Acceptance

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> I 'd be interested in people's comments on acceptance vs. putting

> up with or tolerating.

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> I feel like I'm trying to accept but the thoughts still have power

> over me.

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> Thanks,

> Bruce

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"Putting up with" still contains a "no" - it is typically experienced as draining, not vital. Also, when you say "trying," it suggests there is something hard in this. It can be useful to see "what is hard?" Check it out and see if where you find "hard" there is not also a "no" in there. "No" is a place where "hard" likes to hang out. See, in some hard moment, what the impact is of just letting go of "no" for a moment.peacek G. 205 Peabody BuildingPsychology DepartmentUniversity of MississippiOxford, MS 38677ph: fax: (do not use either of these during summer)(do not leave messages on office phone)ph: (best phone number, also best for messages)fax: homepage: http://www.olemiss.edu/working/kwilson/kwilson.htm I 'd be interested in people's comments on acceptance vs. putting up with. I feel like I'm trying to accept but the thoughts still have power over me.Thanks,BruceIn the U.S., classes in some college/university curricula are given numbers in the hundreds. A 101 class will be the basic introductory course in any discipline. Example: Spanish 101, Introduction to the Spanish language. Spanish 400/800 would be an advanced class for Spanish majors (400) and graduate students (800). Does that help clarify that Mindfulness 101 is mindfulness for beginners or mindfulness made simple? Of course, in the true spirit of mindfulness, we're always beginners. :-) LaurelFrom: Jesus C <jcc1777yahoo (DOT) es>Subject: GOOYMIYL page 100To: "ACT Group" <ACT_for_the_Public >Date: Friday, October 24, 2008, 2:52 PMHi, there's a expression "Mindfulness 101", I didn't understand it. Could someone explain it?Thanks in advance.Peace.

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I had a pretty rought time last week and I found that for me the key

to acceptance and defussion was mindfulness, and I stayed as much I

could in the pressent. This caused me to work, walk, and eat slowly.

I often focussed on my breath and the feel of my feet stepping on

the floor. I liked the slowness and sometimes there was stillness and

I loved hearing the sounds around me. I realised how fast my mind

normally goes and I could see why I was so worn out. I kept thinking

of non striving.

Being so mindful takes a lot of discipline and I was often tempted to

get into a chat with myself. I might start forming in my mind

something very interesting to say to someone but I had to

resist. Resistance was allowing conversations to start but letting

them go and getting back to mindfulness. It really helped last week

and sometimes I experienced - but only for a few moments at a time -

peace. Now I know what it is like, I really want this - those

buddhists have got something.

This week I am not so bad and mindfulness is less easy to do because

I am less disciplined, but I still working at it. I used to have a

peaceful mind once, I dream of getting back there.

Kavy

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> > I 'd be interested in people's comments on acceptance vs.

putting

> > up with or tolerating.

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> > I feel like I'm trying to accept but the thoughts still have

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> > over me.

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> > Thanks,

> > Bruce

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Hi Helena,

I agree with you 100%. I started Mindfulness Meditation several years

ago, and it was teaching me to get out of my mind and become an

observer of my thoughts and feelings. Just to accept them for what

they were - just thoughts and feelings, not relevant to the present.

Just a product of my past experiences and conditionings. Not to judge,

or try to change or fix them. Just remain in the present moment, out

of my mind and it's thoughts, feelings, urges etc.

Now I've come across ACT, which verifies all I've learned in the past

and is teaching me much more than just Mindfulness Meditation. It

seems to be the answer to how to deal with all the negative and self

destructive thoughts and feelings my mind keeps dishing out to me.

What I get is to STAY OUT OF MY MIND AND INTO MY (NEW) lIFE. I am

really studying the Book to verify what I've already learned and to

proceed on to learning to live a more satisfying life - detached from

my mind.

Jim B