My personal realisation

[Guest guest]

I'm sure how relevant to ACT this is,

But I was thinking to myself the other day how insane the world is (in terms of

war, crime ..etc) and how preventable much of the suffering in the world is.

I was thinking to myself, is it so ridiculous to think of a world without

violence between people and a world where everyone gets on with each other. (you

may say that I'm a dreamer but I'm not the only one) It seems so simple for

people to just be nice to each other and puzzling as to why there is such

aggression in the world.

Then I thought of a Mahatma Gandhi

quote " be the change you want to see in the world " that I had heard ages ago and

it really made sense to me.

I can't change the world but I can change myself.

So if I want the world to be nice to me then the only thing i can control is how

I treat myself - so be nice to myself (be the change you want to see in the

world)

This idea has given me warm feelings over the last week.

Anyway enough of my random thoughts and waffling.

Peace out,

Andy

[Guest guest]

For me being nice to myself is not always easy as there is this feeling that I

need to change this and that first before I can be good to myself. But what if I

come to terms with my dreaded parts and accept them, i.e, they're not be my best

parts but they aren't really that bad either. Then I find I am much more

tollerant of other people's shortcomings because I can understand the

frustration they are going through and that they don't want to be like this

either -at least not for long.

Accepting your less your dark side is what Carl Jung called individuation i.e.

becoming a complete person. Parodoxically, accepting our less than perfect side

makes us a much nicer person because we become more forgiving of other people's

faults too. Accepting the lesser parts of myself, i.e, greed, selfishness, and

all that stuff, etc, leads to a lot of strengh because I have removed my akilies

heal and people can't make me feel so bad. Accepting doesn't mean mean I can do

as I please, far from it, it just means seeing these thoughts and feelings

within and not hating them.

Kavy

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> I'm sure how relevant to ACT this is,

>

> But I was thinking to myself the other day how insane the world is (in terms

of war, crime ..etc) and how preventable much of the suffering in the world is.

>

> I was thinking to myself, is it so ridiculous to think of a world without

violence between people and a world where everyone gets on with each other. (you

may say that I'm a dreamer but I'm not the only one) It seems so simple for

people to just be nice to each other and puzzling as to why there is such

aggression in the world.

>

> Then I thought of a Mahatma Gandhi

> quote " be the change you want to see in the world " that I had heard ages ago

and it really made sense to me.

>

> I can't change the world but I can change myself.

>

> So if I want the world to be nice to me then the only thing i can control is

how I treat myself - so be nice to myself (be the change you want to see in the

world)

>

> This idea has given me warm feelings over the last week.

>

> Anyway enough of my random thoughts and waffling.

>

> Peace out,

> Andy

>