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Wow! What I deal with is quite the opposite. He has no concern at all for the

house. After sealing the drive way he tracked the black tar through the house.

He appears to have no order in his life. He throws garbage on the floor in his

car. He leaves his stuff everywhere. There is so much that will simply remain

undone if I do not prod him a bit. When projects are started in the house, he

generally takes months even years to finally button them up. He would tell you

it's because he's been so busy. But truth be told, there are countless

Saturdays when he did absolutely nothing to make progress and he COULD have.

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I absolutely wish you the best. I wish I had answers for you. I was raised to believe divorce was wrong, so it was terribly hard on me when he filed, we're still going through the process and it's awful. If you've ever seen the movie Sleeping with the Enemy, near the beginning the wife runs around the house making sure everything is perfect, the towels in the bathroom hang perfectly straight, the cans in the cupboard all face the correct

direction and are perfectly lined up, I did things like that and that's the tip of the iceberg, till I finally had such a decline in health I wound up in the hospital. I couldn't do it anymore, it was all one sided and I ran myself into the ground. He would even notice if I cleaned the bathroom and his toothbrush was facing the wrong way when I put it back. So in my case things were just

completely out of control. There are Aspies and NT's out there who do have good marriages, I hope you will be one of those.My best,From: samcmasterjuno <samcmasterjuno>Subject: Re: Fw: Re: Re: Christmas with an AspieTo: aspires-relationships Date: Wednesday, December 2, 2009, 6:05 PM

My counselor told me that 80% of marriages like this end in divorce. I'd like to hear from the 20% how they managed to stick it out because I do not want divorce to be an option for many reasons, my four boys being the first.

I think one thing that I have had to learn is that he is different. It is a diff-ability. And his manor of functioning, although quite draining on me at times, is not an intentional attach on me. It would be easy for the NT in the relationship to think they are superior to the Apsie and to treat them as such. I can see how this lack of respect could chew at the core of the marriage. We all have both strengths and weaknesses. Seeing a person for what they have to offer the relationship and not for what they don't is important.

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