Re: Please help.....near despair and ending it.......deformity after removal

[Guest guest]

Hi Sue,

I can’t answer your questions about how your breasts will heal in time but I did want to respond to your email because it really breaks my heart. You are not your breasts, you are a special person, please try not to lose sight of that. You have people in your life who love you, breasts or no breasts. Please, please don’t even consider ending it, things will get better.

I’m sure other women here will help with your questions. Nordstrom does sell some nice padded bras made by Felina.

Please take care.

Kenda

I am writing this as a desparate plea for help or advice. I had my

implants removed one month ago and my breasts are flat as pancakes and

deformed. The right is especially shrinking in. I was a small A

prior to implants and now am even smaller and caved in.........

I am so incredibly depressed......does it get better?

Is there anything I can do to build them back to where they were

before? Some type of undergarment to wear, vitamins, herbs, food,

anything? I can't function anymore. My body image is obviously

destroyed.

I can't believe I made such an awful decision to have them put in in

the first place.

My nerve pain and numbness is a whole other issue too..........I don't

think I can deal with any of this.

please help. thank you, sue

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[Guest guest]

Sue,

Please, please do not despair over this. It has only been one month

since your explant. Wait a little longer! Fluffing out can take

several months, and you are much too recently explanted to be so

concerned. I know how fragile our emotions are over this experience.

I remember how much I cried. It was a terrible time in my life, and I

even remember some things that my husband said that were almost

cruel. But things changed! Things got so much better! My breasts

are still small and scarred with stretch marks, still numb in one

quadrant in my right breast, still showing the lasting marks of the

surgeries I went through with breast implants, but they are soft, they

are mine, and my husband thoroughly enjoys them now. Please look

forward to the future with hope!

What you might want to do to help with your self esteem at this point

in time is to invest in a pair of the breast enhancers that you can

put into your bra. I bought several pair right after explant, because

like you, I did not want to go back to what I had. I hated my small

breasts so desperately that I just couldn't bear the thought of not

filling out a bra again. (That is a whole other discussion about

healing spiritually and emotionally over this whole affair, which I

was able to do with God's help and teaching from His word, but I want

to address your immediate needs for helping your self esteem right

now.) I went to a special boutique and bought some silicone enhancers

to put into my bra, and started wearing those shortly after explant. I

have not stopped. They are not too big, but they make me feel exactly

proportioned and nobody can tell that they aren't real. My

justification was that with other women running around with breast

implants inside their bodies, well I could run around with something

safer but with the same effect! I can take mine out at the end of the

day! I feel confident in my clothes and totally comfortable about it.

I found a Vanity Fair bra that had a perfect little pocket in it, so

that the enhancer does not touch my skin. I sewed a little lace flap

to help keep it from shifting and it has worked beautifully.

I have posted some links in our links section at the website on where

to buy these enhancers online if you don't want to search for them

locally. Then you can try them on in the privacy of your home. I

think it is under " Products that have helped in our healing. "

Please do not feel that you are deformed. Please give it more time.

Do what you are doing....keep looking for ways to make you feel better

about yourself, answers that you can pursue that may help you.

My prayer and wish for you is that you would find contentment and

peace about who you are, and what your body looks like from a healthy

perspective. When you think about the women who are in wheelchairs,

who have missing limbs, or are blind, or have other serious body

issues, I think you might find that they would trade their breasts in

a heartbeat to have what you already have. There are people all over

this country suffering with terrible, awful tragedies, and when it all

comes down to the bottom line, our breasts play such a minor, minor

role in the whole scheme of things. Life is about so much more. Sue,

give thanks for what you do have now. That will help. When I feel

myself starting to grumble, I stop dead in my tracks and start

thanking God for everything that I do have. It stops that decline in

attitude right away! Find things to be thankful for. A home.

Family. Friends. Pets. Special people who have gone out of their way

for you. America and the freedoms we have. The prosperity we have

enjoyed as a nation. Music from favorite talented artrists that lifts

you up. A book that just blesses you. Past accomplishments that have

filled you with pride. The ability to communicate with others. I

could go on and on.

God bless you Sue,

Please look up and have hope for the future! It is most definitely

going to be brighter!

Hugs,

Patty

--- In , " suemarie6 " <sue.conley@s...>

wrote:

> I am writing this as a desparate plea for help or advice. I had my

> implants removed one month ago and my breasts are flat as pancakes

and

> deformed. The right is especially shrinking in. I was a small A

> prior to implants and now am even smaller and caved in.........

> I am so incredibly depressed......does it get better?

> Is there anything I can do to build them back to where they were

> before? Some type of undergarment to wear, vitamins, herbs, food,

> anything? I can't function anymore. My body image is obviously

> destroyed.

> I can't believe I made such an awful decision to have them put in in

> the first place.

> My nerve pain and numbness is a whole other issue too..........I

don't

> think I can deal with any of this.

> please help. thank you, sue

[Guest guest]

Dear Sue,

I am so sorry to hear that your having to go through all of this. I

had my explant 3 months ago. I was deflated for several weeks, in fact

I still am a little bit deflated, but it seems to be getting better.

It can take 3-6 months for your body to look like it is finally going

to. in the meantime, there are some wonderful water bras that you can

get almost anywhere that look and feel pretty close to how you would

have looked with the implants. I do not reccomend any of te herbals or

cremes. You may also want to try doing some meditation, at night

before bedtime, on loving your body. Our bodies are amazing machines,

and while none of us look exactly as we want to, we are capable of

healing from these horrible implants with time and effort. If you can

concentrate on loving your body now that it is free and clear from the

implant it may help in your recovery.

Best wishes!

[Guest guest]

---Sue

I just had mine taken out a little over two months ago and i too was a

small A before implant. At least you have pancakes, i just have a

nipple. I actually asked Dr. Huang when they would sag but then i

laughed because isnt sagging what none of us want. I know your

supposed to be more than your body image but its hard when you have

worked hard to keep that image and then loose it. I get the urge

everyday to have them put back in just to see if i would get sick

again but then i ask my boyfriend what he thinks and he nicely reminds

me of how i was practically handicapped for 2 years. I go and read my

list of problems that i wrote down right before explant and see that i

am almost 100% free. I havnt had one bad day(that would have been a

normal day) in over a month. I think it will just take time to get

used to your body, right now i am trying to work on getting physically

fit and healthy again, which is more important and it helps with my

body image. There are these water and oil filled inserts that fit

great in sports bras and they are only 5$ at walmart. I also just

found this new water bra i am going to buy online, it supposedly is

great but i cant remember the name. Anyway, i think this phase

happens to us all, i am still dealing with it too.

Aubrey

In , " suemarie6 " <sue.conley@s...> wrote:

> I am writing this as a desparate plea for help or advice. I had my

> implants removed one month ago and my breasts are flat as pancakes

and

> deformed. The right is especially shrinking in. I was a small A

> prior to implants and now am even smaller and caved in.........

> I am so incredibly depressed......does it get better?

> Is there anything I can do to build them back to where they were

> before? Some type of undergarment to wear, vitamins, herbs, food,

> anything? I can't function anymore. My body image is obviously

> destroyed.

> I can't believe I made such an awful decision to have them put in in

> the first place.

> My nerve pain and numbness is a whole other issue too..........I

don't

> think I can deal with any of this.

> please help. thank you, sue

[Guest guest]

Dear sue

My heart goes out to you. Please hang in there. It will get better.

I was also not even an A cup before implants. AFter explant, I

cried

because my breasts were actually indented. AFter several weeks to a

few months, they puffed out again slightly. They now look pretty

much

the same as they did before implants except my skin is slightly

stretched now. I had them for eleven years. My doctor did not

recommend a lift. Someday I will go back and see if anything else

can

be done to improve the situation. My husband doesn't seem to

care--we

still have a great sex life. It is my selfesteem that suffers

because of my own inadequate feelings. But

then, there are so many more important things to focus on. Like

living. I was at a point where I had no life and yes, was at times

somewhat suicidal. I couldn't imagine living in that constant

drunken

like state with all the weird symptoms and terrible pain. Now I

don't

htave to. If it isn't my brreasts, then it is my too skinny legs--

or

my varicose vein, or my stomach or something else. Even if I liked

my breasts, there would be other things that I would then find to

dislike in my appearance. To a certain extent, there are things we

can't

control.

We don't know if tomorrow we won't be in an accident and be

disfigured

or disabled, or somehow be badly burned, or develop a disease that

disfigures or disables us. So while it would be very nice to have

nice looking breasts, it is no guarantee that you would then be

happy. You can and will get past

this. Don't let your thoughts defeat you and make you sick. Our

mind plays an important in our health. Feeling stressed out or

depressed will make it harder to get well. I would give this more

time, and concentrate on what you can do to get well. Take good

care of your body, and when you are on your way to getting

well, then if you are still feeling that they haven't improved,

start looking into what could still be done to improve your look.

At that point you could contact some of the plastic surgeons that do

explants and see what they think about what could be done to improve

the look. Who did your explant? Have you talked to them about your

breasts? Maybe they could reassure you that they will still fluff

out some. The most important thing is not panic, keep a positive

attitude, and trust that it will all work out.

love,kathy

--- In , " suemarie6 " <sue.conley@s...>

wrote:

> I am writing this as a desparate plea for help or advice. I had

my

> implants removed one month ago and my breasts are flat as pancakes

and

> deformed. The right is especially shrinking in. I was a small A

> prior to implants and now am even smaller and caved in.........

> I am so incredibly depressed......does it get better?

> Is there anything I can do to build them back to where they were

> before? Some type of undergarment to wear, vitamins, herbs, food,

> anything? I can't function anymore. My body image is obviously

> destroyed.

> I can't believe I made such an awful decision to have them put in

in

> the first place.

> My nerve pain and numbness is a whole other issue too..........I

don't

> think I can deal with any of this.

> please help. thank you, sue

[Guest guest]

Hi Patty,

You wrote such a touching letter to me.........thank you so much. I

am in such a bad place of self hate, anger and loathing it is almost

impossible for me now to get out of it. I look at myself now and

just cry and cry. I look at my before explant pictures and

think.......i may have been small, but they were perfect!! Now, they

are smashed and disfigured. I did this to myself for no reason

which is why I am so depressed. No one will want me because I don't

even want myself. I know what you are saying, but I am so angry at

the dr for not explaining anything, me blindly thinking it would be

great to have implants, etc etc......I'm so scared I am going to give

up soon. I know its crazy to talk like this, but I can't get past

anything.

How did things get better for you? Did your appearance improve over

time? How long have you had yours out?

> > I am writing this as a desparate plea for help or advice. I had

my

> > implants removed one month ago and my breasts are flat as

pancakes

> and

> > deformed. The right is especially shrinking in. I was a small A

> > prior to implants and now am even smaller and caved in.........

> > I am so incredibly depressed......does it get better?

> > Is there anything I can do to build them back to where they were

> > before? Some type of undergarment to wear, vitamins, herbs,

food,

> > anything? I can't function anymore. My body image is obviously

> > destroyed.

> > I can't believe I made such an awful decision to have them put in

in

> > the first place.

> > My nerve pain and numbness is a whole other issue too..........I

> don't

> > think I can deal with any of this.

> > please help. thank you, sue

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Thank you for responding. I am still caved in at 4 weeks, smaller,

etc etc and deformed. Why did we do this? I think I am so filled

with self hate because I did this to myself. I am still in chronic

pain and no one can figure out what is wrong with me..

Can you really tell a difference with you and the passage of time?

> Dear Sue,

> I am so sorry to hear that your having to go through all of this. I

> had my explant 3 months ago. I was deflated for several weeks, in

fact

> I still am a little bit deflated, but it seems to be getting

better.

> It can take 3-6 months for your body to look like it is finally

going

> to. in the meantime, there are some wonderful water bras that you

can

> get almost anywhere that look and feel pretty close to how you

would

> have looked with the implants. I do not reccomend any of te herbals

or

> cremes. You may also want to try doing some meditation, at night

> before bedtime, on loving your body. Our bodies are amazing

machines,

> and while none of us look exactly as we want to, we are capable of

> healing from these horrible implants with time and effort. If you

can

> concentrate on loving your body now that it is free and clear from

the

> implant it may help in your recovery.

>

> Best wishes!

>

[Guest guest]

Yes! Time does make a difference. In fact just this past month I had a

little bit of swelling right before my period. I haven't had that

since before implanting! You are right, we do blame ourselves and that

causes a hole host of emotions. I look at my scars and I think of them

as a badge of courage for having gone through this without knowing the

truth behind it all. Hang in there, you're not alone!

[Guest guest]

Hi Kathy, Oh, what a sweet letter to me. I know you are right, but I

am in the depths of despair now of self hate for doing this to

myself. I am 39 and if I survived with small breasts with nothing

wrong with them for years, why did I suddenly decide to have

implants? I am so angry for maiming myself and the dr. for not

telling me anything. I can't get rid of this terrible nerve pain I

have either.

All my explant dr. said was oh yes, you were larger before implants...

it wasn't encouraging......

> > I am writing this as a desparate plea for help or advice. I had

> my

> > implants removed one month ago and my breasts are flat as

pancakes

> and

> > deformed. The right is especially shrinking in. I was a small A

> > prior to implants and now am even smaller and caved in.........

> > I am so incredibly depressed......does it get better?

> > Is there anything I can do to build them back to where they were

> > before? Some type of undergarment to wear, vitamins, herbs,

food,

> > anything? I can't function anymore. My body image is obviously

> > destroyed.

> > I can't believe I made such an awful decision to have them put in

> in

> > the first place.

> > My nerve pain and numbness is a whole other issue too..........I

> don't

> > think I can deal with any of this.

> > please help. thank you, sue

[Guest guest]

Hey Sue,

I am so sorry that you are feeling so depressed. I am new to the

group and I have been depressed ever since I got the implants. I got

them to improve my selfesteem but that was so short lived. I am

faced with explanting now after 8 years of having implants and am

scared of the outcome. I am going to be using Dr Kolb in Atlanta and

I know she is very good but I am still scared. What were you

preimplant size and how big were your implants? Also who did you

explant?

I am sending big hugs,

> > > I am writing this as a desparate plea for help or advice. I

had

> > my

> > > implants removed one month ago and my breasts are flat as

> pancakes

> > and

> > > deformed. The right is especially shrinking in. I was a

small A

> > > prior to implants and now am even smaller and caved in.........

> > > I am so incredibly depressed......does it get better?

> > > Is there anything I can do to build them back to where they

were

> > > before? Some type of undergarment to wear, vitamins, herbs,

> food,

> > > anything? I can't function anymore. My body image is

obviously

> > > destroyed.

> > > I can't believe I made such an awful decision to have them put

in

> > in

> > > the first place.

> > > My nerve pain and numbness is a whole other issue

too..........I

> > don't

> > > think I can deal with any of this.

> > > please help. thank you, sue

[Guest guest]

How come you lost size after explant? I am being told that I will be

what I was pre BA. How long did you have you implants? I am really

getting concerned.

--- In , " auw_bree " <auw_bree@y...>

wrote:

> ---Sue

> I just had mine taken out a little over two months ago and i too

was a

> small A before implant. At least you have pancakes, i just have a

> nipple. I actually asked Dr. Huang when they would sag but then i

> laughed because isnt sagging what none of us want. I know your

> supposed to be more than your body image but its hard when you

have

> worked hard to keep that image and then loose it. I get the urge

> everyday to have them put back in just to see if i would get sick

> again but then i ask my boyfriend what he thinks and he nicely

reminds

> me of how i was practically handicapped for 2 years. I go and

read my

> list of problems that i wrote down right before explant and see

that i

> am almost 100% free. I havnt had one bad day(that would have been

a

> normal day) in over a month. I think it will just take time to

get

> used to your body, right now i am trying to work on getting

physically

> fit and healthy again, which is more important and it helps with

my

> body image. There are these water and oil filled inserts that fit

> great in sports bras and they are only 5$ at walmart. I also just

> found this new water bra i am going to buy online, it supposedly

is

> great but i cant remember the name. Anyway, i think this phase

> happens to us all, i am still dealing with it too.

> Aubrey

>

>

>

>

> In , " suemarie6 " <sue.conley@s...>

wrote:

> > I am writing this as a desparate plea for help or advice. I had

my

> > implants removed one month ago and my breasts are flat as

pancakes

> and

> > deformed. The right is especially shrinking in. I was a small

A

> > prior to implants and now am even smaller and caved in.........

> > I am so incredibly depressed......does it get better?

> > Is there anything I can do to build them back to where they were

> > before? Some type of undergarment to wear, vitamins, herbs,

food,

> > anything? I can't function anymore. My body image is obviously

> > destroyed.

> > I can't believe I made such an awful decision to have them put

in in

> > the first place.

> > My nerve pain and numbness is a whole other issue too..........I

> don't

> > think I can deal with any of this.

> > please help. thank you, sue

[Guest guest]

It's so difficult to say what will happen post explant because each

case is different. I had 3 kids with implants and breastfed them all.

Post explant I am actually a bit bigger than I was before. But

honestly, my overall health is what I cherish now, not the breast

size. I look in the mirror and feel younger and more althletic looking

than I have in 10 years!

[Guest guest]

Thank you for responding. I guess I am still concerned about my looks

as crazy as that may sound. I met my husband with my implants and I am

also concerned about his reaction. I would be ok with my pre BA size

even though it will take getting used to but I would be very depressed

if I was smaller. I had one baby with implants but I haven't gained any

weight, most women would like that but that also means I probably

haven't gained any boob tissue. I swear I sound so vain but I want to

be pretty and have some breasts after explant, I mean if I didn't want

breasts I would never have implanted in the first place.

I am so emotional. Thank you for the reply again.

> It's so difficult to say what will happen post explant because each

> case is different. I had 3 kids with implants and breastfed them all.

> Post explant I am actually a bit bigger than I was before. But

> honestly, my overall health is what I cherish now, not the breast

> size. I look in the mirror and feel younger and more althletic

looking

> than I have in 10 years!

>

>

[Guest guest]

I also met my husband while implanted and he loved my size. Now he

LOVES the feel of the natural and much smaller breasts. He can't keep

his hands off of them. LOL Don't worry too much, if he is a loving

husband then it won't matter if you have any breasts at all. : )

[Guest guest]

,

Like your screen name! You are not alone in how you feel at all...it's

just that most of the women that want to reimplant don't hang around

too long because of their " unpopular " desire. Quite a few went back to

the pro-implant sites. I don't like to broadcast, but I'm the odd ball

in the group because I did reimplant because of my overwhelming

depression & fear at the thought of explanting and how I would look and

no guarentee that I would get better. Everyone's body/experience is

different, so I hang around hoping I can help someone else, just like

me. All of us struggled with what to do with all the info we gathered;

whether to explant or reimplant is something we all have had to decide;

don't think the decision was easy for too many. I just wanted to let

you know, you are not alone with the feelings you are having and we are

ALL here to guide, support, inform & encourage ALL women through their

journey to be well.

Keep asking questions, gather all the info you need and follow your

heart/gut...you will know what is right for you when the time is right!

Welcome to the group!

Cheryl

[Guest guest]

,

Would you reject a guy if his buns (or other physical)

features were less than movie star/model perfection?

In our culture, nobody thinks they are perfect enough!

With all the airbrushed, manipulated pictures . . .

even the stars we seek to emulate are not who they

appear to be.

As one ages, things shift . . . but the love and

caring we have for each other doesn't change! . . . If

you accept yourself, others will too!

If a man doesn't understand we are more than just

boobs, he doesn't deserve us! - In fact, he's the

biggest boob of all!

Hugs and prayers,

Rogene

[Guest guest]

AMEN Rogene!!! Men don't worry nearly as much about our looks as we do!

At least, that is my experience. My husband wants me to be healthy, and I want

him to be

healthy, so we can live a long life together. That is what is important.

> ,

>

> Would you reject a guy if his buns (or other physical)

> features were less than movie star/model perfection?

>

> In our culture, nobody thinks they are perfect enough!

> With all the airbrushed, manipulated pictures . . .

> even the stars we seek to emulate are not who they

> appear to be.

>

> As one ages, things shift . . . but the love and

> caring we have for each other doesn't change! . . . If

> you accept yourself, others will too!

>

> If a man doesn't understand we are more than just

> boobs, he doesn't deserve us! - In fact, he's the

> biggest boob of all!

>

> Hugs and prayers,

>

> Rogene

[Guest guest]

,

I had Dr. Kolb. From the moment I stepped foot in her clinic, I felt the energy

of warmth

and compassion. I felt cared for every moment I was there. She is an excellent

surgeon

and the anesthesiologist who works with her is also outstanding. That is very

important,

as I have learned the hard way. Her nurse was great...everyone on her staff

were.

I needed the reassurance and warmth I found there. I was terrified. You will

be in very

good hands.

Dr. Kolb was very direct with me. She explained my options, and told me how my

brests

would look after surgery. You can trust what she says. And I am not one to be

very

trusting of doctors. I also am not a walking advertisement for any plastic

surgeon, but I

was very satisfied with the results.

> > > > I am writing this as a desparate plea for help or advice. I

> had

> > > my

> > > > implants removed one month ago and my breasts are flat as

> > pancakes

> > > and

> > > > deformed. The right is especially shrinking in. I was a

> small A

> > > > prior to implants and now am even smaller and caved in.........

> > > > I am so incredibly depressed......does it get better?

> > > > Is there anything I can do to build them back to where they

> were

> > > > before? Some type of undergarment to wear, vitamins, herbs,

> > food,

> > > > anything? I can't function anymore. My body image is

> obviously

> > > > destroyed.

> > > > I can't believe I made such an awful decision to have them put

> in

> > > in

> > > > the first place.

> > > > My nerve pain and numbness is a whole other issue

> too..........I

> > > don't

> > > > think I can deal with any of this.

> > > > please help. thank you, sue

[Guest guest]

Krisen, ,

I was also a bit bigger after explant, than I was pre-explant. I am 51 now, and

was only 30

when I had the implants.

I imagine when I lose weight, I will lose there too, but I am not concerned. My

greatest

concern is my health. That said, Dr. Kolb did an excellent job with the

'aesthetics' of surgery,

and I can't see any scars that I did not have pre-explant. It was just amazing.

Because I had

my implants so long and I had gained quite a bit of weight, she did a lift. My

original surgery

was reconstructive, and the surgeon cut around my aerolas, as well as the

incision under my

breasts. Dr. Kolb used those same incisions, and actually improved the looks of

my breasts.

Most important, I believe that she did all she could to remove the silicone,

because I know

she understands the dangers.

> It's so difficult to say what will happen post explant because each

> case is different. I had 3 kids with implants and breastfed them all.

> Post explant I am actually a bit bigger than I was before. But

> honestly, my overall health is what I cherish now, not the breast

> size. I look in the mirror and feel younger and more althletic looking

> than I have in 10 years!

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Cheryl,

Do you have implants now? Did you have silicone before, or saline?

I hope nobody on these forums tell women what to do or make them feel bad for

their very

personal decisions. I don't think anyone would mean to. Some of us have become

ill,and

so we are understandably concerned when we hear of someone reimplanting. But if

a

woman really wanted to do that, I would wish her well, and just caution her to

keep a close

eye on her health.

> ,

> Like your screen name! You are not alone in how you feel at all...it's

> just that most of the women that want to reimplant don't hang around

> too long because of their " unpopular " desire. Quite a few went back to

> the pro-implant sites. I don't like to broadcast, but I'm the odd ball

> in the group because I did reimplant because of my overwhelming

> depression & fear at the thought of explanting and how I would look and

> no guarentee that I would get better. Everyone's body/experience is

> different, so I hang around hoping I can help someone else, just like

> me. All of us struggled with what to do with all the info we gathered;

> whether to explant or reimplant is something we all have had to decide;

> don't think the decision was easy for too many. I just wanted to let

> you know, you are not alone with the feelings you are having and we are

> ALL here to guide, support, inform & encourage ALL women through their

> journey to be well.

> Keep asking questions, gather all the info you need and follow your

> heart/gut...you will know what is right for you when the time is right!

> Welcome to the group!

> Cheryl

[Guest guest]

Oh Rogene,

You make me crack up. You are so right!

Patty

> ,

>

> Would you reject a guy if his buns (or other physical)

> features were less than movie star/model perfection?

>

> In our culture, nobody thinks they are perfect enough!

> With all the airbrushed, manipulated pictures . . .

> even the stars we seek to emulate are not who they

> appear to be.

>

> As one ages, things shift . . . but the love and

> caring we have for each other doesn't change! . . . If

> you accept yourself, others will too!

>

> If a man doesn't understand we are more than just

> boobs, he doesn't deserve us! - In fact, he's the

> biggest boob of all!

>

> Hugs and prayers,

>

> Rogene

[Guest guest]

Dear Sue,

I think almost all of us have experience these kinds of emotions

about our experience. I probably have felt everything that you are.

I really was mad at my doctor, mad at the government, mad at myself,

and mad at God. The whole nasty, sordid experience was not fair.

Everything about it was sick.

But, I found that there were very valuable lessons to be learned

from this experience. I can honestly say now that I am not angry at

anyone at all anymore over this episode in my life, and indeed, I am

tnankful for it in some respects. I have learned so much through

this that I couldn't have possibly learned any other way.

And therein lies the secret to your success in moving forward. You

have to begin to see what you can learn from this mistake, from this

trial that you are enduring. We all go through struggles in life.

Everyone has trials and tribulations. The difference is in how we

respond to them.

I had to learn to forgive. I had to learn to trust God in the path

He was leading me on. I had to give up any notions I had about the

trustworthiness of our government, or the sanctity of our medical

professionals, or the goodness of mankind. At the same time I had

to learn to love with all of my heart. I had to learn that life is

not about my breasts, or my body, or anything else except learning

to love others and share life in positive ways. It is a long

process, but oh, so worth it! I am now more happier in life than I

have ever been. God has been incredibly good to me. I can say with

confidence in Who He is, that He loves me, and He loves you to the

uttermost depths of His being, and He has your future in His hands.

He cares for you. God's Word says,

" For I know the plans I have for you, " declares the LORD , " plans to

prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope hope and a

future. 12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I

will listen to you.13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me

with all your heart. " 29: 11-13

You have much to look forward to Sue. Trust that " God is able to do

more than you can possibly imagine. " (Ephesians 3:20) He

absolutely has done so in my life! It is all about learning and

moving forward!

Hugs,

Patty

> > > I am writing this as a desparate plea for help or advice. I

had

> my

> > > implants removed one month ago and my breasts are flat as

> pancakes

> > and

> > > deformed. The right is especially shrinking in. I was a

small A

> > > prior to implants and now am even smaller and caved in.........

> > > I am so incredibly depressed......does it get better?

> > > Is there anything I can do to build them back to where they

were

> > > before? Some type of undergarment to wear, vitamins, herbs,

> food,

> > > anything? I can't function anymore. My body image is

obviously

> > > destroyed.

> > > I can't believe I made such an awful decision to have them put

in

> in

> > > the first place.

> > > My nerve pain and numbness is a whole other issue

too..........I

> > don't

> > > think I can deal with any of this.

> > > please help. thank you, sue

[Guest guest]

I know of very few women who have lost size after explant. In fact,

I have heard more often the exact opposite...that they have gained!

Patty

> > > I am writing this as a desparate plea for help or advice. I

had

> my

> > > implants removed one month ago and my breasts are flat as

> pancakes

> > and

> > > deformed. The right is especially shrinking in. I was a

small

> A

> > > prior to implants and now am even smaller and caved in.........

> > > I am so incredibly depressed......does it get better?

> > > Is there anything I can do to build them back to where they

were

> > > before? Some type of undergarment to wear, vitamins, herbs,

> food,

> > > anything? I can't function anymore. My body image is

obviously

> > > destroyed.

> > > I can't believe I made such an awful decision to have them put

> in in

> > > the first place.

> > > My nerve pain and numbness is a whole other issue

too..........I

> > don't

> > > think I can deal with any of this.

> > > please help. thank you, sue

[Guest guest]

Is this the same Molly from the explantation website?? I do like Dr

Kolb she seems so patient. I can only hope for the best.

> > It's so difficult to say what will happen post explant because

each

> > case is different. I had 3 kids with implants and breastfed them

all.

> > Post explant I am actually a bit bigger than I was before. But

> > honestly, my overall health is what I cherish now, not the

breast

> > size. I look in the mirror and feel younger and more althletic

looking

> > than I have in 10 years!

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Sue

I really don't think your breasts will be the deal breaker for

whether you find a life partner or not. After all, decent men love

us for more than our breasts or how our body looks. I see women all

the time with big diamonds on their fingers that are very plain

looking or way overweight. Besides, the man you will like won't be

perfect either. Are we supposed to feel bad about the way our

breasts look when they don't appear to feel bad about their fat

stomachs, balding heads, etc? Most of us that are truly adults

understand that we aren't going to get a perfect partner physically

or otherwise.

I remember when I was dating my first husband back in college and I

was so afraid for when he would finally find out how flat I actually

way. I was terrified. I mean I didn't even have a breastshape at

all--I looked just like a guy with maybe a touch of baby fat. I

would have been ecstatic to have had small breasts!! Anyway, it

didn't seem to bother him. Yes, I am sure he was disappointed. But

he never said so. And he always thought I was beautiful with or

without my clothes. Of course, I could never get over my disdain

for

my lack of feminine breasts. So when my best friend got salines, I

thought it would finally end my years of low selfesteem concerning

my breasts. My husband never suggested I get implants, but I won't

say he wasn't happy when I told him that I was getting them. It was

an adventure. He loved them and so did I because I could finally

wear a nightgown or a swimming suit. It wasn't long before my

fibromyalgia got worse and I thought it was just the natural course

of events. I got them when I was 36. By the time I was 43 I had

many symptoms which I still felt was fibro. Then my husband died

unexpectedly. I started getting worse at an accelerated rate. By

the time I remarried in 2001 I felt I was dying. My husband married

me anyway. He didn't know I had implants. I had to tell him and

tell him they were coming out. He stood by my side. It was

probably

a month before I let him see me again. I am sure he was

disappointed-

-but he never said so. We have a great sex life and he is always

wanting to see me naked despite my breasts and my skinny legs, big c-

section scar, etc. I am always finding excuses for privacy because

I am the one who hates my body. I cant fathom what he sees ---

because I feel so unsexy. I hear this time and time again. We

constantly read about overweight women who won't be naked in front

of their husband because they hate the way they look---but their

husband doesn't!! We judge ourselves too harshly. Men who really

loves us body and soul don't see us with the critical eye we have--

but through the eyes of someone in love. So, I guess what I am

trying to say is that if a man truly loves you, your breasts aren't

going to send him packing!!! Anymore than if you love him, some

physical feature is going to send you packing. I sure see plenty of

balding, potbellied men walking around with their wives. In fact,

in my couples Bible study, there are five couples. Two of the men

are grossly overweight. One has a bad lisp and stutter, one is

balding and has scarring from acne. One of the women is fairly

overweight. At least three of the people have been previously

divorced. Yet, they are all really happy couples who get along well.

And finally we come to my stepdaughter. Dana is 30 years old and

has a good job, and two children and a nice looking husband with a

decent job. She is very overweight and has a terrible severe case

of

psoriasis. It covers her face, arms, legs, etc. Yet somehow, her

husband manages to keep finding her attractive. If we all went

around thinking we weren't worthy of having a husband because of how

our bodies looked, few of us would ever get married.

I know this is a depressing time, but it will pass. You must get

past this. Also, since you are not feeling well, I think this too

adds to your depression. I know it did with me. I was severely

depressed for several years following my husband's death so believe

me I know how bad depression can get. But I made it through!! And

so can you. You must believe you will get better. It may take some

time and detoxing, but you will. Please focus on that and have

faith!!

Sending you a big hug,

kathy

> > > I am writing this as a desparate plea for help or advice. I

had

> > my

> > > implants removed one month ago and my breasts are flat as

> pancakes

> > and

> > > deformed. The right is especially shrinking in. I was a

small A

> > > prior to implants and now am even smaller and caved in.........

> > > I am so incredibly depressed......does it get better?

> > > Is there anything I can do to build them back to where they

were

> > > before? Some type of undergarment to wear, vitamins, herbs,

> food,

> > > anything? I can't function anymore. My body image is

obviously

> > > destroyed.

> > > I can't believe I made such an awful decision to have them put

in

> > in

> > > the first place.

> > > My nerve pain and numbness is a whole other issue

too..........I

> > don't

> > > think I can deal with any of this.

> > > please help. thank you, sue