))

Been there. A dam can only hold so much for so long. Once it starts to leak, it will quickly widen that crack until the dam gives way.

Once those floodgates open on you, you may find yourself confessing to such long ago "secrets" like sneaking candy from the bowl after being told you couldn't have any. You just want everything out and you don't know which things "count" and which don't.

It has the most amazing cleansing feeling and you will feel lighter than air and more energized than you ever imagined.

Allow yourself to just go with it all. Don't try to grab anything or analyze it, justify it, defend it........just allow yourself the cleanse. Your therapist will be a better judge of choosing what to work on. Over time you will find that many things that you thought you needed to actively work on seems to just disappear and become nonissues.

Working on you will turn out to be the best thing you have ever done. So many of us have taken on way more responsibility than we should which leads to guilt and feelings of failure because the reality is that we cannot change others. You are not inadequate......you are normal. Learn to love it. (smile)

Wishing you well,

Lorelie

To: aspires-relationships From: alwaysbe3@...Date: Thu, 10 Jun 2010 16:50:21 +0000Subject: My First Counseling Session

Hey guys - I just HAD to share this with you. Yesterday I had my first session with a therapist. She's very versed in AS, depression, anxiety, OCD, eating disorders and racial/military issues. I was just down right scared of what she'd be like; past experinces have often left me wanting. At the end of our session she even said that we need to earn each other's trust, that I should let her know if she does or says something that I don't like or would like her to do. She said I deserve the best treatment possible including finding someone else if I feel she can't help me. I could not believe it! No professional has ever said that to me before. There's little doubt that she's capable to help me, but I'll honestly hold final judgement until the 3rd visit like she suggested. I cried for joy when I left. Finally some happy tears!!!It felt so good to talk about stuff. All we went through was my past up till my early 20's. Lots of yucky stuff. Odd thing is that I thought most of those things didn't still effect me. I've been in couseling before (even in-patient for the eating disorder - anorexia). But I kept welling up as if it were yesterday. Also strangely enough, I went in without a gimp (when my walking is messed up) and no movements, but by the evening time they were both back! I was so emotionally drained I had to take nap when I got home and I rarely nap! Why would I convert now, I'm exposing stuff not hiding it. Oh well. It just goes to show me how deep and serious this all is.Anyway I'm really stoked about FINALLY starting counseling and taking care of myself! This feels really, really good. It's going to be really painful, I can tell; in the end I thinks me will be free of alot of weighty junk! Able to see clearly now.....Yeahhh and woooohhhhhhoooooo for me!!!

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Geeeziers, everyone! Thanks for all the support....I feel warm cyber fuzzies!!!

Way cool!!

wrote:

> Allow yourself to just go with it all. Don't try to grab anything or analyze

it, justify it, defend it........just allow yourself the cleanse. Your therapist

will be a better judge of choosing what to work on. Over time you will find that

many things that you thought you needed to actively work on seems to just

disappear and become nonissues.

: That's interesting what you wrote here Lorelie. I always try to grab,

analyze, justify and defend all the " its " . I'll sure to NOT do that this time;

perhsps that is why some of those past things I worked on are still lurking. I

have to trust someone with it, don't I? I'm glad I have you all and my

therapist. Suddenly I don't feel so alone and odd. Thanks everyone, I really

mean that, thanks!

>

> Working on you will turn out to be the best thing you have ever done. So many

of us have taken on way more responsibility than we should which leads to guilt

and feelings of failure because the reality is that we cannot change others. You

are not inadequate......you are normal. Learn to love it. (smile)

Ha! I've tried so hard not to be " normal " but super normal - that is a person

with absolutely no needs/wants/desires. You know what? That doesn't work so

well. I am normal and it is ok to be just that (warts, scars and all). It's

taken me 45 years to realize that. When all is said and done you better bet your

sweet boopie that I'm gonna grab life by the horns and make a run for it!! First

the trenches then the showers!! Heeeheee..

Toodles for now,

PS: Yes Helen congrates for sure!!