Guest guest Posted March 27, 2010 Report Share Posted March 27, 2010 Liz Cademy wrote: << Don't mistake not knowing how to react for being cold. Many times we see the tears and sorrow and are at a complete loss as to what to do, so we do nothing. >> Well said, Liz. I would also like to add that this behavior is not only limited to those on the spectrum. NTs can be like this as well, especially when faced with difficult and/or awkward situations. Particularly those situations where they are not sure that their sympathy or comfort would be welcome. For example, my husband's friends and coworkers completely ignored me when my husband of 20 years died by suicide. Given the circumstances of his death, they just didn't know what to do so they did nothing. They also didn't really know the status of our marriage, given that they were aware that my husband also had a long-term girlfriend with whom they were already acquainted. Most of them didn't know me at all, so made no effort to seek me out and risk opening up a can of worms. It's possible that some of these people experienced emotions that they did not share with me, being too uncomfortable to do so. Best, ~CJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2010 Report Share Posted March 28, 2010  : Maybe it is more being validated then mocked? Just a thought. Thanks , that's why I left the list not that long ago, I felt mocked. Thanks for understanding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2010 Report Share Posted March 28, 2010 thank you Lowry www.brendaandwaynefamilypetservices.com Owner/Head Trainer Dyno Dogs Performing Dog Team Founder/Owner Kinder Way Canine Studies Become a Certified Dog Trainer, Behaviour and Aggression Consultant NEW!!! Become a Certified Dog /Pet Sitter NEW!!! Become a Professional Dog Groomer Professional Dog /Pet Sitter Professional Dog Groomer ABTA Certified Trainer Behavior Consultant Aggression Consultant C.A.P.P.D.T Ontario East Regional Rep C.A.P.P.D.T. I.P.D.T.A CKC CKC CGN Certified Evaluator ABC Mentor Trainer To: aspires-relationships Sent: Sat, March 27, 2010 6:12:49 PMSubject: Re: on I psychopath I may not recognize a lot of acronyms, but *that* one I can explain! POV = point of view ~"Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal."--Albert Camus Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry From: Lowry <sitdownstay@ rogers.com> Date: Sat, 27 Mar 2010 14:49:38 -0700 (PDT) To: <aspires-relationshi psyahoogroups (DOT) com> Subject: Re: [aspires-relationsh ips] on I psychopath what is an POV ? next time I feel mocked I will bring it up and ask the list to explain what is really happening then. Lowry www.brendaandwaynef amilypetservices .com Owner/Head Trainer Dyno Dogs Performing Dog Team Founder/Owner Kinder Way Canine Studies Become a Certified Dog Trainer, Behaviour and Aggression Consultant NEW!!! Become a Certified Dog /Pet Sitter NEW!!! Become a Professional Dog Groomer Professional Dog /Pet Sitter Professional Dog Groomer ABTA Certified Trainer Behavior Consultant Aggression Consultant C.A.P.P.D.T Ontario East Regional Rep C.A.P.P.D.T. I.P.D.T.A CKC CKC CGN Certified Evaluator ABC Mentor Trainer From: CJ <shahmeran@earthlink .net>To: aspires-relationshi psyahoogroups (DOT) comSent: Fri, March 26, 2010 11:13:06 PMSubject: Re: [aspires-relationsh ips] on I psychopath Lowry wrote:> I feel that NT's on this list are mocked.Really? Certainly not by me, I hope. I'm not any less fond of NTs than I am of AS folks, especially those whose POVs are not very well reasoned.Seriously, why do you feel that NTs (as people) are mocked?Best,~CJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2010 Report Share Posted March 28, 2010 Great point, CJ... > > > << No reason exists as to why I would want to mock a NT. It's called > having respect for others. If I respect others, my expectation is that > others will respect me as well. >> > > > <nod> I'm with you all the way, . > > I also don't understand why anyone would want to mock an entire group of > people. Certainly not all NTs (or any other group of people) are alike, > as each individual will have their own biases, prejudices, and > likes/dislikes. > > It's been my experience that when a person asserts that others are > contemptuous toward whatever group they represent, what they are really > saying is, " Because you don't agree with me 100%, you must > dislike/mock/disrespect/whatever all people like me " . > > This is an erroneous assumption and defensive reaction. Although it > does seem to be a popular one among people who may feel outnumbered in a > group. > > Best, > ~CJ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 29, 2010 Report Share Posted March 29, 2010 Maybe the answer is to take the time as an individual when you realize you are part of the group to let the alone person feel safe and accepted even though you may not agree w/their pov. History has shown us that it is so easy for a group to turn into a mob. I think a defensive reaction in such a situation is natural. ~ K D > > > It's been my experience that when a person asserts that others are > contemptuous toward whatever group they represent, what they are really > saying is, " Because you don't agree with me 100%, you must > dislike/mock/ disrespect/ whatever all people like me " . > > This is an erroneous assumption and defensive reaction. Although it > does seem to be a popular one among people who may feel outnumbered in a > group. > > Best, > ~CJ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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