Guest guest Posted May 11, 2008 Report Share Posted May 11, 2008 Sandy, Thanks! I agree with you about Daneka! I think you are very nice as well, and you are wiling to go way out of your comfort zone to learn all you can. Dahlberg wrote: Daneka I couldn't agree with you more about your beautiful description about . you are a gem (as in diamond.) And Daneka, so are you. Sandy Re: Face blind - Thanks ,I actually printed your description out to keep. It's absolutely fascinating how you've managed so thoughtfully to break down the steps of recognizing someone. You're very resourceful and creative. There's some irony there. You, who I've come to know through your posts, are a real "people person" in the sense that you seem very interested in other people's concerns. You're very encouraging to others, very generous in your advice, and very kind in your judgments. Yet, there's the face blindness that leads some people to think you're "stuck up." I do exactly the opposite. I just returned from a week away to attend my son's grammar school reunion in LA. I haven't seen these people in over 10 years, and they've all changed in significant ways - some have gained weight, hair color and style is different, some now wear eye glasses, age affects facial features, etc. I instantly recognized every one, yet I could not tell you if any one of them has smile lines or a straight nose. The prominent features I could - one friend has unusually dark eyes, another has very large teeth when she smiles, and another has a very prominent nose. For the most part, though, I could recognize them instantly but couldn't tell you their particular facial features. After reading your description, I tried to think of how exactly I recognize them, and I can't come up with an answer. I definitely take in an overall snapshot, subconsciously .I have more questions. (1) I forget whether you make eye contact. My understanding is that some with Aspergers have less trouble with eye contact than others. Do the two go together, so that if you do make eye contact, are you more likely to remember that person out of context? (2) When you approach someone or someone approaches you, do you actually mentally go through the process you described? for everyone or just more casual acquaintances? Is your checklist always there, like a library or a mental spreadsheet? so that someone you met a year ago would have a "coordinate, " and if you're given the time to match their particular features, you'd recognize them? (3) Do you think that part of not recognizing someone is that you are "in the moment" when you see them, so that at church, people are more familiar because you're mental state is open to visiting with people following the service. On the other hand, when you bump into someone across town, your mind is somewhere else not expecting to see them, so that they're sort of a distraction. My husband, AS, is not face blind, but he can appear to be face blind because his normal mental state is intense focus. He is literally jolted out of his own mental place when he unexpectedly meets someone. Very interesting that face blindness is NOT typical of people with Aspergers. I've got to run, but I thank you very much for your response. Daneka Hi ,You mentioned that you were face blind. Would you mind describing what exactly that means? I've heard descriptions before, but they always sort of assumed that it was a self-evident term.Are there varying degrees? For instance, can you read a face in one setting, but not recognize it in another. Does it happen to people you've known for a long time?Also, is that different from not being able to read facial expressions and other nonverbal signals? My husband is able to read obvious expressions but misses the more subtle ones. I hope you don't mind all the questions.thanks,Daneka Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 11, 2008 Report Share Posted May 11, 2008 I'll say this much. Over the period of time I've been on here, I've developed a great amount of respect for and others, even if I may disagree with people from time to time. I am grateful that everyone who has made contributions to this group are on here. I am thankful/grateful to all of you who have put up with some of the things I have said in here as well. > Hi , > You mentioned that you were face blind. Would you mind describing what exactly that means? I've heard descriptions before, but they always sort of assumed that it was a self-evident term. > Are there varying degrees? For instance, can you read a face in one setting, but not recognize it in another. Does it happen to people you've known for a long time? > Also, is that different from not being able to read facial expressions and other nonverbal signals? My husband is able to read obvious expressions but misses the more subtle ones. > I hope you don't mind all the questions. > thanks, > Daneka > > ________________________________ > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > > ________________________________ > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > > ________________________________ > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 11, 2008 Report Share Posted May 11, 2008 Way to go, I am glad to see that things are going well for you. > Can you recognize actresses and actors on TV? Is it easier in a 2 dimensional rather than 3 dimensional framework? After you know a person for years do you still have trouble? > > I have lots of white and black and different color friends, but I know people who are white who can't recognize different black people. I always found that interesting. > > Sandy > > > Re: [aspires-relationsh ips] Face blind - > > > > > I have taken the faceblind test online. I found out that I was below par in face recognition. Mainly to do with people who I might meet and expect to see only in certain places and I do not recognise them outside that context. > > This becomes a realproblemin a crowd if you are looking for someone and cannot see them. I have often walked right past people when looking for them to my embarrassment. They do not accept that I did not see them. > Greg > dx AS at 53 > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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