Hi there.

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Hello,

I just joined. I see this is a group for women with saline breast

implants, which I have. I can't tell you that I have had any

physical problems whatsoever. The PS did an excellent job. The

shape is great, the look is natural, they're not overfilled, the scar

is fading. I'm about oh...6 1/2 months out, and don't regret having

gotten them.

But I would like support as to another situation. This is an

emotional one. This is one which affected me emotionally/mentally,

whatever it's called. I couldn't figure it out.

I don't know if it is or was completely me. I think it is/was the

PS. You may be suprised at my story; maybe not. Maybe some of you

have had similar experiences. The fact that my marriage has been

shaky and demanding changes of a more serious sort, and the holes

that I now know were there, could have contributed to what I

experienced.

Or, on his part, it could also be his midlife crisis, unhappy or

unfulfilling marriage. Doctors go through human crises too. But if

they can't separate it from their practice, they need help.

This PS seemed so sweet as a person. It's not his surgical

abilities. It's the fact that he seemed attracted. I was not...at

first. And I did NOT go in there looking for any crush to take

place. I think i just naturally liked the guy, there was chemistry.

But I also think he used certain charming ways that women like, and

very subtly, so as to somehow hook. Does this make sense? After the

surgery day, during which he showed genuine care, distroughtness,

attraction and struggling with it, I realised I'd developed an

attraction.

Pretty long story shorter, I pondered, prayed, asked advice from a

few trusted, objective, mature and nonjudgemental individuals. All 3

advised me to write the letter I had intended, or to talk F2F with

the guy. I sent him a letter with an explanation. He thought I was

asking him to develop a relationship. One person who read my letter

before sending said that there was no indication as to my coming on.

So, frustrated, I requested further conversation, which I was given

opportunity. I shared openly my frustration and the fact that I felt

he had crossed a line, somehow. He did do some things with eyes,

expression (longing ones), overstimulating nipples while checking for

sensitivity. This caused me a female reaction (if you know what I

mean). His looks of ecstasy were also a turn-on. I told him I

believed he was flirting.

He ended up taking it to his malpractice lawyers, which is

commendable. I am no longer his patient, rightfully so. My yearly

checkups will need be done by someone else or mammograms. But this

guy...I think he thinks he's king tut. His office made sure I got in

there for my after photos, then he would say " ta ta " . He agreed to

see me for anything BA related, but for anything else, like exams,

further surgeries, he would not do them.

He acted huffy puffy, acting as if he'd done nothing at all in the

way which I suggested. Of course! He wants to keep his job and play

behind his wife's back flirting with any attractive gal he takes

liking to, because he can.

This is one thing I dislike about some doctors. Some really are

under the impression they're above all humanity because they're

doctors, make more money, have more education. Well, do you know

this guy misdictated some information in my medical records? It was

only as to social history (where I work, my occupation, how many kids

I've breastfed). The bongo brain made 4 gross errors in my chart.

Is he a space head or what? His surgical abilities, great. His

patient/doctor relationship is shaky with regard to attractive women

or women patient's he is attracted to.

I decided that this situation didn't warrant filing a complaint,

although unawares to him, apparently, there was at least one count of

sexual misconduct according to state law. It was explained above,

and wasn't done with ill intent, just selfish intent. He wanted to

play. He reported all I'd said to malpractice, but I think he also

may have tried to project me as the one who thought all this up. I

did not. I most certainly did NOT fabricate any of this.

Dude! Go work out your problems in the right context. Bongo brain!

There are reasons we feel the way we do. Hunches can often be

correct. If we feel violated, there is usually a good reason, esp.

when we're not looking for it.

Has anyone else experienced this? That is, a plastic surgeon either

being insensitive, or flirting, attracted to you though he is a

married man and struggling with it, in midlife crisis,

overstimulating when checking nipple sensitivity, looking slightly

ecstatic when viewing your bod. Seemingly harmless? Well, if you're

married and this is your husband, it's not.

Thanks for listening.

Eleni