Guest guest Posted July 14, 2010 Report Share Posted July 14, 2010 I sorry you had to deal with depression all your life. Well done for helping others suffering from depression, you must know a lot about the illness having suffered it for 54 years, that certainly is a lot of life experience about depression you must have a lot of knowledge to depart. Welcome, Andy > > Hi all > > My name is Francis. I am 67 married with no children retired and live in Northern Ireland. I have had depression for 54 years since the age of 13 and would now be in the advanced stages of recovery. For a project in retirement and I have taken on to do whatever possible to help fellow sufferers. In pursuit of that I did join yahoo depression support groups and co-own six and moderate four. The object of this is to offer empathy support and encouragement and where possible constructive advice. Also I am involved in several organizations whose purpose is to try to get a better deal in service provision for the mentally ill where I live. I am also a member of a 12 step depression recovery group. God bless and best wishes from Francis > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2010 Report Share Posted July 14, 2010 Bill gave some great advice My first piece would be to take a moment and accept yourself EXACTLY the way you are in this moment...perceived flaws and all...see if you can give that to yourself...be the acceptance that this division in you needs and is longing for...true acceptance and respect I would assume this sensitivity developed from childhood experiences...which is why it is a good reason to find it in you to accept yourself just as you are in this moment...it doesn't mean you can't make change, but it means, resisting and denying yourself as you are, will only further lead to empowering it What I am taking you to consider to be the issue is when you are perceived to be criticized...you hold on to it mentally, replay it endlessly, get critical of yourself, and all the emotions that are connected with it What you need to understand is that all that thought, is emanating from a previous unhealed wound, and generally probably has little to do with the actual present moment Many times we use thought as an escape from feeling feelings...this was completely necessary as a kid, as you didn't have the emotional and cognitive strength to deal with what you were feeling at the time...was too overwhelming What I would do, is to try to get to the bottom of what this criticism potentially says about you...my guess, is that it is something along the lines of " I am not good enough " , which isn't true AT ALL...once you get to it...allow yourself to feel it completely...in your body...let your body take lead, and feel whatever comes up...cry, shout, curse, punch...do whatever you need to do to... It will take time, but once the hurt is released...I suspect new perceived criticisms won't cause such a reaction You could also tell your father exactly how you feel, or if you can't do that...write it out to him Best, VC > > > > Hi all > > > > My name is Francis. I am 67 married with no children retired and live in Northern Ireland. I have had depression for 54 years since the age of 13 and would now be in the advanced stages of recovery. For a project in retirement and I have taken on to do whatever possible to help fellow sufferers. In pursuit of that I did join yahoo depression support groups and co-own six and moderate four. The object of this is to offer empathy support and encouragement and where possible constructive advice. Also I am involved in several organizations whose purpose is to try to get a better deal in service provision for the mentally ill where I live. I am also a member of a 12 step depression recovery group. God bless and best wishes from Francis > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2010 Report Share Posted July 14, 2010 hi Andy Thanks for your kind words! I have spent many years seeking for the answer to this illness and with this therapy I have found what certainly works for me. But the main lesson that the experience has taught me is the absolute necessity of using determination and perseverance to keep going on the journey to recovery no matter what my depression is mostly under control through the proper use of their therapy. I do hope and pray that all of us will successfully complete this journey. Have a great day. God bless and best wishes from Francis > > > > Hi all > > > > My name is Francis. I am 67 married with no children retired and live in Northern Ireland. I have had depression for 54 years since the age of 13 and would now be in the advanced stages of recovery. For a project in retirement and I have taken on to do whatever possible to help fellow sufferers. In pursuit of that I did join yahoo depression support groups and co-own six and moderate four. The object of this is to offer empathy support and encouragement and where possible constructive advice. Also I am involved in several organizations whose purpose is to try to get a better deal in service provision for the mentally ill where I live. I am also a member of a 12 step depression recovery group. God bless and best wishes from Francis > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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