New Member here....

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Greetings Everyone,

I am a new member and I wanted to tell you all a little about my situation. I

married my husband 9 years ago, a second marriage for us both. He was very

" different " from my ex, a bit quirky, focused, strong minded, orderly,

tempermental, etc. Although we could have fun together we never seemed to get

" on track " with one another. We would have several good days followed by a

temper tantrum, a shutting down emotionally, a disappearance for hours on end in

his shop, etc. I was always on edge wondering what was going on...what was I

doing (or not doing)to make this happen. Had I made a collosal mistake in

marrying him and if I did, how was I going to get out of it. His daughter (who

is a Nurse Practitioner) called me two years ago and out of the blue asked me

if I thought her Dad had Asperger's Syndrom. I had never heard of it before (and

I'm a nurse). I started researching it on line and I just about fell out of my

chair....my husband could be the poster child for Asperger's. I have since

purchased several books on the subject that are slanted towards what it is like

being a partner of an Aspie (rather than ones slanted towards kids and parents).

I am currently reading " Asperger's Syndrome in Long Term Relationships " and it

is so good and so comforting to finally discover what is happening between us.

It does not make his outbursts, stubborness, inability to communicate, etc. any

easier to take and there are times I am still ready to pack my bags and say

goodbye. But at least now I know what is going on and that it is not MY fault he

behaves the way he does. Anyhow...thanks for letting me join and if you are

interested I have LOTS of things to talk about.

PJ