Guest guest Posted December 12, 2006 Report Share Posted December 12, 2006 Dear Dena, I am sorry to hear of the change in your mother's status. She has lingered for so very long and you continue to be there for her. You are as prepared as one can be for what is ahead, but I know how it is pulling at your heart. Keep strong. > > > Dear Group > > > > My sisters and I met yesterday to discuss " end of > > life " for our > > Mother. I brought with me the e-mails and some of > > the links that you > > all sent to me. We especially found comfort in > > " Hard Choices " . > > We ran the gamut of emotions together. We talk > > about Mum as she used > > to be, we talked about how her life has been > > recently. We laughed, we > > cried and we have decided to let her go. I don't > > think any of us got > > much rest last night as we struggled with the > > " second guesses " but > > today we seem to have found some peace with our > > decision. It has been > > helpful that her doctor told us that he feels we > > have made the right > > decision and by chance one of Mum's oldest friends > > (her ex-boss and > > now an Anglican Bishop) heard about it, dropped by > > to see Mum and say > > some prayers today. She left us a the following > > note: > > > > " My heart goes out to you and your sisters. I know > > how painful that > > final vigil must be for you all. It is even harder > > to see your parent > > so changed from the one you grew up with and love so > > deeply. > > I commend you for the difficult decision not to get > > involved in heroic > > measures. Not only would Maggie not have wanted it > > but there really > > is no point in trying to restore her to the kind of > > confused half-life > > she has been living lately. At this stage of her > > life there are worse > > things than dying and I pray she will just slip away > > quietly. It > > could take a long time; the human body is > > extraordinarily strong even > > at the end. You have been and continue to be the > > kind of caring > > daughters every mother should have. God bless, Ann " > > > > I know there will be difficult days ahead. I want > > to thank all of you > > for your thoughts and prayers. > > > > Much love > > > > from Cresswell ON Canada > > Long distance CG to Margaret (Mum) aged 76 > > Moving to Palliative Care at Sunnybrook Hospital, > > Toronto, ON > > End Stages LBD > > > > > > > > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ > Have a burning question? > Go to www.Answers.yahoo.com and get answers from real people who know. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2006 Report Share Posted December 12, 2006 Hi My mom is a little better today. At least the Diarrhea has stopped. But the major problem is my Aunt. This is my mothers younger sister. She fell today at her home and was take my ambulance to the hosp. She broke the femur and dislocated her hip. She had surgery and is going to be in the hosp for a day or two and then moved to rehab. She is my favorite aunt, my confidant. I am so sad for her. I know she will have a long road to get back to where she should be. I am anxious to see her tomorrow. They are suppose to get her up in the morning. Oh, I am soooo tired. My daughter has a blood clot that is improving and in physical therapy three times a week to get the mobility back in her ankle. This is from a fall. My other Aunt was in a auto accident last Friday. She is doing fine, but without her car for a week. I just feel like I am under attack. I just want to get off of this ride. I think I just need to get to bed. I am exhausted. So I will write more when I can. Don't be alarmed if I don't get right back to you as I will be out most of the day for a while. Thank you for you thoughts and prayers. Dena --- stimtimminss wrote: > Dear Dena, > I am sorry to hear of the change in your mother's > status. She has lingered for so very long > and you continue to be there for her. You are as > prepared as one can be for what is > ahead, but I know how it is pulling at your heart. > Keep strong. > > > > > > > > Dear Group > > > > > > My sisters and I met yesterday to discuss " end > of > > > life " for our > > > Mother. I brought with me the e-mails and some > of > > > the links that you > > > all sent to me. We especially found comfort in > > > " Hard Choices " . > > > We ran the gamut of emotions together. We talk > > > about Mum as she used > > > to be, we talked about how her life has been > > > recently. We laughed, we > > > cried and we have decided to let her go. I > don't > > > think any of us got > > > much rest last night as we struggled with the > > > " second guesses " but > > > today we seem to have found some peace with our > > > decision. It has been > > > helpful that her doctor told us that he feels we > > > have made the right > > > decision and by chance one of Mum's oldest > friends > > > (her ex-boss and > > > now an Anglican Bishop) heard about it, dropped > by > > > to see Mum and say > > > some prayers today. She left us a the following > > > note: > > > > > > " My heart goes out to you and your sisters. I > know > > > how painful that > > > final vigil must be for you all. It is even > harder > > > to see your parent > > > so changed from the one you grew up with and > love so > > > deeply. > > > I commend you for the difficult decision not to > get > > > involved in heroic > > > measures. Not only would Maggie not have wanted > it > > > but there really > > > is no point in trying to restore her to the kind > of > > > confused half-life > > > she has been living lately. At this stage of > her > > > life there are worse > > > things than dying and I pray she will just slip > away > > > quietly. It > > > could take a long time; the human body is > > > extraordinarily strong even > > > at the end. You have been and continue to be > the > > > kind of caring > > > daughters every mother should have. God bless, > Ann " > > > > > > I know there will be difficult days ahead. I > want > > > to thank all of you > > > for your thoughts and prayers. > > > > > > Much love > > > > > > from Cresswell ON Canada > > > Long distance CG to Margaret (Mum) aged 76 > > > Moving to Palliative Care at Sunnybrook > Hospital, > > > Toronto, ON > > > End Stages LBD > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ > > Have a burning question? > > Go to www.Answers.yahoo.com and get answers from > real people who know. > > > > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Want to start your own business? Learn how on Yahoo! Small Business. http://smallbusiness.yahoo.com/r-index Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2006 Report Share Posted December 12, 2006 Sorry Dena, It sounds like " when it rains it pours " at your house. I would be tired also.. Get some rest. Things do look brighter after sleep. I am sorry about your daughter and your Aunt. And an auto accident on top of it all. Hope things get better soon. (((((Hugs))))) Donna R Caregave for Mom (after I brought her from WI to MI) for 3 years and 4th year in a nh. She was almost 89 when she died in '02. No dx other than mine. Re: Re: Decision/Dena Hi My mom is a little better today. At least the Diarrhea has stopped. But the major problem is my Aunt. This is my mothers younger sister. She fell today at her home and was take my ambulance to the hosp. She broke the femur and dislocated her hip. She had surgery and is going to be in the hosp for a day or two and then moved to rehab. She is my favorite aunt, my confidant. I am so sad for her. I know she will have a long road to get back to where she should be. I am anxious to see her tomorrow. They are suppose to get her up in the morning. Oh, I am soooo tired. My daughter has a blood clot that is improving and in physical therapy three times a week to get the mobility back in her ankle. This is from a fall. My other Aunt was in a auto accident last Friday. She is doing fine, but without her car for a week. I just feel like I am under attack. I just want to get off of this ride. I think I just need to get to bed. I am exhausted. So I will write more when I can. Don't be alarmed if I don't get right back to you as I will be out most of the day for a while. Thank you for you thoughts and prayers. Dena --- stimtimminss wrote: > Dear Dena, > I am sorry to hear of the change in your mother's > status. She has lingered for so very long > and you continue to be there for her. You are as > prepared as one can be for what is > ahead, but I know how it is pulling at your heart. > Keep strong. > > > > > > > > Dear Group > > > > > > My sisters and I met yesterday to discuss " end > of > > > life " for our > > > Mother. I brought with me the e-mails and some > of > > > the links that you > > > all sent to me. We especially found comfort in > > > " Hard Choices " . > > > We ran the gamut of emotions together. We talk > > > about Mum as she used > > > to be, we talked about how her life has been > > > recently. We laughed, we > > > cried and we have decided to let her go. I > don't > > > think any of us got > > > much rest last night as we struggled with the > > > " second guesses " but > > > today we seem to have found some peace with our > > > decision. It has been > > > helpful that her doctor told us that he feels we > > > have made the right > > > decision and by chance one of Mum's oldest > friends > > > (her ex-boss and > > > now an Anglican Bishop) heard about it, dropped > by > > > to see Mum and say > > > some prayers today. She left us a the following > > > note: > > > > > > " My heart goes out to you and your sisters. I > know > > > how painful that > > > final vigil must be for you all. It is even > harder > > > to see your parent > > > so changed from the one you grew up with and > love so > > > deeply. > > > I commend you for the difficult decision not to > get > > > involved in heroic > > > measures. Not only would Maggie not have wanted > it > > > but there really > > > is no point in trying to restore her to the kind > of > > > confused half-life > > > she has been living lately. At this stage of > her > > > life there are worse > > > things than dying and I pray she will just slip > away > > > quietly. It > > > could take a long time; the human body is > > > extraordinarily strong even > > > at the end. You have been and continue to be > the > > > kind of caring > > > daughters every mother should have. God bless, > Ann " > > > > > > I know there will be difficult days ahead. I > want > > > to thank all of you > > > for your thoughts and prayers. > > > > > > Much love > > > > > > from Cresswell ON Canada > > > Long distance CG to Margaret (Mum) aged 76 > > > Moving to Palliative Care at Sunnybrook > Hospital, > > > Toronto, ON > > > End Stages LBD > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ > > Have a burning question? > > Go to www.Answers.yahoo.com and get answers from > real people who know. > > > > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Want to start your own business? Learn how on Yahoo! Small Business. http://smallbusiness.yahoo.com/r-index Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2006 Report Share Posted December 13, 2006 Oh Dena -- when it rains it pours, doesn't it. I HATE that saying BTW... Keeping you, your mom, and your family in my thoughts & prayers. Here's hoping that things settle down for you -- and hopefully you received your much needed rest! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2006 Report Share Posted December 13, 2006 ok dena, i am the sole owner of what was formerly known as murphys law but is now known as andersen-murray law. am soooo sorry that your family is going thru so much, sending POSITIVIE THOUGHTS and POSITIVE ACTIONS your way to move the dark cloud over and let the sun shine thru hugs, sharon m ---- Dena LEAVITT wrote: Hi My mom is a little better today. At least the Diarrhea has stopped. But the major problem is my Aunt. This is my mothers younger sister. She fell today at her home and was take my ambulance to the hosp. She broke the femur and dislocated her hip. She had surgery and is going to be in the hosp for a day or two and then moved to rehab. She is my favorite aunt, my confidant. I am so sad for her. I know she will have a long road to get back to where she should be. I am anxious to see her tomorrow. They are suppose to get her up in the morning. Oh, I am soooo tired. My daughter has a blood clot that is improving and in physical therapy three times a week to get the mobility back in her ankle. This is from a fall. My other Aunt was in a auto accident last Friday. She is doing fine, but without her car for a week. I just feel like I am under attack. I just want to get off of this ride. I think I just need to get to bed. I am exhausted. So I will write more when I can. Don't be alarmed if I don't get right back to you as I will be out most of the day for a while. Thank you for you thoughts and prayers. Dena --- stimtimminss wrote: > Dear Dena, > I am sorry to hear of the change in your mother's > status. She has lingered for so very long > and you continue to be there for her. You are as > prepared as one can be for what is > ahead, but I know how it is pulling at your heart. > Keep strong. > > > > > > > > Dear Group > > > > > > My sisters and I met yesterday to discuss " end > of > > > life " for our > > > Mother. I brought with me the e-mails and some > of > > > the links that you > > > all sent to me. We especially found comfort in > > > " Hard Choices " . > > > We ran the gamut of emotions together. We talk > > > about Mum as she used > > > to be, we talked about how her life has been > > > recently. We laughed, we > > > cried and we have decided to let her go. I > don't > > > think any of us got > > > much rest last night as we struggled with the > > > " second guesses " but > > > today we seem to have found some peace with our > > > decision. It has been > > > helpful that her doctor told us that he feels we > > > have made the right > > > decision and by chance one of Mum's oldest > friends > > > (her ex-boss and > > > now an Anglican Bishop) heard about it, dropped > by > > > to see Mum and say > > > some prayers today. She left us a the following > > > note: > > > > > > " My heart goes out to you and your sisters. I > know > > > how painful that > > > final vigil must be for you all. It is even > harder > > > to see your parent > > > so changed from the one you grew up with and > love so > > > deeply. > > > I commend you for the difficult decision not to > get > > > involved in heroic > > > measures. Not only would Maggie not have wanted > it > > > but there really > > > is no point in trying to restore her to the kind > of > > > confused half-life > > > she has been living lately. At this stage of > her > > > life there are worse > > > things than dying and I pray she will just slip > away > > > quietly. It > > > could take a long time; the human body is > > > extraordinarily strong even > > > at the end. You have been and continue to be > the > > > kind of caring > > > daughters every mother should have. God bless, > Ann " > > > > > > I know there will be difficult days ahead. I > want > > > to thank all of you > > > for your thoughts and prayers. > > > > > > Much love > > > > > > from Cresswell ON Canada > > > Long distance CG to Margaret (Mum) aged 76 > > > Moving to Palliative Care at Sunnybrook > Hospital, > > > Toronto, ON > > > End Stages LBD > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ > > Have a burning question? > > Go to www.Answers.yahoo.com and get answers from > real people who know. > > > > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Want to start your own business? Learn how on Yahoo! Small Business. http://smallbusiness.yahoo.com/r-index -- I am daugher of Leonard, diagnosed May 2004, probably had lbd since 1993,.Dad had a serious fall in 7/05 causing him to hav hip surgery .After that he developed aspiration pneumonia 7/05 with pulmonary embolyis, which he almost died from. He had a 2nd bout of aspiration pneumonia and uti 8/05. He died when his blood pressure fluctuations started dropping without coming back up on 9/25/05, may he rest in peace with his mom and dad, a smile a day keeps the meanies away Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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