Guest guest Posted March 18, 2011 Report Share Posted March 18, 2011 Dawn,I am so sorry you have experienced such a horrible betrayal from someone who you thought you knew better!It will be hard for your son for a while, but someone else will fill that need before you know it.Don't hold on to this for very long,it is said and I believe when God closes a door He opens a window.Look out your window and eventually you will feel better.Feel sorry for your ex-best friend, it is her loss and she will never know how great her life could have been with you in it. You have your Stills family to help you through this.A true friend would never stop being in your life because you were suffering losses, a true friend would be beside you going through it right along with you and offering help in any form necessary. love Elly  So my " best " friend of 10 years has decided that my life is " train wreck " and she cannot bare to watch anymore!  Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2011 Report Share Posted March 18, 2011 Hi Elly,Thank you for your kind words! My heart is broken but I will get up everyday and keep pushing forward - its all I can do - for my husband and my son. You're right - I am looking out my window and the sun is shining today! A good sign Dawn Subject: Re: who does that????? To: Stillsdisease Date: Friday, March 18, 2011, 9:27 AM Â Â Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2011 Report Share Posted March 18, 2011 Dawn  I feel for you and your son but also your husband as I wear his shoes so to speak. How can a person do this I really do not know but I could give you my ex wife's phone number and you could ask her and maybe just maybe she would tell you being she is one who did do some thing like your friend. She set me up for a divorce and even had me served the papers at my SSDI hearing before the hearing in front of the judge and my lawyer yet still stayed to testify in my behalf because she would get more money for child support threw ssdi then the normal court ordered. Now I know that dose not help you but may be this will I am now remarried to a woman that I can not see doing any of that and who is just as angry about it as I am. it did hurt both my kids big time yet one has a relationship with me that's very good and one well lets put it this way she acts like I am not her father at all. as for friends well most of mine also turned on me during this same time frame (first two years of having stills) now in life I have fewer friends but the ones I have are true friends. as they say if you want to know who your real friends are move or become critically ill well in your house hold having a husband that became ill with stills effects the whole family and is one reason I have always said to get counseling for that person and the whole family as not a person is left untouched by stills. I can say both my wife and my friends I know to this day I can call them and if they can it matters not what I ask they will do it if they can . now that is a true friend. one of my best friends I did lose but he passed away still it was a loss and a big one to me but as Elly said another was there later to take his place only he did not take his place he just made his own place in both my heart and my wife's. so have heart even in the pain there will be other people in your life some will come and stay others will come and go but each of the will bring an opportunity for you to grow from and even learn from so even now its not really a loss it only feels that way it was an opportunity you did take and now the time to move on has come so that new opportunity's have a chance to be with you down the line. so Dawn take it a bit lighter and know that down the line that better things are coming your way if your willing and ready to see them and receive them hugs      The  Redneck  Marty G       " I am having an out of money experience. " " No man's life, liberty, or property is safe while the legislature is in session. " ...............................Mark Twain (1866) To learn more about Stills Disease or to make a tax deductible donation:  http://www.stillsdisease.org/stills_info  ________________________________ To: stillsdisease Sent: Fri, March 18, 2011 6:01:56 AM Subject: who does that?????  So my " best " friend of 10 years has decided that my life is " train wreck " and she cannot bare to watch anymore!  As I mentioned before we had a tough year - we lost everything when my husband flared again last February (our house, our $, at times our sanity).  Who does that????? How could she turn her back on me like that - by email no less!! Also how did I not see the shear coldness that is obviously in her soul? The kicker is that her son in autistic.  I have been there for her, arranged and accompanied her on appointments, babysat for her...I know you don't GIVE to GET - that is not why I supported her But the irony of the situation is almost too much to bare! My son is/was best friends with her son - they have grown up together - are so close. I cry for him. What can I tell him? How will he ever understand this?  His Dad's illness has affected so much of his life - now this??! Love,Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2011 Report Share Posted March 19, 2011 Marty, thanks for the laugh (call you ex wife - LOL!). I am glad you have such a supportive group around you  I cried for 2 days and am now angry as hell. But you are all right - I will get past this.  And I will help my son get past it as well. He is in counseling already - we all are - so that should help. Thanks everyone for your kind words!Much love,Dawn Subject: Re: who does that????? To: Stillsdisease Date: Friday, March 18, 2011, 6:46 PM  Dawn  I feel for you and your son but also your husband as I wear his shoes so to speak. How can a person do this I really do not know but I could give you my ex Love,Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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