Regarding Joey == RESPONSE

[Guest guest]

Dear W & R Friends:

OH MY!!!! Yes it is with " great shock and grief " to

hear this sudden and very, very sad news about

's passsing.

She was such a giving and compassionate person.

Her heart was always kind and expressed so much

love to people. I was first introduced to her on a

different Group and followed her on to this Group

where I knew she would continue to offer supportive

comments to people about something she had a passion

for .... and that is getting people off SSRI's.

and made a wonderful partnership on

the other Group, and they continued an even stronger

working relationship here on this W & R Group because

their contributions and different skills-talents-gifts

complimented each other sooooo well !!! left the

technical medical information for while

offered what she did best and that was caretaking and

giving compassionate support she was soooo good at, by

encouraging people with her confidence that they could

and would make it through withdrawal ... and reminding

people that it is the drugs, it is the drugs !!!!!!!!

She was passionate about helping people reclaim their

lives into a " non-drugged " state, especially after having

her marriage destroyed and most family relationships

destroyed because of their opposing views on these

" poisons " .... as she stood firm that these mind-altering

drugs had horrific side-effect SSRI issues that she

witnessed, experienced, and lived .... " first hand " . Not

to mention all the people she interacted with on internet

Groups and witnessed their challenging and similar

stories, as well.

She tried sooooo hard to get Bob off his drugs as she

watched him deteriorate and was so badly affected, and

unfortunately experienced resistance from him, family

members on both sides, and the VA Doctors who refused to

accept that the drugs were mind-altering and had changed

him sooooo drastically. Needless to say, the challenges she

was up against took their toll on her, her marriage and her

family relationships. Now the truth is out on a global level,

and Bob is finally tapering ...... but soooo much damage had

already occured that changed her life and lifestyle so

drastically.

Over a year ago I sent a post about how difficult it is to

get people to change/stop self-destructing when they see

change as so threatening and how they perceive that change

means we don't like them the way they are. She began

writing to me privately and we exchanged " many " wonderful

thoughts about this and how spouses and family can think

our support is actually an attempt to remold them into

another person. This is so far from the truth!!!! I shared

alot of things I learned about this resistance and that

kind of mindset .... which she wrote back to me " over and

over again " about how much what I learned and passed on

to her had helped her maintain her sanity through their

marital separation.

I will truly miss !!!! She was such a kind, compassionate,

caring, and loving person ..... Too bad Bob and many family

members on " both sides " did NOT acknowledge that she was

really expressing facts and true love for Bob as a human

being as she witnessed how the drugs changed who he was

and is.

One thing we know for certain is how much she loved her

daughter, how proud she was of her, how was Niki's

best advocate in Niki's developmental years!!!! She was

sooo proud that Niki went on to graduate not just from

high school, but from college !!!! She knew that Niki's

creativity would take her far in life and was soooo proud

of her accomplishments and the level-headed person Niki is.

What a loss...................

but leaves many, many wonderful memories we will

ALL cherish and she leaves a shining legacy. She spoke

the truth.........

I am a better person for having known !!!!!

In " great " sadness... Jan

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[Guest guest]

It suddenly struck me how truly selfless was. Here she was dishing

out daily advice to us all, when in reality, she was more ill than the lot

of us combined.

It would have been nice to have had the opportunity to tell her how much

she meant to us.

Debs

[Guest guest]

Dear Debbie,

You said:

<<It suddenly struck me how truly selfless was. Here she was dishing

out daily advice to us all, when in reality, she was more ill than the lot

of us combined.

It would have been nice to have had the opportunity to tell her how much

she meant to us.>>

** Put it out there. She'll hear it.

Hugs,

[Guest guest]

Dear Jan,

This is a lovely tribute to . Would you like to pick the parts of it

you want posted in memory of her at

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Withdrawal_and_Recovery/files/In%20Memory%20of

%20/inmemory.htm

Hugs,