Feeling like a total goober today

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I would just like to get some feedback about how you would incorporate ACT into the following scenario and how you would deal with this type of situation.

I have been playing on a soccer league on and off (both women's and co-ed) for the past 4 years. I mainly go because I enjoy being outside and getting the exercise and have always been athletically inclined. Although, after today, I'm wondering if I should give up playing soccer all together and just stick to individual sports.

I'm feeling down because a group of women I play with on occasion have never really been that friendly to me nor have they really accepted me as part of their team. I have always been (since day one) one of the outsiders. I play more or less on an intermediate level and occasionally have my very good days but overall I believe that these women have already labeled me as a not-so-good player (although I play better than some of the other woman that are in this tight knit clique) and essentially shrug me off and I've even caught one of them saying things about me on the field. Today, after our scrimmage, one of the girls started talking about putting together a fall series team and was complaining about not having enough players yet she never once asked me to play with them (while I was standing there). She asked everyone else there on the field. Yes, I felt very hurt and

wondered if I've been wasting my time these last four years. I would like to play more competitively and I do think I have a lot of potential but their attitude towards me basically kills what little self confidence I have, which, of course, affects my playing as well.

So, I guess my questions are these:

1. How does one get past the prejudices and judgment that other players have about you and still do 'your' best and enjoy the game or is it pretty much a lost cause?

2. Are these signs that I should move on from this sport and dapple in something else?

3. How can I apply ACT in this situation? Basically, I am having a hard time accepting myself and my limitations right now given their attitude towards me.

I would also just appreciate any thoughts or advice you might have about this. It makes me somewhat sad because soccer has been a big part of my life for the last four years but maybe it is time to move on...

Thanks!

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