Guest guest Posted June 8, 2010 Report Share Posted June 8, 2010 Hi Kaivey, Is this the same girlfriend who you said loved you unconditionally a few months ago (perhaps longer)? You often write about the wonderful girlfriend who really appreciates you and I was just curious if this is the same one as before. Either way, you are one fortunate guy to have either one or many loving women in your life! I'm so sorry that your parents didn't love you. I know what that feels like. Helena Loneliness I have this lovely girlfriend who really cares about me. Philosophers,and some psychologists, say unless you know the opposite, you will neverbe able to appreciate the good things. I have always had trouble withthat, because I'm sure that relentless beautiful sunny days would neverget boring. But my girlfriend loves me and so now I know that I havenever been loved. Wow! Unconditional love is so weird - I don't deserveit and yet I am loved! And it doesn't really make a lot of sense to meeither, because although it's really nice, surely by mathematics - Igive and then you give - you have to earn it? But perhaps not, I'm lovedfor just being me. Weird hey? No one has ever done that before.I used to think that to be successful you needed to be individual andthen you can kick some arse and be better than everyone else. But whenyou see all those monkeys up in the trees all hugging each other it'sreally cute, because they are with their freinds and they don't want tobe anywhere else. Now that's nice.Kaivey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 8, 2010 Report Share Posted June 8, 2010 its a great feeling maybe you can try it on yourself would start with questioning the idea that " I don't deserve it " there are no " should's " or " shouldn'ts " in this world, only WHAT IS and " WHAT IS " is what you are experiencing now, so obviously you do deserve it best, vc > > > I have this lovely girlfriend who really cares about me. Philosophers, > and some psychologists, say unless you know the opposite, you will never > be able to appreciate the good things. I have always had trouble with > that, because I'm sure that relentless beautiful sunny days would never > get boring. But my girlfriend loves me and so now I know that I have > never been loved. Wow! Unconditional love is so weird - I don't deserve > it and yet I am loved! And it doesn't really make a lot of sense to me > either, because although it's really nice, surely by mathematics - I > give and then you give - you have to earn it? But perhaps not, I'm loved > for just being me. Weird hey? No one has ever done that before. > > I used to think that to be successful you needed to be individual and > then you can kick some arse and be better than everyone else. But when > you see all those monkeys up in the trees all hugging each other it's > really cute, because they are with their freinds and they don't want to > be anywhere else. Now that's nice. > > Kaivey > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 8, 2010 Report Share Posted June 8, 2010 I know how that feels like too! I wish (my) parents would love their children unconditionally, without being approving, or judgemental, or critical, or shaming, etc etc. I had to deal w that in my adult life, and still am too, although much better now then before. Tom > > > > Hi Kaivey, > > > > Is this the same girlfriend who you said loved you unconditionally a few months ago (perhaps longer)? You often write about the wonderful girlfriend who really appreciates you and I was just curious if this is the same one as before.  Either way, you are one fortunate guy to have either one or many loving women in your life! > > > > I'm so sorry that your parents didn't love you. I know what that feels like. > > > > Helena > > > > > Loneliness > >  > > > > > > I have this lovely girlfriend who really cares about me. Philosophers, > and some psychologists, say unless you know the opposite, you will never > be able to appreciate the good things. I have always had trouble with > that, because I'm sure that relentless beautiful sunny days would never > get boring. But my girlfriend loves me and so now I know that I have > never been loved. Wow! Unconditional love is so weird - I don't deserve > it and yet I am loved! And it doesn't really make a lot of sense to me > either, because although it's really nice, surely by mathematics - I > give and then you give - you have to earn it? But perhaps not, I'm loved > for just being me. Weird hey? No one has ever done that before. > > I used to think that to be successful you needed to be individual and > then you can kick some arse and be better than everyone else. But when > you see all those monkeys up in the trees all hugging each other it's > really cute, because they are with their freinds and they don't want to > be anywhere else. Now that's nice. > > Kaivey > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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