when is enough enough

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Hi all I am im Brighton MI. my wife left January ,and our son is with my folks , wife stated that i was controling ,and verbaly abusing her <we have been married 7years as of sept. she filed for divorce. she was diagnosed A/S dec. 17 left 15 Jan. son is ward of state. it is so hard. I do understand all the pain.

Dave

Subject: when is enough enoughTo: aspires-relationships Date: Saturday, August 1, 2009, 1:09 AM

Scooter: Sometimes all U can do is 1 day at a time.

I hope your visit goes well.

I am dealing with this with the "munkins," WHY is daddy not coming home and we can only see him some times? Young kids have a hard time with this concept.

We and I mean their support network continues to offer them as much stability as possible. All we can do is love them and make them feel safe while keeping a safe and consistent routine.

Let us know how it goes?

I spoke with her counselor a couple of times the last two days. She is not seeing things improving in fact she suggested we limit stays to hours not days. I asked my wife to not come this weekend on account of the girls and me not being ready to see her. It hurt me to do that. We are going to meeting on Saturday so she can see the girls for a few hours. This was at the suggestion of her counselor. I thank everyone for your words of advice, encouragement and experience. I told my daughters that mommy was not coming but that she was still sick and we would be going to see her. There is a lot of sadness, hurt, even some anger which is not good in any relationship. My daughters understand I hope that mommy loves them and I feel I have to protect them and my wife from further damage. One day at a time!Scooter

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DaveI am sorry things are not going well for you. I am sorry about the divorce that can't be easy. Although I am not seeing divorce as a solution to my situation it seems inevitable in many ways! ScooterSent from my BlackBerry Smartphone provided by AlltelFrom: dave naumowicz Date: Sat, 1 Aug 2009 09:09:36 -0700 (PDT)To: <aspires-relationships >Subject: Re: when is enough enough Hi all I am im Brighton MI. my wife left January ,and our son is with my folks , wife stated that i was controling ,and verbaly abusing her <we have been married 7years as of sept. she filed for divorce. she was diagnosed A/S dec. 17 left 15 Jan. son is ward of state. it is so hard. I do understand all the pain. DaveFrom: Newland <opubendbroadband>Subject: when is enough enoughTo: aspires-relationships Date: Saturday, August 1, 2009, 1:09 AM Scooter: Sometimes all U can do is 1 day at a time. I hope your visit goes well. I am dealing with this with the "munkins," WHY is daddy not coming home and we can only see him some times? Young kids have a hard time with this concept. We and I mean their support network continues to offer them as much stability as possible. All we can do is love them and make them feel safe while keeping a safe and consistent routine. Let us know how it goes? I spoke with her counselor a couple of times the last two days. She is not seeing things improving in fact she suggested we limit stays to hours not days. I asked my wife to not come this weekend on account of the girls and me not being ready to see her. It hurt me to do that. We are going to meeting on Saturday so she can see the girls for a few hours. This was at the suggestion of her counselor. I thank everyone for your words of advice, encouragement and experience. I told my daughters that mommy was not coming but that she was still sick and we would be going to see her. There is a lot of sadness, hurt, even some anger which is not good in any relationship. My daughters understand I hope that mommy loves them and I feel I have to protect them and my wife from further damage. One day at a time!Scooter

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I do not wan't the divorce , but this is a no fault state, i truly don't have any experts to correct the control/abuse statements / i also have no lawyer due to being laid off Jan 16 / not termated. I do have bunches of information on A/S and the possiable distruction to family and nonasperger partner. But my lawyer for the child protestion case(appointed to me) stated it is hearsay.

From: Newland <opubendbroadband (DOT) com>Subject: [aspires-relationsh ips] when is enough enoughTo: aspires-relationshi psyahoogroups (DOT) comDate: Saturday, August 1, 2009, 1:09 AM

Scooter: Sometimes all U can do is 1 day at a time.

I hope your visit goes well.

I am deali! ng with this with the "munkins," WHY is daddy not coming home and we can only see him some times? Young kids have a hard time with this concept.

We and I mean their support network continues to offer them as much stability as possible. All we can do is love them and make them feel safe while keeping a safe and consistent routine.

Let us know how it goes?

I spoke with her counselor a couple of times the last two days. She is not seeing things improving in fact she suggested we limit stays to hours not days. I asked my wife to not come this weekend on account of the girls and me not being ready to see her. It hurt me to do that. We are going to meeting on Saturday so she can see the girls for a few hours. This was at the suggestion of her counselor. I thank everyone for your words of advice, encouragement and experience. I told my daughters that mommy was not coming but that she was still sick and we would be going to see her. There is a lot of sadness, hurt, even some anger which is not good in any relationship. My daughters understand I hope that mommy loves them and I feel I have to protect them and my wife from further damage. One day at a

time!Scooter

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That is tough. We have been involved with child protection although it was voluntary, we sought help, it was not fun but am glad we had it. The counselors have been great in the process. AS takes on many forms and shows itself in many ways. Each and every situation is different just as every person is different. Sent from my BlackBerry Smartphone provided by AlltelFrom: dave naumowicz Date: Sat, 1 Aug 2009 09:29:15 -0700 (PDT)To: <aspires-relationships >Subject: Re: when is enough enough I do not wan't the divorce , but this is a no fault state, i truly don't have any experts to correct the control/abuse statements / i also have no lawyer due to being laid off Jan 16 / not termated. I do have bunches of information on A/S and the possiable distruction to family and nonasperger partner. But my lawyer for the child protestion case(appointed to me) stated it is hearsay.From: Newland <opubendbroadband (DOT) com>Subject: [aspires-relationsh ips] when is enough enoughTo: aspires-relationshi psyahoogroups (DOT) comDate: Saturday, August 1, 2009, 1:09 AM Scooter: Sometimes all U can do is 1 day at a time. I hope your visit goes well. I am deali! ng with this with the "munkins," WHY is daddy not coming home and we can only see him some times? Young kids have a hard time with this concept. We and I mean their support network continues to offer them as much stability as possible. All we can do is love them and make them feel safe while keeping a safe and consistent routine. Let us know how it goes? I spoke with her counselor a couple of times the last two days. She is not seeing things improving in fact she suggested we limit stays to hours not days. I asked my wife to not come this weekend on account of the girls and me not being ready to see her. It hurt me to do that. We are going to meeting on Saturday so she can see the girls for a few hours. This was at the suggestion of her counselor. I thank everyone for your words of advice, encouragement and experience. I told my daughters that mommy was not coming but that she was still sick and we would be going to see her. There is a lot of sadness, hurt, even some anger which is not good in any relationship. My daughters understand I hope that mommy loves them and I feel I have to protect them and my wife from further damage. One day at a time!Scooter

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Thanks , it is very rough, she don't want to get help at all. i did send her a book called betending to be normal with A/S i don't believe she read it, and this state of Michigan states, since we are married she was not able to get help untill she filed seperate /and do the divorce. She aslo has seizures, i am in strong belief that the atusim is trigering them, and she is very heavy depresed.

Dave

From: Newland <opubendbroadband (DOT) com>Subject: [aspires-relationsh ips] when is enough enoughTo: aspires-relationshi psyahoogroups (DOT) comDate: Saturday, August 1, 2009, 1:09 AM

Scooter: Sometimes all U can do is 1 day at a time.

I hope your visit goes well.

I am deali! ng with this with the "munkins," WHY is daddy not coming home and we can only see him some times? Young kids have a hard time with this concept.

We and I mean their support network continues to offer them as much stability as p! ossible. All we can do is love them and make them feel safe while keeping a safe and consistent routine.

Let us know how it goes?

I spoke with her counselor a couple of times the last two days. She is not seeing things improving in fact she suggested we limit stays to hours not days. I asked my wife to not come this weekend on account of the girls and me not being ready to see her. It hurt me to do that. We are going to meeting on Saturday so she can see the girls for a few hours. This was at the suggestion of her counselor. I thank everyone for your words of advice, encouragement and experience. I told my daughters that mommy was not coming but that she was still sick and we would be going to see her. There is a lot of sadness, hurt, even some anger which is not good in any relationship. My daughters understand I hope that mommy loves them and I feel I have to protect them and my wife from further damage. One day at a

time!Scooter

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She is not able to care for our son untill she accepts the A/S and gets councling to learn the skills, she has put our son in many dangers ,wich i did turn her in for it cause i love her. Yes in a way she did we both gave temp custy to my folks , but kow she has been stopped from flat out giving up her right .

Dave

Subject: when is enough enoughTo: aspires-relationships Date: Saturday, August 1, 2009, 12:53 PM

Hi Dave:

How come your wife is not seeking custody? Did she leave your child behind when she left U?

I am really sorry for your pain.

I do not wan't the divorce , but this is a no fault state, i truly don't have any experts to correct the control/abuse statements / i also have no lawyer due to being laid off Jan 16 / not termated. I do have bunches of information on A/S and the possiable distruction to family and nonasperger partner. But my lawyer for the child protestion case(appointed to me) stated it is hearsay.

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but now she has been stopped from flat out giving up her right .

Dave

Hi Dave:

Giving up her parental rights????????