Re: what should I do????!!! Desperate for advise

[Guest guest]

The decision you face is heart-wrenching. I do feel for you! I wish I had sage

advice for

you, but I can only tell you my experience and how I feel about it. Your

decision is very

personal, and difficult.

I can understand your desire to have larger breasts. But, attractive does not

equate to

larger breasts. That is something we have been ingrained to believe, and it

simply is not

true. Over the years, most men I have known believe breasts are overrated -

attractive is

healthy and happy. For all the hype, I don't believe that men worth their salt

put a lot of

value on the size of breasts. Do you judge men by the size of their penis? I

sure don't.

I admit I am biased. I am leery of all implants, after my experience. I never

had saline only

implants, but I do understand they can cause problems also.

If I had it to do over again, I never would have had implants. Unfortunately, I

did not even

recognize the implants were a problem until I was very sick.

The one thing I can suggest is to think this through carefully....Surgery is

always a risk. Of

course, regardless of what you decide, you will again face surgery becasue no

implants

last forever.

--- In , " shellybroline " <shellybroline@y...>

wrote:

> Will someone pleaseeeee give their input. I am frustrated. I recently

> had the surgery with saline implants in march (3), 2005. I was really

> happy initially and have enjoyed feeling better in my clothes etc.,

> felt more confident. But, I recently have received some negative

> responses from friends...really more like judgments....which put me

> into a tail-spin initially, but ultimately has made me reevaluate my

> decision. I am suffering from " buyers remorse " . Now, after reading

> the horror stories and actually having some nights sweates and

> sleeplessness about 2 weeks ago, I am a little freaked. I am just

> worried because I am not married and do desire to be attractive. I am

> not sexually active so it's not an issue now, but to whomever my future

> husband is I want to be attractive. Is it wise to go ahead and

> explant? Will I look deformed? I am a small C now and previously was

> flat (32AA).

> Will any one be so kind to proffer some advise and moral support to

> this confused young woman!?

[Guest guest]

Thank you so much for your reply. It is tough. I don't know if I

should be proactive and reverse it based on all of this info I have

read and endure surgery again while it's still " early " or wait until

the scar tissue is much more ingrained. I wish that I had found this

website before. It is frustrating because all the research before

was this very positive spin. AHH! I almost wish someone would come

right out and say...do this or that.

thank you....

> > Will someone pleaseeeee give their input. I am frustrated. I

recently

> > had the surgery with saline implants in march (3), 2005. I was

really

> > happy initially and have enjoyed feeling better in my clothes

etc.,

> > felt more confident. But, I recently have received some negative

> > responses from friends...really more like judgments....which put

me

> > into a tail-spin initially, but ultimately has made me reevaluate

my

> > decision. I am suffering from " buyers remorse " . Now, after

reading

> > the horror stories and actually having some nights sweates and

> > sleeplessness about 2 weeks ago, I am a little freaked. I am

just

> > worried because I am not married and do desire to be attractive.

I am

> > not sexually active so it's not an issue now, but to whomever my

future

> > husband is I want to be attractive. Is it wise to go ahead and

> > explant? Will I look deformed? I am a small C now and

previously was

> > flat (32AA).

> > Will any one be so kind to proffer some advise and moral support

to

> > this confused young woman!?

[Guest guest]

I was one of the lucky ones, I found this website prior to my implant

surgery date when I was researching implant safety. After spending a day

here and reading the posts from all of these women, I quickly cancelled my

breast augmentation.

I'd say if you are sick and are showing any of the symptoms you have read

about here, get them out ASAP and minimize the illness you get from them.

It is a matter of time before the implants do have to come out because they

will not last a lifetime, ten years seems to be about the maximum for

silicone, not sure what it is for saline. There is a woman at the gym I go

to who just had her fourth surgery in nine years. Your best chance of

staying healthy is to remove them. It's a personal choice, my sister has

had her silicones for over 10 years and says she is fine. She noticed over

the weekend that one is now smaller than the other. That means one thing,

one is leaking into her chest wall. She may not be fine much longer.

Kenda

> Thank you so much for your reply. It is tough. I don't know if I

> should be proactive and reverse it based on all of this info I have

> read and endure surgery again while it's still " early " or wait until

> the scar tissue is much more ingrained. I wish that I had found this

> website before. It is frustrating because all the research before

> was this very positive spin. AHH! I almost wish someone would come

> right out and say...do this or that.

> thank you....

>

>

>>> Will someone pleaseeeee give their input. I am frustrated. I

> recently

>>> had the surgery with saline implants in march (3), 2005. I was

> really

>>> happy initially and have enjoyed feeling better in my clothes

> etc.,

>>> felt more confident. But, I recently have received some negative

>>> responses from friends...really more like judgments....which put

> me

>>> into a tail-spin initially, but ultimately has made me reevaluate

> my

>>> decision. I am suffering from " buyers remorse " . Now, after

> reading

>>> the horror stories and actually having some nights sweates and

>>> sleeplessness about 2 weeks ago, I am a little freaked. I am

> just

>>> worried because I am not married and do desire to be attractive.

> I am

>>> not sexually active so it's not an issue now, but to whomever my

> future

>>> husband is I want to be attractive. Is it wise to go ahead and

>>> explant? Will I look deformed? I am a small C now and

> previously was

>>> flat (32AA).

>>> Will any one be so kind to proffer some advise and moral support

> to

>>> this confused young woman!?

>

>

>

>

> Opinions expressed are NOT meant to take the place of advice given by licensed

> health care professionals. Consult your physician or licensed health care

> professional before commencing any medical treatment.

>

> " Do not let either the medical authorities or the politicians mislead you.

> Find out what the facts are, and make your own decisions about how to live a

> happy life and how to work for a better world. " - Linus ing, two-time

> Nobel Prize Winner (1954, Chemistry; 1963, Peace)

>

>

[Guest guest]

Kenda,

When I had my silicone implants for 10 years I thought they were fine too. Boy

was I

wrong. You are so LUCKY that you found this group, and SMART that you took the

information and ran with it.

I hope more women find this and other forums where women are discussing the

reality of

implants...and that they choose NOT to implant.

It scares me to think of all the women who will be suffering from the things I

and many

others have experienced. It is a crime -- and nobody can tell me that these

women had

'informed consent'. We know better than that!!

> >>> Will someone pleaseeeee give their input. I am frustrated. I

> > recently

> >>> had the surgery with saline implants in march (3), 2005. I was

> > really

> >>> happy initially and have enjoyed feeling better in my clothes

> > etc.,

> >>> felt more confident. But, I recently have received some negative

> >>> responses from friends...really more like judgments....which put

> > me

> >>> into a tail-spin initially, but ultimately has made me reevaluate

> > my

> >>> decision. I am suffering from " buyers remorse " . Now, after

> > reading

> >>> the horror stories and actually having some nights sweates and

> >>> sleeplessness about 2 weeks ago, I am a little freaked. I am

> > just

> >>> worried because I am not married and do desire to be attractive.

> > I am

> >>> not sexually active so it's not an issue now, but to whomever my

> > future

> >>> husband is I want to be attractive. Is it wise to go ahead and

> >>> explant? Will I look deformed? I am a small C now and

> > previously was

> >>> flat (32AA).

> >>> Will any one be so kind to proffer some advise and moral support

> > to

> >>> this confused young woman!?

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > Opinions expressed are NOT meant to take the place of advice given by

licensed

> > health care professionals. Consult your physician or licensed health care

> > professional before commencing any medical treatment.

> >

> > " Do not let either the medical authorities or the politicians mislead you.

> > Find out what the facts are, and make your own decisions about how to live a

> > happy life and how to work for a better world. " - Linus ing, two-time

> > Nobel Prize Winner (1954, Chemistry; 1963, Peace)

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi Molly,

You're right, there is no informed consent. I was told how rare problems

with implants are but one of them is NOT auto-immune problems. When I told

my plastic surgeon that I would not be implanted at a later appointment, he

asked why. I explained to him what I had learned here and that I had an

elevated ANA years ago that has been normal since and that I didn't want to

risk auto immune problems with implants. He insisted that they do not cause

problems and that he would implant any of his women family members without

hesitation.

My experience with the plastic surgeon I chose, leads me to believe that a

lot of doctors don't seem to realize the connection between implants and

disease. The statistics they receive show that auto immune problems are no

more common with implanted women than women in the general public. I really

believe some doctors believe this. My chiropractor is very health oriented

and doesn't like implants for personal reasons but never knew that the

silicone shell was problematic and causes auto-immune problems. He assumed

saline implants were totally safe. Dr. Leu, my ND, treats a lot of

implanted women and warned me of possible future problems.

Kenda

> Kenda,

> When I had my silicone implants for 10 years I thought they were fine too.

> Boy was I

> wrong. You are so LUCKY that you found this group, and SMART that you took

> the

> information and ran with it.

>

> I hope more women find this and other forums where women are discussing the

> reality of

> implants...and that they choose NOT to implant.

>

> It scares me to think of all the women who will be suffering from the things I

> and many

> others have experienced. It is a crime -- and nobody can tell me that these

> women had

> 'informed consent'. We know better than that!!

>

>

>>>>> Will someone pleaseeeee give their input. I am frustrated. I

>>> recently

>>>>> had the surgery with saline implants in march (3), 2005. I was

>>> really

>>>>> happy initially and have enjoyed feeling better in my clothes

>>> etc.,

>>>>> felt more confident. But, I recently have received some negative

>>>>> responses from friends...really more like judgments....which put

>>> me

>>>>> into a tail-spin initially, but ultimately has made me reevaluate

>>> my

>>>>> decision. I am suffering from " buyers remorse " . Now, after

>>> reading

>>>>> the horror stories and actually having some nights sweates and

>>>>> sleeplessness about 2 weeks ago, I am a little freaked. I am

>>> just

>>>>> worried because I am not married and do desire to be attractive.

>>> I am

>>>>> not sexually active so it's not an issue now, but to whomever my

>>> future

>>>>> husband is I want to be attractive. Is it wise to go ahead and

>>>>> explant? Will I look deformed? I am a small C now and

>>> previously was

>>>>> flat (32AA).

>>>>> Will any one be so kind to proffer some advise and moral support

>>> to

>>>>> this confused young woman!?

>>>

>>>

>>>

>>>

>>> Opinions expressed are NOT meant to take the place of advice given by

>>> licensed

>>> health care professionals. Consult your physician or licensed health care

>>> professional before commencing any medical treatment.

>>>

>>> " Do not let either the medical authorities or the politicians mislead you.

>>> Find out what the facts are, and make your own decisions about how to live a

>>> happy life and how to work for a better world. " - Linus ing, two-time

>>> Nobel Prize Winner (1954, Chemistry; 1963, Peace)

>>>

>>>

[Guest guest]

,

We're here so women can find out the truth about

breast implants. Unfortunately, we compete with well

funded, manufacturer, surgeon implanted pro-implant

sites!

You are the only one who can make a decision! With a

good surgeon, you will not be deformed . . . If a

doctor tells you that, run! You should return to

approximately what you were before implants . . . plus

some hairline scars that will fade with time.

Sexual attraction starts in the head! . . . With a

good man, it won't matter what size your breasts are!

Most plastic surgeons deny any connection with

illness, regardless of how many women tell them they

are sick!

It's important, when choosing an explanting surgeon to

have the capsules removed if you are symtomatic. There

is a good chance your implants are contaminated. You

don't want anything contaminated spilled into your

chest cavity.

Hugs and prayers,

Rogene

[Guest guest]

-

We have all been where you are now. Except, it took us getting ill

before we considered that implants might harm us. You are in the

unique position of having this info now before being ill.

None of us can advise you what to do. We can only tell you that we

got sick, and we wish we had never gotten the implants. There is a

chance that you might not ever get sick, but there certainly is no

way to tell if you will or not, except to see if you do.

These are things to think about:

1. Now that you know that implants can and do make women sick, (and

you obviously believe us) I don't think you will ever be comfortable

keeping them. You will always and forever be worrying that they are

harming you. Every symptom you get you will attribute to the

implants. That, in and of itself, will take away much of the

pleasure of having the implants. And the worry will take a toll on

your immune system.

2. Right now, if you get them back out, you will have the best

chance to get well and also to look the best after explant since you

haven't had time to have your skin stretch much, etc. However, you

would still have to find a good explanting surgeon who will not only

remove them properly, but do a good cosmetic job. Often, the

surgeon who put them in is not that person.

3. You are worried about your sexiness. We have all been there

too. You are very worried about what others think, evidenced by

your attention to some of the negative comments others have made

since you got breast implants. I really think that you need to

develop more selfesteem whether you keep or get rid of the

implants. We shouldn't change our bodies to please others, only

ourselves. As you have obviously seen, some people won't like what

you do no matter what it is. If YOU like the way you look or dress

or live, that is enough. I doubt you expect that others will change

their body, hairstyle, habits, or anything else to suit you, do you?

Obviously you got the implants because you were unhappy with being

flat or small chested. This was fueled by others no doubt too, as

many of us here have been teased about being flat. But then you get

the implants, and have to hear negative comments the other way. You

need to not care so much about what others think. If implants

didn't harm you, and you liked the way you look with them, I would

keep them. But obviously, they can harm you, and that makes your

decision harder.

I will tell you this. I was a AA also. After explant, I am again.

Yet I have had two (first one died) husbands who thought I was the

greatest and loved seeing my body. Our physical relationships were

great. It is me who still has a hard time accepting that I am not

physically inferior and that is something I have to work at. So

please don't think you won't find a great man because you are flat.

That just isn't so. Any man who is more interested in your breast

size than your complete person, surely isn't worth having. I sure

wish that we could get the millions of men out there to speak up who

are just in love with their women who have little breasts, big

breasts, and breasts of all sizes and shapes. Because I know they

exist. Those who want their concept of a perfect breast, might not

be happy with us, but would be happy with them either? I have no

problem with them not wanting me. There are men out there who go

for blondes, or brunettes, or tall or short, or slim or curvy, or

athletic, or outdoorsy. We all have subconscious preferences. But

beyond that, most of us find that those preferences don't hold too

much weight you meet someone you can really connect with! So

whatever you decide to do, don't let it be influenced by whether you

think it will make you more desirable or not--because that is the

biggest fallacy of them all as far as I am concerned! I think if

you pray about it, and listen to your gut, you will know what to do.

Whatever you do, please know that we will give any help or advice

that we can.

Hugs, kathy

-- In , " shellybroline "

<shellybroline@y...> wrote:

> Will someone pleaseeeee give their input. I am frustrated. I

recently

> had the surgery with saline implants in march (3), 2005. I was

really

> happy initially and have enjoyed feeling better in my clothes

etc.,

> felt more confident. But, I recently have received some negative

> responses from friends...really more like judgments....which put

me

> into a tail-spin initially, but ultimately has made me reevaluate

my

> decision. I am suffering from " buyers remorse " . Now, after

reading

> the horror stories and actually having some nights sweates and

> sleeplessness about 2 weeks ago, I am a little freaked. I am just

> worried because I am not married and do desire to be attractive.

I am

> not sexually active so it's not an issue now, but to whomever my

future

> husband is I want to be attractive. Is it wise to go ahead and

> explant? Will I look deformed? I am a small C now and previously

was

> flat (32AA).

> Will any one be so kind to proffer some advise and moral support

to

> this confused young woman!?

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I hope you've gotten some input by now, but if not, I'll share with

you that I think you are smart to be taking some steps now to deal

with your implants! Implants are way overrated, and not all they

are cracked up to be. You would be much better off getting them out

NOW rather than later. Later may mean more health issues, more

risks with emotional issues in relationships....you are not a pair

of breasts. YOu are a person with value and worth just the way you

were originally made and getting your implants out now may save you

some heartaches in the future.

You don't need to fear being deformed. Most skilled doctors can

make you look fantastic after implants, leaving very little in the

way of scars. I have a friend who was a bar dancer before implants,

got sick from implants, removed them and went back to dancing in a

bar and looked just as good afterwards. Her scars were in the

aerola, so they were barely noticeable, and she had no sag or

deformity at all, even though she was very, very small. I am sure

if you go to a good plastic surgeon, they can remove them skillfully

and you should look very normal.

I know this is a confusing time, but it is only confusing because of

the things that doctors are saying and the false expectations that

have been marketed shamelessly about them. Implants are dangerous.

They are way overrated. They can rob you of health, happiness,

future and finances. Stay ahead of the game. Get them out now and

learn to love yourself for who you are on the inside and not the

outside, and don't let what other think about you carry too much

weight. Their opinions don't matter all that much in the end. You

need to be happy with yourself. And remember, you can't put a price

tag on health.

Hugs,

Patty

> Will someone pleaseeeee give their input. I am frustrated. I

recently

> had the surgery with saline implants in march (3), 2005. I was

really

> happy initially and have enjoyed feeling better in my clothes

etc.,

> felt more confident. But, I recently have received some negative

> responses from friends...really more like judgments....which put

me

> into a tail-spin initially, but ultimately has made me reevaluate

my

> decision. I am suffering from " buyers remorse " . Now, after

reading

> the horror stories and actually having some nights sweates and

> sleeplessness about 2 weeks ago, I am a little freaked. I am just

> worried because I am not married and do desire to be attractive.

I am

> not sexually active so it's not an issue now, but to whomever my

future

> husband is I want to be attractive. Is it wise to go ahead and

> explant? Will I look deformed? I am a small C now and previously

was

> flat (32AA).

> Will any one be so kind to proffer some advise and moral support

to

> this confused young woman!?