Re: Advice from Dann Doris & Donna

December 18, 2006

Hi Girls

Thank you so much for weighing in about our moms. It helps to know that one

is not alone. There are many similarities and YES there were subtle things

several years ago that I was just passing off as symptoms of old age. That is

until something happens that you just know isn't right which is how we all wind

up

rushing to the Dr and hear this terrible dx.

And talk about picking the battles! My mom is the queen of non cooperation. I

try to get her input on major decisions but it just adds to her confusion.

Sometimes it gets her so agitated she gets really nasty. I find that on the real

important stuff I just say mom this is what we need to do, I explain it to

her and then just proceed forward. Like this past summer when I signed her up

for supplimental health insurance. It was like pulling teeth. But two weeks

after her insurance was instated she wound up in the hospital with two emergency

surgeries. Last month I signed her up for the senior RX program. Another

battle. But with the cost of her meds and the possibility of the Dr adding other

meds I just had to do it. Gathering the paperwork for the upcoming senior

housing

move was another thing. I had to go through her paperwork and gather the

necessary items while she was fuming that I was controling her life. The next

thing will be selling her car. Although she has agreed to do it I expect that

when

the car is no longer there she will think I stole it.

We are all doing the best we can. Although I think most of the time my mom

thinks I am the bane of her existence. It is truly a thankless job. I am so

grateful for this group where we can share experiences, gather info and give

each

other the strokes we all deserve.

As the year comes to an end I review the events of the past 12 months. It has

been a rocky road for us. My MIL law passed away after a long period of

frailty. Mom had two back to back surgeries, we started our LBD journey and so

much

more. I look forward to the new year. A fresh chance to gain more knowledge

move forward and hopefully achieve peace and order atleast in my own small

world. If all goes well Mom will be moved closer to me and that will be a great

thing.

Thanks to all and may you all find some peace and joy in this holiday season.

& ginny 83 yrs.

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