Re: ~Mothers~

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, let me tell you a small story (maybe more than one, I get carried away!) about my mother. When I was 26 I was married to the Neanderthal Man. He drank, used drugs, and used me for a punching bag. I had 2 children (only 1 with him and that was before we were married). One afternoon he tried to run my daughter and I over with the car, with my son in the car. That was it. I walked to my parents house to have my dad help me move out. By the time we got back to my house by husband was gone, with my son, and everything in the house. Everything. Even my daughter's clothes, the cedar chest from my grandparents, all my personal effects, everything. When my mom found out she told me there was room for my daughter at her house, but not for me. No matter that I had just lost everything in the world but my daughter, she wouldn't let me stay with her until I could find a job. I didn't either. Despite her, things worked out for me and I eventually got custody of my son, but all my personal possessions are gone forever.

When I was 24 I had to have my gallbladder removed. I was a single mom with a 2 year old and a 3 month old. My mom agreed to take care of the kids while I was in the hospital - this was an open gallbladder surgery, I Have a 17" scar on my abdomen. After a week in the hospital, with her calling every night to tell me how tired she was of my kids, she took me home to my apartment. It was so hot the candle had melted on my kitchen table. I had basically no food in the house, no milk, etc. She walked in, set my son down in his car seat on the living room floor and left. I didn't drive, couldn't pick the baby up because he was too heavy and had only the food and diapers in the diaper bag. Great help she was.

When I broke my ankle and leg this summer, she didn't even call. I called to tell her and that's when I found out she was moving to Mississippi. Good riddance. I could give a she** less. I won't ever speak to her if I can help it.

Mindi

PS - I'm glad you have a good mom! Somebody deserves one!

[Guest guest]

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NEVER shut up about how great your mother is. I envy you and others like you who had great mothers. A lot of my mother's problems were not her doing. Horrible things were done to her as a child that scarred her emotionally. Things she didn't even remember until her aunt told her when Mom was in her early 60's. But, even knowing those things, she couldn't change. And the damage was already done to me. I morn that we could never have a close relationship.

I am glad you realize how precious and special your mom is. My kids' godmother, whom I met when I was in college (she worked at the university, helping disadvantaged students) fills that role for me. No matter what, she loves me and is always willing to talk to me, although it is often listening to me rant. She is always calm and caring. Pretty much all the things my mother never was for me. I will settle for that. It is more than many have.

Blessed Be

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~Mothers~

To All,

I have been reading the posts on Mothers. I just can not imagine feeling the way you all do. I don't down you for your feelings as I have no idea what any of you have went through. My Mother is my best friend. ... I guess I will shut up about how great my Mother really is I just morn for you others who don't have that relationship with yours.

Love & God Bless! /Wolf~President

[Guest guest]

Hello everyone,

I can relate to ones that do not have a good relationship with their mothers. I loved my real mom very much. But, when I was 11 she died. I felt so lost. Well, I had to go live with her sister. I had to go to a new town. I did not know that my life was going to be a living hell. She was so mentally abusive and just down right mean to me. She was never like that to her son. She was just to me. I would go into detail but it would take me awhile. I have always missed having a mother around that loved me and be there for me. The ones that do have their mothers and are close I envy you. I never got to know what it was like to have long chats with your mom about boys or just what teenagers do talk about, go shopping, be able to have a mother baby you when you are sick. What I could not have with my mom. I am making sure that I do with my daughter. I want to be there for her and show her all the love I can. I wish everyone a Happy Valentines!

NC

-- Re: ~Mothers~

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NEVER shut up about how great your mother is. I envy you and others like you who had great mothers. A lot of my mother's problems were not her doing. Horrible things were done to her as a child that scarred her emotionally. Things she didn't even remember until her aunt told her when Mom was in her early 60's. But, even knowing those things, she couldn't change. And the damage was already done to me. I morn that we could never have a close relationship.

I am glad you realize how precious and special your mom is. My kids' godmother, whom I met when I was in college (she worked at the university, helping disadvantaged students) fills that role for me. No matter what, she loves me and is always willing to talk to me, although it is often listening to me rant. She is always calm and caring. Pretty much all the things my mother never was for me. I will settle for that. It is more than many have.

Blessed Be

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~Mothers~

To All,

I have been reading the posts on Mothers. I just can not imagine feeling the way you all do. I don't down you for your feelings as I have no idea what any of you have went through. My Mother is my best friend. ... I guess I will shut up about how great my Mother really is I just morn for you others who don't have that relationship with yours.

Love & God Bless! /Wolf~President