Guest guest Posted July 28, 2009 Report Share Posted July 28, 2009 Hi Thanks for this, I'm looking forward to seeing this film when its released .. The reviews of this film in the UK have been most positive too. Hugh Dancy, who plays Adam, seems to be very supportive in explaining his understanding of the traits of AS to his interviewers. He said that the AS is just part of a bigger story and isnt the story itself: 'Its just a story of two people trying to make contact. The story is a delicate line between humour, difficulty, romance and naivety'. The Sunday Herald (Glasgow) arts magazine went to great lengths to explain AS as its headline story: 'Autistic Spectrum Disorders are thought to affect 1 in a 100 people in the UK. As one such disorder, AS is easier to define than it is to understand. People with the condition find it hard to read facial expressions and body language; they struggle to pick up social cues, and have trouble filtering out background noise or distractions. In particular, AS impairs the ability to understand the thoughts and emotions of others, making it hard to form relationships. To the unitiated, someone with AS can seem rigid, indifferent, rude, selfish, thoughtless or plain childish.' When I read that out to Ian he thought it was one of the best descriptions of AS he had heard. They put AS on the front cover of their arts magazine. Whoo whoo! Ian, of course, had to say 'so we are trendy now, are we!' Good to see that AS is getting its share of the mainstream arts! Howison has been 'out' about his AS for some time, as has Numan. I'm sure there are many other AS writers, artists and boho's out there, as well as the scientists and matheticians... Judy B, humble NT Subject: New movie - AdamTo: "aspires-relationships" <aspires-relationships >Date: Tuesday, 28 July, 2009, 7:03 AM Adam A boy-meets-girl, aspie-meets- NT romantic comedy Written and Directed by Max Mayer reviewed by Faith Kappenberg, Ph.D., L.C.S.W Adam is about a young man who has lived an isolated existence until his father dies and he meets a new neighbor, Beth. She is a cosmopolitan young woman who has her own anxieties about romance, family and loss. As they become friends, Adam’s blunt, quirky qualities are off-putting and endearing. When their friendship snags, he explains how being a person with Asperger’s sets him apart from NT’s (neurotypicals, i.e., people who do not have autism). Max Mayer, writer and director of Adam, has directed more than 50 plays and prestigious TV shows, including, “Alias†and “The West Wing.†To Mayer, “the bottom line is that all relationships are difficult, and full of misunderstandings, because that’s how we’re wired… a story like this gets at the idea that we all have a kind of innocence at our core where we can still touch each other.†The film has an exquisitely cast ensemble of Hugh Dancy (The Jane Austen Book Club), Rose Byrne (Damages), and veteran actors Amy Irving, Gallagher and ie Faison. Winter scenes of Central Park draw you into Adam’s solitude as it soothes his disappointments and nourishes his deep understanding of the natural world. Adam was a wise title; its simplicity highlights Adam’s individuality as a total person. This is not a story about every 29 year old with AS. It is just about Adam, who has traits, talents, epiphanies and struggles that many adults with AS experience. To those of us who are connected to autism, Adam may initially seem stereotyped. Yet, the film develops many universal themes that are touching, humorous and generate soul searching. For people who have never had a connection to a person with autism or Asperger’s, Adam will be sensitizing. Parents and therapists may wish to prep younger viewers and family members, and be prepared afterwards to talk with them about the film. Faith Kappenberg is a Psychotherapist and consultant s specializing in Asperger's and related learning differences, complex cases, transition planning and residential placement; member of AHA Professional Advisory Board Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2009 Report Share Posted July 28, 2009 Thanks , I appreciate your research and postings, always illuminating. Ian and I are not married by the way, but we have been living together for 11 years, 5 of which have been with the knowledge of AS, and as such, we have much more confidence in our long term prospects than we would have had before diagnosis. That is also very much due to this list, and the people in it. The reason we havent married is that Ian hates the decision making aspect - where who why what when - and I had one marriage that was horrible, so we are happy to plod on as we are. Judy B, married in spirit Subject: New movie - AdamTo: aspires-relationships Date: Tuesday, 28 July, 2009, 10:49 AM  Judy: I am looking FF to the movie as well. It previews in a part of my state that I do not live in (( Congratulations on Ian's books. I was unable to open the attachments and congratulations on your marriage. Your are a shiny example of "how" a mixed marriage "can" work! Reading your posts has been a true inspiration for many. The best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2009 Report Share Posted July 28, 2009 Hi Judy,I feel like being an AS: If my home state of California, anyone who lifves together for at least 7 years is married in "common law", and has the same legal protections as if they had gone through the ceremony. I believe that this legal theory derives from something in Old Time England, so think you may actually be married, even though you don't know : ~ ) , playing Angel's Advocate...From: JUDY BARROW To: aspires-relationships Sent: Tuesday, July 28, 2009 6:04:48 AMSubject: Re: New movie - Adam Thanks , I appreciate your research and postings, always illuminating. Ian and I are not married by the way, but we have been living together for 11 years, 5 of which have been with the knowledge of AS, and as such, we have much more confidence in our long term prospects than we would have had before diagnosis. That is also very much due to this list, and the people in it. The reason we havent married is that Ian hates the decision making aspect - where who why what when - and I had one marriage that was horrible, so we are happy to plod on as we are.. Judy B, married in spirit From: Newland <opubendbroadband (DOT) com>Subject: [aspires-relationsh ips] New movie - AdamTo: aspires-relationshi psyahoogroups (DOT) comDate: Tuesday, 28 July, 2009, 10:49 AM  Judy: I am looking FF to the movie as well. It previews in a part of my state that I do not live in (( Congratulations on Ian's books. I was unable to open the attachments and congratulations on your marriage. Your are a shiny example of "how" a mixed marriage "can" work! Reading your posts has been a true inspiration for many. The best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2009 Report Share Posted July 28, 2009 Hi ,I want 2 C this movie- I could not get in 2 the free showings where I live because they were all booked, but I M waiting 4 it 2 come 2 my town. It sounds gr8!A boy-meets-girl, aspie-meets- NT romantic comedy Written and Directed by Max Mayer reviewed by Faith Kappenberg, Ph.D., L.C.S.W Adam is about a young man who has lived an isolated existence until his father dies and he meets a new neighbor, Beth. She is a cosmopolitan young woman who has her own anxieties about romance, family and loss. As they become friends, Adam’s blunt, quirky qualities are off-putting and endearing. When their friendship snags, he explains how being a person with Asperger’s sets him apart from NT’s (neurotypicals, i.e., people who do not have autism). Max Mayer, writer and director of Adam, has directed more than 50 plays and prestigious TV shows, including, “Alias†and “The West Wing.†To Mayer, “the bottom line is that all relationships are difficult, and full of misunderstandings, because that’s how we’re wired… a story like this gets at the idea that we all have a kind of innocence at our core where we can still touch each other.†The film has an exquisitely cast ensemble of Hugh Dancy (The Jane Austen Book Club), Rose Byrne (Damages), and veteran actors Amy Irving, Gallagher and ie Faison. Winter scenes of Central Park draw you into Adam’s solitude as it soothes his disappointments and nourishes his deep understanding of the natural world. Adam was a wise title; its simplicity highlights Adam’s individuality as a total person. This is not a story about every 29 year old with AS. It is just about Adam, who has traits, talents, epiphanies and struggles that many adults with AS experience. To those of us who are connected to autism, Adam may initially seem stereotyped. Yet, the film develops many universal themes that are touching, humorous and generate soul searching. For people who have never had a connection to a person with autism or Asperger’s, Adam will be sensitizing. Parents and therapists may wish to prep younger viewers and family members, and be prepared afterwards to talk with them about the film. Faith Kappenberg is a Psychotherapist and consultant s specializing in Asperger's and related learning differences, complex cases, transition planning and residential placement; member of AHA Professional Advisory Board Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2009 Report Share Posted July 28, 2009 Princess wrote: > > > Hi Judy, > > I feel like being an AS: If my home state of California, [ ...snip ] California? I don't think I knew that. Where from, pray? Born elsewhere (in transit), I landed first in Los Angeles (a year or two), then Oxnard (kindergarten) and final Ventura (all subsequent schooling through two years of college). Berkeley ever since. - Bill, dx AS -- WD " Bill " Loughman - Berkeley, California USA http://home.earthlink.net/~wdloughman/wdl.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2009 Report Share Posted July 29, 2009 Hi Bill,I was born in C a s t r o V a l l e y, not far from Walnut Creek, but my family moved south when I was not quite 3: I lived in Alhambra, then A ltadena, then went 2 school in P asadena. I have family in several different places- primarily to the South. In an ironic twist, my NT sister lives in Camarillo, and works on the old site of the California State Institution where many of those with developmental disabilities were housed till Reagan and others helped dismantle the funding for that, and caused them to be released back into the community with supports (at present: the transition period was scary, and there were times when thoise supports were inadequate in cases). She works in a building that used to house inmates. There but for the Grace of God, ...She is quite close to Oxnard of course. I think berkeley is absolutely beautiful! I like San Fran as well, but it is too cold and windy for my tastes, though I like the artsiness of the city in a lot of ways. Do you ever get south?The next time I fly out to visit my sister, it would be great to get together. To: aspires-relationships Sent: Tuesday, July 28, 2009 5:48:12 PMSubject: Re: New movie - Adam Princess wrote: > > > Hi Judy, > > I feel like being an AS: If my home state of California, [ ...snip ] California? I don't think I knew that. Where from, pray? Born elsewhere (in transit), I landed first in Los Angeles (a year or two), then Oxnard (kindergarten) and final Ventura (all subsequent schooling through two years of college). Berkeley ever since. - Bill, dx AS -- WD "Bill" Loughman - Berkeley, California USA http://home. earthlink. net/~wdloughman/ wdl.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2009 Report Share Posted July 29, 2009 JUDY BARROW << The reason we havent married is that Ian hates the decision making aspect - where who why what when - and I had one marriage that was horrible, so we are happy to plod on as we are.. >> Are you really happy with this arrangement, or are you simply resigned instead? I ask because there are so many legal advantages to marriage, and it's a shame that you would be expected to forego them merely because your partner " hates the decision making aspect " . Could marriage be something that he would be willing to do because it might mean something to you? I apologize in advance if I'm causing offense... I don't intend to. I guess I just could never imagine myself making a lifetime commitment to anyone who is unwilling to commit to married life with me. Best, ~CJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2009 Report Share Posted July 29, 2009 AAAH In Scotland the laws are different, so although we have legal rights in terms of, he cant run off with the Barrow family silver (if there were any), or have his mitts on my bank account, we can part at any time, only involving an advocate if we need to, in terms of who gets the record collection. Judy B From: Newland <opubendbroadband (DOT) com>Subject: [aspires-relationsh ips] New movie - AdamTo: aspires-relationshi psyahoogroups (DOT) comDate: Tuesday, 28 July, 2009, 10:49 AM  Judy: I am looking FF to the movie as well. It previews in a part of my state that I do not live in (( Congratulations on Ian's books. I was unable to open the attachments and congratulations on your marriage. Your are a shiny example of "how" a mixed marriage "can" work! Reading your posts has been a true inspiration for many. The best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2009 Report Share Posted July 29, 2009 Interesting! To: aspires-relationships Sent: Wednesday, July 29, 2009 6:20:17 AMSubject: Re: New movie - Adam AAAH In Scotland the laws are different, so although we have legal rights in terms of, he cant run off with the Barrow family silver (if there were any), or have his mitts on my bank account, we can part at any time, only involving an advocate if we need to, in terms of who gets the record collection. Judy B From: Newland <opubendbroadband (DOT) com>Subject: [aspires-relationsh ips] New movie - AdamTo: aspires-relationshi psyahoogroups (DOT) comDate: Tuesday, 28 July, 2009, 10:49 AM  Judy: I am looking FF to the movie as well. It previews in a part of my state that I do not live in (( Congratulations on Ian's books. I was unable to open the attachments and congratulations on your marriage. Your are a shiny example of "how" a mixed marriage "can" work! Reading your posts has been a true inspiration for many. The best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 Princess wrote: > Hi Bill, > > I was born in C a s t r o V a l l e y, not far from Walnut Creek, but I have friends in both places. > my family moved south when I was not quite 3: I lived in Alhambra, then > Altadena, then went 2 school in Pasadena. Which is my wife's hometown. > I have family in several > different places- primarily to the South. In an ironic twist, my NT > sister lives in Camarillo, I know it well. Er, used to. But no current contacts anymore. [ snip ] > I think berkeley is absolutely beautiful! I like San Fran as well, but > it is too cold and windy for my tastes, though I like the artsiness of > the city in a lot of ways. Do you ever get south? Berkeley was a *lot* nicer 50 years ago. Rather less so now.. > > The next time I fly out to visit my sister, it would be great to get > together. Certainly it's possible, with just a little planning. We both have little reason to go south now, with both our parents gone and almost all relatives having moved away. But one of my wife's sisters still lives and works in the general Pasadena/Altadena area. And we've very good friends in Culver City, who we don't see so much anymore (same reasons). For both families we *do* drive south every so often. So let's think about it; ...no promises. - Bill, dx AS; but not isolationist, yet. -- WD " Bill " Loughman - Berkeley, California USA http://home.earthlink.net/~wdloughman/wdl.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 Hi Bill,Definitely! I will email if I am headed out that way- it would sure be fin! Where in Pasadena did your wife life? Feel free to email off-list if you don't like posting really personal info on list.To: aspires-relationships Sent: Thursday, July 30, 2009 8:49:15 PMSubject: Re: New movie - Adam Princess wrote: > Hi Bill, > > I was born in C a s t r o V a l l e y, not far from Walnut Creek, but I have friends in both places. > my family moved south when I was not quite 3: I lived in Alhambra, then > Altadena, then went 2 school in Pasadena. Which is my wife's hometown. > I have family in several > different places- primarily to the South. In an ironic twist, my NT > sister lives in Camarillo, I know it well. Er, used to. But no current contacts anymore. [ snip ] > I think berkeley is absolutely beautiful! I like San Fran as well, but > it is too cold and windy for my tastes, though I like the artsiness of > the city in a lot of ways. Do you ever get south? Berkeley was a *lot* nicer 50 years ago. Rather less so now.. > > The next time I fly out to visit my sister, it would be great to get > together. Certainly it's possible, with just a little planning. We both have little reason to go south now, with both our parents gone and almost all relatives having moved away. But one of my wife's sisters still lives and works in the general Pasadena/Altadena area. And we've very good friends in Culver City, who we don't see so much anymore (same reasons). For both families we *do* drive south every so often. So let's think about it; ...no promises. - Bill, dx AS; but not isolationist, yet. -- WD "Bill" Loughman - Berkeley, California USA http://home. earthlink. net/~wdloughman/ wdl.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 Princess wrote: > Hi Bill, > > Definitely! I will email if I am headed out that way- it would sure be > fin! Where in Pasadena did your wife life? A few blocks away from Cal Tech. As I think we discussed, a long while back, her father was the long-time Caltech-Y Secretary (ie Big Wheel). > Feel free to email off-list > if you don't like posting really personal info on list. > > > > *From:* WD Loughman > *To:* aspires-relationships > *Sent:* Thursday, July 30, 2009 8:49:15 PM > *Subject:* Re: New movie - Adam [ snip ] > > The next time I fly out to visit my sister, it would be great to get > > together. > > Certainly it's possible, with just a little planning. [ snip ] - Bill, dx AS -- WD " Bill " Loughman - Berkeley, California USA http://home.earthlink.net/~wdloughman/wdl.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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