Abandoment techniques

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When I was little (5 or 6), she would use things like repeated

abandonment to get her way - i.e. " You don't deserve a mother like

me. Let's see how long you can survive without me. " Which was very

effective for a young child. And, of course, the rages would always

work, too.

........my nada would " park " me in a store and then go shopping. She

always bragged about how she could sit me down and how I would not

move " for hours on end " Good Lord, what terrible things she must

have said to me so that I would not move for such a long period of

time.

Then when I was a little older, maybe 10 to 12, she would withdraw

her " love " , use the silent treatment for days on end, and

intersperse that with raging.

...........my nada is Queen of the Silent Treatment. Her rages were

what I call the " twitch " . She would stomp, slam cabinet doors, and

twitch when she walked. I cannot really explain the body language

on paper, I called the mannerisms " The Twitch " .

It is so comforting to know that I am not alone in this zoo of life.

take care, mg