Guest guest Posted June 22, 2010 Report Share Posted June 22, 2010 i here what you are saying, sometimes people can be so manipulative, i wonder where they are coming from. In my case, i just had to deal w a client who wanted me do something for him, and i had to go check w my lawyer who said don't do it, so i informed this client (one of my biggest client), and he got so angry and pissed off, kinda like a little kid throwing up a tantrum or something. Anyways, before i fired off an email informing him i wasn't gonna do it, i had to re-read some of my old self help notes, particularly about avoiding conflict. Basically i have a habit of avoiding conflict and people pleasing, and as i re-read it, i defused by taking a professional approach, not making any of it personal, and simply explain my situation, and stood up for myself and what i could do and cannot do, and play my cards the best i can and how the deck falls, so be it. Anyways, work related stuff here, hardly anything that would come even close to Values/ACT related. TC > > > My supervisor is on holiday so the trainee general manager (TGM) has > taken his post. Our general manger can be strict and unfriendly and my > supervisor doesn't like him. And most of the workforce don't either. > > So I am working hard all day and I tell the T G M I didn't do a job > because it is in warrentyand I get a stern look from him. I was also too > busy to do it. Now my general manger (GM) is always telling me not to do > warrenty work. Later in th day I tell the TGM that I didn't have time > to finish a another particular job because I was too busy, but I give a > suggestion that he can use another machine over night instead and I can > finish this job tomorrow, but for some reason this manager say's this > can't be done. I then offer to stay on and do overtime which I don't > really want to do. But he then asks me if I had done this other job > which was low priority, and I said no and I got sour pursed lips look > from him again. Now I had asked him earlier in the day what was > priority. He then say's there no ovetime and the general manager is near > by listening in tsking note of everything. > > Later on the TCM calls me over and this field engineer who has arrived > and is looking at a warenty job that I had tried to fix the day before. > I didn't do a lot of work on it because it was in warrenty, but over > night the fault had cleared. The TGM gave me a look as if I had made a > mistake. To try to repair it the day before I had programmed it > differently but it made no difference, but now (today) it was working > okay under this different program, which is fine. The fault had been > brought to my attention by another engineer, so the fault was genuine. > > Later on the GM say's to my TCM have you told him (me) what happened and > he say's yes. Then the TGM say's how would you like to travel for 4 > hours and find that there is nothing wrong. I tell him it is the sort of > thing I like to find. He then say's he will be charged for wasting their > time. But I tell them it not my fault it self rectified. (This can be > common.) > > I found this hard to defuse from and to cope with the feelings. I can > see that they have got it in for me and seem to think that I am > generating overtime, and they might even think I'm slow and incompetant, > which is not true, I'm just very thorough. Now it was very intimitating > to be made to feel bad by a jumped nobnody (TGM) who knows nothing about > high precision electronic engineering and was a manager of a small > bakery before he got this job. > > These managers are new and are trying to make a name for themselves. I > am far more highly qualified than either of them and yet I felt so > belittled. This place has become like a concentration camp. I got quite > scared because I have very little confidence in these situations and I > began to fear that maybe I was inept and slow, although I know this is > not true. But when I am treated bad I begin to feel really horrible > about myself. When my old manager returns from his holidays things will > improve. He has a very strong personality and really respects me as an > engineer. > > Any thoughts or ideas? > > Kaivey > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2010 Report Share Posted June 22, 2010 What do you need from the situation to feel better? > > > My supervisor is on holiday so the trainee general manager (TGM) has > taken his post. Our general manger can be strict and unfriendly and my > supervisor doesn't like him. And most of the workforce don't either. > > So I am working hard all day and I tell the T G M I didn't do a job > because it is in warrentyand I get a stern look from him. I was also too > busy to do it. Now my general manger (GM) is always telling me not to do > warrenty work. Later in th day I tell the TGM that I didn't have time > to finish a another particular job because I was too busy, but I give a > suggestion that he can use another machine over night instead and I can > finish this job tomorrow, but for some reason this manager say's this > can't be done. I then offer to stay on and do overtime which I don't > really want to do. But he then asks me if I had done this other job > which was low priority, and I said no and I got sour pursed lips look > from him again. Now I had asked him earlier in the day what was > priority. He then say's there no ovetime and the general manager is near > by listening in tsking note of everything. > > Later on the TCM calls me over and this field engineer who has arrived > and is looking at a warenty job that I had tried to fix the day before. > I didn't do a lot of work on it because it was in warrenty, but over > night the fault had cleared. The TGM gave me a look as if I had made a > mistake. To try to repair it the day before I had programmed it > differently but it made no difference, but now (today) it was working > okay under this different program, which is fine. The fault had been > brought to my attention by another engineer, so the fault was genuine. > > Later on the GM say's to my TCM have you told him (me) what happened and > he say's yes. Then the TGM say's how would you like to travel for 4 > hours and find that there is nothing wrong. I tell him it is the sort of > thing I like to find. He then say's he will be charged for wasting their > time. But I tell them it not my fault it self rectified. (This can be > common.) > > I found this hard to defuse from and to cope with the feelings. I can > see that they have got it in for me and seem to think that I am > generating overtime, and they might even think I'm slow and incompetant, > which is not true, I'm just very thorough. Now it was very intimitating > to be made to feel bad by a jumped nobnody (TGM) who knows nothing about > high precision electronic engineering and was a manager of a small > bakery before he got this job. > > These managers are new and are trying to make a name for themselves. I > am far more highly qualified than either of them and yet I felt so > belittled. This place has become like a concentration camp. I got quite > scared because I have very little confidence in these situations and I > began to fear that maybe I was inept and slow, although I know this is > not true. But when I am treated bad I begin to feel really horrible > about myself. When my old manager returns from his holidays things will > improve. He has a very strong personality and really respects me as an > engineer. > > Any thoughts or ideas? > > Kaivey > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2010 Report Share Posted June 23, 2010 Work was okay today. The trainee manager was as good as gold because the general manager (GM) wasn't there. It is obvious that the TM is only acting like that because this is what he thinks the GM wants. I supervisor will be back from holiday in a few weeks and he is not scared of the GM at all, so it will be okay then. I have decided that you can't fight management because they have all the power. Not over these sort of things anyway. I don't want any overtime at the momnent anyway because I hate it now after 20 years of 60 + hours a week. I just felt victimised. I allowed the anger to be in my body but I concentrated on my work instead. I then started to feel a sense of power and ease. I saw that I don't have to be a victim of my inner feelings. Kaivey > > > > > > My supervisor is on holiday so the trainee general manager (TGM) has > > taken his post. Our general manger can be strict and unfriendly and my > > supervisor doesn't like him. And most of the workforce don't either. > > > > So I am working hard all day and I tell the T G M I didn't do a job > > because it is in warrentyand I get a stern look from him. I was also too > > busy to do it. Now my general manger (GM) is always telling me not to do > > warrenty work. Later in th day I tell the TGM that I didn't have time > > to finish a another particular job because I was too busy, but I give a > > suggestion that he can use another machine over night instead and I can > > finish this job tomorrow, but for some reason this manager say's this > > can't be done. I then offer to stay on and do overtime which I don't > > really want to do. But he then asks me if I had done this other job > > which was low priority, and I said no and I got sour pursed lips look > > from him again. Now I had asked him earlier in the day what was > > priority. He then say's there no ovetime and the general manager is near > > by listening in tsking note of everything. > > > > Later on the TCM calls me over and this field engineer who has arrived > > and is looking at a warenty job that I had tried to fix the day before. > > I didn't do a lot of work on it because it was in warrenty, but over > > night the fault had cleared. The TGM gave me a look as if I had made a > > mistake. To try to repair it the day before I had programmed it > > differently but it made no difference, but now (today) it was working > > okay under this different program, which is fine. The fault had been > > brought to my attention by another engineer, so the fault was genuine. > > > > Later on the GM say's to my TCM have you told him (me) what happened and > > he say's yes. Then the TGM say's how would you like to travel for 4 > > hours and find that there is nothing wrong. I tell him it is the sort of > > thing I like to find. He then say's he will be charged for wasting their > > time. But I tell them it not my fault it self rectified. (This can be > > common.) > > > > I found this hard to defuse from and to cope with the feelings. I can > > see that they have got it in for me and seem to think that I am > > generating overtime, and they might even think I'm slow and incompetant, > > which is not true, I'm just very thorough. Now it was very intimitating > > to be made to feel bad by a jumped nobnody (TGM) who knows nothing about > > high precision electronic engineering and was a manager of a small > > bakery before he got this job. > > > > These managers are new and are trying to make a name for themselves. I > > am far more highly qualified than either of them and yet I felt so > > belittled. This place has become like a concentration camp. I got quite > > scared because I have very little confidence in these situations and I > > began to fear that maybe I was inept and slow, although I know this is > > not true. But when I am treated bad I begin to feel really horrible > > about myself. When my old manager returns from his holidays things will > > improve. He has a very strong personality and really respects me as an > > engineer. > > > > Any thoughts or ideas? > > > > Kaivey > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2010 Report Share Posted June 23, 2010 I am so glad you had a better day. I am in awe of your ability to have those bad feelings and still somehow end up with a feeling of power and ease. I see that is where I want to be but am not. Still so afraid that the anxiety is going to be more than I can handle and still keep functioning. Which particular ACT exercise would help with this?? > > > > > > > > > My supervisor is on holiday so the trainee general manager (TGM) has > > > taken his post. Our general manger can be strict and unfriendly and my > > > supervisor doesn't like him. And most of the workforce don't either. > > > > > > So I am working hard all day and I tell the T G M I didn't do a job > > > because it is in warrentyand I get a stern look from him. I was also too > > > busy to do it. Now my general manger (GM) is always telling me not to do > > > warrenty work. Later in th day I tell the TGM that I didn't have time > > > to finish a another particular job because I was too busy, but I give a > > > suggestion that he can use another machine over night instead and I can > > > finish this job tomorrow, but for some reason this manager say's this > > > can't be done. I then offer to stay on and do overtime which I don't > > > really want to do. But he then asks me if I had done this other job > > > which was low priority, and I said no and I got sour pursed lips look > > > from him again. Now I had asked him earlier in the day what was > > > priority. He then say's there no ovetime and the general manager is near > > > by listening in tsking note of everything. > > > > > > Later on the TCM calls me over and this field engineer who has arrived > > > and is looking at a warenty job that I had tried to fix the day before. > > > I didn't do a lot of work on it because it was in warrenty, but over > > > night the fault had cleared. The TGM gave me a look as if I had made a > > > mistake. To try to repair it the day before I had programmed it > > > differently but it made no difference, but now (today) it was working > > > okay under this different program, which is fine. The fault had been > > > brought to my attention by another engineer, so the fault was genuine. > > > > > > Later on the GM say's to my TCM have you told him (me) what happened and > > > he say's yes. Then the TGM say's how would you like to travel for 4 > > > hours and find that there is nothing wrong. I tell him it is the sort of > > > thing I like to find. He then say's he will be charged for wasting their > > > time. But I tell them it not my fault it self rectified. (This can be > > > common.) > > > > > > I found this hard to defuse from and to cope with the feelings. I can > > > see that they have got it in for me and seem to think that I am > > > generating overtime, and they might even think I'm slow and incompetant, > > > which is not true, I'm just very thorough. Now it was very intimitating > > > to be made to feel bad by a jumped nobnody (TGM) who knows nothing about > > > high precision electronic engineering and was a manager of a small > > > bakery before he got this job. > > > > > > These managers are new and are trying to make a name for themselves. I > > > am far more highly qualified than either of them and yet I felt so > > > belittled. This place has become like a concentration camp. I got quite > > > scared because I have very little confidence in these situations and I > > > began to fear that maybe I was inept and slow, although I know this is > > > not true. But when I am treated bad I begin to feel really horrible > > > about myself. When my old manager returns from his holidays things will > > > improve. He has a very strong personality and really respects me as an > > > engineer. > > > > > > Any thoughts or ideas? > > > > > > Kaivey > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2010 Report Share Posted June 23, 2010 A few years back I would have not handled it well at all. Also, I was so cash starved then, with my wacking great mortgage, that any loss of overtime would have been very distressing. If fact this did happen when this manager was a supervisor for 3 months 3 years ago. Luckily it didn't last. One way I handled this today was to just accept these unpleasant feelings. Just let them be there. I knew struggling and trying to make it go would only make things worse so I willingly suffered instead. I did this while trying to keep my focus on what I was doing. It wasn't easy. First thing in the morning my manager was desperate but I did this job to my usual high standard at reasonble speed much to his distress. I was going to write on this site that I found this imploding anger much more painful than any depresion I have ever experienced. Still, I began to feel better later on in the day and I saw that the trainee manager was a really nice guy. It was at this point I began to feel very guilty thinking I had made a storm in a teacup. My inner critic kicked in and I felt absolute shame and then I saw my mum's face in my mind. It was like I was 5 years old again and there she was hating me. I remembered how when I was young I would walk past her coat on the hook by the front door before she had got up and I would feel scared, sick, and worried. She did love me (so I foumd out later), but she was so unhappy with her life with my father at the time. She worked really hard to provide me food and cloths but was very resentful because she hated her life. So that's how it went today, I decided on acceptance which was damn hard. Fortunately, it started to get a lot easier by late morning. Kaivey > > > > > > > > > > > > My supervisor is on holiday so the trainee general manager (TGM) has > > > > taken his post. Our general manger can be strict and unfriendly and my > > > > supervisor doesn't like him. And most of the workforce don't either. > > > > > > > > So I am working hard all day and I tell the T G M I didn't do a job > > > > because it is in warrentyand I get a stern look from him. I was also too > > > > busy to do it. Now my general manger (GM) is always telling me not to do > > > > warrenty work. Later in th day I tell the TGM that I didn't have time > > > > to finish a another particular job because I was too busy, but I give a > > > > suggestion that he can use another machine over night instead and I can > > > > finish this job tomorrow, but for some reason this manager say's this > > > > can't be done. I then offer to stay on and do overtime which I don't > > > > really want to do. But he then asks me if I had done this other job > > > > which was low priority, and I said no and I got sour pursed lips look > > > > from him again. Now I had asked him earlier in the day what was > > > > priority. He then say's there no ovetime and the general manager is near > > > > by listening in tsking note of everything. > > > > > > > > Later on the TCM calls me over and this field engineer who has arrived > > > > and is looking at a warenty job that I had tried to fix the day before. > > > > I didn't do a lot of work on it because it was in warrenty, but over > > > > night the fault had cleared. The TGM gave me a look as if I had made a > > > > mistake. To try to repair it the day before I had programmed it > > > > differently but it made no difference, but now (today) it was working > > > > okay under this different program, which is fine. The fault had been > > > > brought to my attention by another engineer, so the fault was genuine. > > > > > > > > Later on the GM say's to my TCM have you told him (me) what happened and > > > > he say's yes. Then the TGM say's how would you like to travel for 4 > > > > hours and find that there is nothing wrong. I tell him it is the sort of > > > > thing I like to find. He then say's he will be charged for wasting their > > > > time. But I tell them it not my fault it self rectified. (This can be > > > > common.) > > > > > > > > I found this hard to defuse from and to cope with the feelings. I can > > > > see that they have got it in for me and seem to think that I am > > > > generating overtime, and they might even think I'm slow and incompetant, > > > > which is not true, I'm just very thorough. Now it was very intimitating > > > > to be made to feel bad by a jumped nobnody (TGM) who knows nothing about > > > > high precision electronic engineering and was a manager of a small > > > > bakery before he got this job. > > > > > > > > These managers are new and are trying to make a name for themselves. I > > > > am far more highly qualified than either of them and yet I felt so > > > > belittled. This place has become like a concentration camp. I got quite > > > > scared because I have very little confidence in these situations and I > > > > began to fear that maybe I was inept and slow, although I know this is > > > > not true. But when I am treated bad I begin to feel really horrible > > > > about myself. When my old manager returns from his holidays things will > > > > improve. He has a very strong personality and really respects me as an > > > > engineer. > > > > > > > > Any thoughts or ideas? > > > > > > > > Kaivey > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 24, 2010 Report Share Posted June 24, 2010 That is awesome Kaivey, it is good to see that you have become aware of your inner critic, and have managed to form some distance from it...it doesn't need to fixed or resisted, just observed, loved, and accepted...after all, it came from a lack of love and acceptance early on in your life... Sometimes you react to it, thats fine...when you notice that, just observe that...just a feeling A proactive way to bring forth healing is to intentionally bring on those thoughts, let yourself experience them, and the feelings that go along with it, and see that while it might be unpleasant, it isn't the boogie man one thinks it is... There is nothing one can't handle...only believing you can't Best, VC > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > My supervisor is on holiday so the trainee general manager (TGM) has > > > > > taken his post. Our general manger can be strict and unfriendly and my > > > > > supervisor doesn't like him. And most of the workforce don't either. > > > > > > > > > > So I am working hard all day and I tell the T G M I didn't do a job > > > > > because it is in warrentyand I get a stern look from him. I was also too > > > > > busy to do it. Now my general manger (GM) is always telling me not to do > > > > > warrenty work. Later in th day I tell the TGM that I didn't have time > > > > > to finish a another particular job because I was too busy, but I give a > > > > > suggestion that he can use another machine over night instead and I can > > > > > finish this job tomorrow, but for some reason this manager say's this > > > > > can't be done. I then offer to stay on and do overtime which I don't > > > > > really want to do. But he then asks me if I had done this other job > > > > > which was low priority, and I said no and I got sour pursed lips look > > > > > from him again. Now I had asked him earlier in the day what was > > > > > priority. He then say's there no ovetime and the general manager is near > > > > > by listening in tsking note of everything. > > > > > > > > > > Later on the TCM calls me over and this field engineer who has arrived > > > > > and is looking at a warenty job that I had tried to fix the day before. > > > > > I didn't do a lot of work on it because it was in warrenty, but over > > > > > night the fault had cleared. The TGM gave me a look as if I had made a > > > > > mistake. To try to repair it the day before I had programmed it > > > > > differently but it made no difference, but now (today) it was working > > > > > okay under this different program, which is fine. The fault had been > > > > > brought to my attention by another engineer, so the fault was genuine. > > > > > > > > > > Later on the GM say's to my TCM have you told him (me) what happened and > > > > > he say's yes. Then the TGM say's how would you like to travel for 4 > > > > > hours and find that there is nothing wrong. I tell him it is the sort of > > > > > thing I like to find. He then say's he will be charged for wasting their > > > > > time. But I tell them it not my fault it self rectified. (This can be > > > > > common.) > > > > > > > > > > I found this hard to defuse from and to cope with the feelings. I can > > > > > see that they have got it in for me and seem to think that I am > > > > > generating overtime, and they might even think I'm slow and incompetant, > > > > > which is not true, I'm just very thorough. Now it was very intimitating > > > > > to be made to feel bad by a jumped nobnody (TGM) who knows nothing about > > > > > high precision electronic engineering and was a manager of a small > > > > > bakery before he got this job. > > > > > > > > > > These managers are new and are trying to make a name for themselves. I > > > > > am far more highly qualified than either of them and yet I felt so > > > > > belittled. This place has become like a concentration camp. I got quite > > > > > scared because I have very little confidence in these situations and I > > > > > began to fear that maybe I was inept and slow, although I know this is > > > > > not true. But when I am treated bad I begin to feel really horrible > > > > > about myself. When my old manager returns from his holidays things will > > > > > improve. He has a very strong personality and really respects me as an > > > > > engineer. > > > > > > > > > > Any thoughts or ideas? > > > > > > > > > > Kaivey > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 24, 2010 Report Share Posted June 24, 2010 Years ago I tried a self help form of Primal Therapy on myself which was disasterous. Anyhow, I thought the theory was good and it made a lot of sense. Arthur Janov say's that when we are very young we build up a defence against inner pychic pain when we aren't loved properly. A child needs love to feel safe because it can't fend for itself, but without love it has no idea whether it will always be fed and looked after. This fear is enough to kill the baby/ child so it changes its behaivour to suit it parents - e.g, by not crying anymore. In adult life this changed behaviour becomes a neurosis and the person continues to use their defence to gain love. Now I'm not making claims that primal therapy has any truth to it, and it might be and natural and healthy for everyone to have defences. But this theory struck a cord with my life. A working neurosis is where a person succeeds in getting his needs met by covering his internal shame, feelings of inadequacy, and feelings of being unloveable. Example: a body builder develops an amazing physique and women love him and this overcomes his feelings of inadequacy. But if he puts on weight, and can't exercise because of ill health, and his body goes weedy his working neurosis breaks down and he expreiences his deepest fear and goes into a depression or anxiety state. Another example is film and rock stars who lose their fame and then fall into drug abuse and depression. Primal therapy was a way to get people to experience their fears in a safe but dramatic way so as to set them free of neurosis. It is a highly criticised therapy and might not work at all and could even be very dangerous. Still, the point for me is facing my worst fears, an ACT with it's acceptance and defusion has helped me to experience my darkest pain, and feelings of unatractiveness, in a safe way, although it can still be very difficult. Another reason I was attracted to Arhur Janov's therapy was because he was one of the few doctors around at the time who didn't buy into into the genetic view of mental illness and drug company propanganda. Kaivey > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > My supervisor is on holiday so the trainee general manager (TGM) has > > > > > > taken his post. Our general manger can be strict and unfriendly and my > > > > > > supervisor doesn't like him. And most of the workforce don't either. > > > > > > > > > > > > So I am working hard all day and I tell the T G M I didn't do a job > > > > > > because it is in warrentyand I get a stern look from him. I was also too > > > > > > busy to do it. Now my general manger (GM) is always telling me not to do > > > > > > warrenty work. Later in th day I tell the TGM that I didn't have time > > > > > > to finish a another particular job because I was too busy, but I give a > > > > > > suggestion that he can use another machine over night instead and I can > > > > > > finish this job tomorrow, but for some reason this manager say's this > > > > > > can't be done. I then offer to stay on and do overtime which I don't > > > > > > really want to do. But he then asks me if I had done this other job > > > > > > which was low priority, and I said no and I got sour pursed lips look > > > > > > from him again. Now I had asked him earlier in the day what was > > > > > > priority. He then say's there no ovetime and the general manager is near > > > > > > by listening in tsking note of everything. > > > > > > > > > > > > Later on the TCM calls me over and this field engineer who has arrived > > > > > > and is looking at a warenty job that I had tried to fix the day before. > > > > > > I didn't do a lot of work on it because it was in warrenty, but over > > > > > > night the fault had cleared. The TGM gave me a look as if I had made a > > > > > > mistake. To try to repair it the day before I had programmed it > > > > > > differently but it made no difference, but now (today) it was working > > > > > > okay under this different program, which is fine. The fault had been > > > > > > brought to my attention by another engineer, so the fault was genuine. > > > > > > > > > > > > Later on the GM say's to my TCM have you told him (me) what happened and > > > > > > he say's yes. Then the TGM say's how would you like to travel for 4 > > > > > > hours and find that there is nothing wrong. I tell him it is the sort of > > > > > > thing I like to find. He then say's he will be charged for wasting their > > > > > > time. But I tell them it not my fault it self rectified. (This can be > > > > > > common.) > > > > > > > > > > > > I found this hard to defuse from and to cope with the feelings. I can > > > > > > see that they have got it in for me and seem to think that I am > > > > > > generating overtime, and they might even think I'm slow and incompetant, > > > > > > which is not true, I'm just very thorough. Now it was very intimitating > > > > > > to be made to feel bad by a jumped nobnody (TGM) who knows nothing about > > > > > > high precision electronic engineering and was a manager of a small > > > > > > bakery before he got this job. > > > > > > > > > > > > These managers are new and are trying to make a name for themselves. I > > > > > > am far more highly qualified than either of them and yet I felt so > > > > > > belittled. This place has become like a concentration camp. I got quite > > > > > > scared because I have very little confidence in these situations and I > > > > > > began to fear that maybe I was inept and slow, although I know this is > > > > > > not true. But when I am treated bad I begin to feel really horrible > > > > > > about myself. When my old manager returns from his holidays things will > > > > > > improve. He has a very strong personality and really respects me as an > > > > > > engineer. > > > > > > > > > > > > Any thoughts or ideas? > > > > > > > > > > > > Kaivey > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 24, 2010 Report Share Posted June 24, 2010 PT is pseudoscience, and to be avoided like the plague. http://debunkingprimaltherapy.com/ M. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > My supervisor is on holiday so the trainee general manager (TGM) has > > > > > > > taken his post. Our general manger can be strict and unfriendly and my > > > > > > > supervisor doesn't like him. And most of the workforce don't either. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > So I am working hard all day and I tell the T G M I didn't do a job > > > > > > > because it is in warrentyand I get a stern look from him. I was also too > > > > > > > busy to do it. Now my general manger (GM) is always telling me not to do > > > > > > > warrenty work. Later in th day I tell the TGM that I didn't have time > > > > > > > to finish a another particular job because I was too busy, but I give a > > > > > > > suggestion that he can use another machine over night instead and I can > > > > > > > finish this job tomorrow, but for some reason this manager say's this > > > > > > > can't be done. I then offer to stay on and do overtime which I don't > > > > > > > really want to do. But he then asks me if I had done this other job > > > > > > > which was low priority, and I said no and I got sour pursed lips look > > > > > > > from him again. Now I had asked him earlier in the day what was > > > > > > > priority. He then say's there no ovetime and the general manager is near > > > > > > > by listening in tsking note of everything. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Later on the TCM calls me over and this field engineer who has arrived > > > > > > > and is looking at a warenty job that I had tried to fix the day before. > > > > > > > I didn't do a lot of work on it because it was in warrenty, but over > > > > > > > night the fault had cleared. The TGM gave me a look as if I had made a > > > > > > > mistake. To try to repair it the day before I had programmed it > > > > > > > differently but it made no difference, but now (today) it was working > > > > > > > okay under this different program, which is fine. The fault had been > > > > > > > brought to my attention by another engineer, so the fault was genuine. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Later on the GM say's to my TCM have you told him (me) what happened and > > > > > > > he say's yes. Then the TGM say's how would you like to travel for 4 > > > > > > > hours and find that there is nothing wrong. I tell him it is the sort of > > > > > > > thing I like to find. He then say's he will be charged for wasting their > > > > > > > time. But I tell them it not my fault it self rectified. (This can be > > > > > > > common.) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I found this hard to defuse from and to cope with the feelings. I can > > > > > > > see that they have got it in for me and seem to think that I am > > > > > > > generating overtime, and they might even think I'm slow and incompetant, > > > > > > > which is not true, I'm just very thorough. Now it was very intimitating > > > > > > > to be made to feel bad by a jumped nobnody (TGM) who knows nothing about > > > > > > > high precision electronic engineering and was a manager of a small > > > > > > > bakery before he got this job. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > These managers are new and are trying to make a name for themselves. I > > > > > > > am far more highly qualified than either of them and yet I felt so > > > > > > > belittled. This place has become like a concentration camp. I got quite > > > > > > > scared because I have very little confidence in these situations and I > > > > > > > began to fear that maybe I was inept and slow, although I know this is > > > > > > > not true. But when I am treated bad I begin to feel really horrible > > > > > > > about myself. When my old manager returns from his holidays things will > > > > > > > improve. He has a very strong personality and really respects me as an > > > > > > > engineer. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Any thoughts or ideas? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Kaivey > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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