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Hi -

Does your mom have Internet access?

Wish I had helpful information to offer for the

aggressive behavior. So sorry I don't. My

dad struggled with them for atleast the last

3 years of his life. Nothing seemed to help

him. Possibly the fact that he had been given

Ativan, without my knowledge it was a terrible

drug to give him, could have been the beginning

to the end. Once I figured it out I had it stopped.

If your mom has Internet access there is

a caringspouses site. Might be beneficial

to her.

You truly are a dear daughter for helping out

the way you are. You took me to times when

I would sit, hold my dad's hands, and help him

through some tough times. It was so tough on

the outside and just broke my heart wondering

how he was feeling inside.

Kia Kaha is Maori for Stay Strong-

Sandie and

-- Re: Agressive behavior

Hi

i am relatively new to the aggressive behaviours part with my Dad, but I

when he had an episode this week i talked to him about what had angered him

and his issue was the environment and the amount of money my mum was

spending by hoovering he calls her the vulture sometimes and told me that he

could see two cleaners in the house one who was the vulture and the other

who was Sheila (my mum) i sat with him and held his hand and basically

agreed with what he was saying but about the environment and the amount of

waste in the world but that by being mean to my mum and hurting her was not

accceptable, he could rationalize some of what I was saying but said if i

left he would prevent her from leaving the couch - the whole episode took

about 30 minutes to calm him. He asked me if I loved him but wouldn't look

at me (it's like he is the child and i am the parent) - today he was calm

and we talked about his teaching days but will ask me to repeat stories that

we have discussed a

short while before. I told my mum about this board and I am going to

print out some of the messages here to show her she is not alone and that

she is not going mad. Valleire my dad went into respite two weeks ago for

four days to help my mum and everyone there thought he was a complete

sweetheart and a gentleman (which he can be), but earlier this week he was

anything but. Currently my dad is on senimet, arosit, donepezil and

seratolin (sorry I know this spellings are all wrong). Some are for

parkinsons, depression - the drooling which at the moment is very bad (any

advice would be welcome.

xx

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