in Dallas

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Hi -

Thank you for the update on your mom. I remember

discussing behaviors with you regarding my dad and

your mom over the years. I appreciate your view

that the behaviors aren't about you but about your

mom. I remember there were days though that

my dad's words went straight to the heart. I picked

myself up, dusted myself off and kept on going

with love.

Thinking about you today, wishing you well, sending

up prayers for you and your mom with hugs-

Sandie

Des Moines, IA

dad, Merle, passed from LBD 9-20-02, age 65

-- Re: Nasties - Do you ever get used to it - etc.

My Mother has had a lot of trouble with being verbally abusive to me

and my Father. It has gotten easier to deal with, but there are those

days that it gets to me. My Mother was never this way before LBD, so

it was very obvious to me that it was caused by LBD, but that didn't

make it that much easier to take. For awhile it worked to tell her

that I wouldn't be treated that way, but that stopped working as the

disease has progressed.

I have developed a filter in my mind and when she starts in on me, I

just barely hear it. I think it's the same kind of filter that

husbands develop for their wives and wives develop for their husbands.

You filter out the noise and listen for those key phrases that

indicate real information is being transmitted.

When I start feeling bad about how my Mother has treated me, I tell

myself that its not about me, it's about her. I have taken care of her

needs and that's the most important thing. This helps me feel better

about myself.

in Dallas

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