Dont know how to change myself...

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Hi,its very interesting to read your posts and to discover new attitudes. i would also like to share my problem. its also about liking someone, i know its a problem already, but cant think of useful solution.the main problem is that when i like someone more than a friend somehow it happens that a person seems to be escaping from this.i really dont know how, but it seems i make some unseen pressure, and person just wants to escape. i really dont want to do this but dont really imagine how it happens. and then afterwards i am always very sad when they choose others...and start to think only of them and seek for way of communication. for now i am a bit improved and try not to write first when i see it happened like this. but it doesnt mean i stop thinking about them. if it happened once i would think its just life, but now i see it happened all the times like this.

some friends say that i am in love with love not with a person. some say that i am living in illusions and that to like someone is not enough some days. because now i like someone till i get the situation i described, and then i find someone again new and the situation is repeating. i would really to overcome it somehow, i try to be more busy to think philosophically...but i cant find happines and joy in living. really would like to find the method not to repeat this bad situations anymore...i know i am just a person with good and bad things like everybody of us, but just it seems other suceed more in this type communication at least for a short time...

thanks a lot,