Re: ...PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.

[Guest guest]

our dear friend,

There is absolutely no need to apologize

for the content of your letter. You are simply and honestly sharing a

specific and most important thing that has happened in your life, and one that

is of crucial significance in your AS journey.

This sort of occasion, a ‘coming out’

as it were, has occurred in many of our lives, maybe at times in small intimate

circles, and sometimes in bigger settings. You obviously had a

pretty good understanding of your church community and just how it ought to

support you. It has fulfilled itself, and well and truly paid off.

It is most gratifying these days to find that many more people than we care to

imagine, know about Aspergers, and surprisingly often have had first hand

experience of it.

I’m sure that everyone of us here on

the List, regardless of religious (or non) affiliations is quite delighted that

you have found such splendid support and comfort in your life. You are on

a great and fascinating life journey. May it continue with many more

highlights and some great discoveries.

All the very best,

Ron.

From:

aspires-relationships

[mailto:aspires-relationships ]

On Behalf Of

Sent: Monday, 31 December 2007

10:24 AM

To: aspires-relationships

Subject:

How this morning went...PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE..read the disclaimer first

[Guest guest]

,

I am so glad to hear that this went well for you. I was working as an "Education Minister" and some of the people expressed that they thought there was something "Different" about me. I was not openly social and I did not like people to close in my space.I shared with the other minister working with me that I had Asperger's. He asked a few questions and then stated that the few people that were questioning these things may not want me to represent them any more and with in three days I was fired with out a reason . I did try to fight this but the labor laws stated that there were to few employees to make an "official" case against them. I have gone into my "space" and want very little outside of it . I have been working on my skills and there are some that think I am doing very well but I do not trust "people" I can not read them and I can not process conversations . This has been a huge set back for me. There are people in my life that just do not understand this withdrawal into my "space" and I do not know how to find words to fit ..that is if I could say the words out loud...I accept that I have Asperger's. If anyone who has ever experienced this kind of withdrawal help me to see why or how I can get out??

Thank you for listening..

Marjory

RE: ...PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.

our dear friend,

There is absolutely no need to apologize for the content of your letter. You are simply and honestly sharing a specific and most important thing that has happened in your life, and one that is of crucial significance in your AS journey.

This sort of occasion, a ‘coming out’ as it were, has occurred in many of our lives, maybe at times in small intimate circles, and sometimes in bigger settings. You obviously had a pretty good understanding of your church community and just how it ought to support you. It has fulfilled itself, and well and truly paid off. It is most gratifying these days to find that many more people than we care to imagine, know about Aspergers, and surprisingly often have had first hand experience of it.

I’m sure that everyone of us here on the List, regardless of religious (or non) affiliations is quite delighted that you have found such splendid support and comfort in your life. You are on a great and fascinating life journey. May it continue with many more highlights and some great discoveries.

All the very best,

Ron.

From: aspires-relationships [mailto:aspires-relationships ] On Behalf Of Sent: Monday, 31 December 2007 10:24 AMTo: aspires-relationships Subject: How this morning went...PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE..read the disclaimer first

[Guest guest]

Thank you, Ron... I am glad you have expressed this. Makes me feel

better now that I have mentioned how this morning went. I see

momentum starting to build and carrying over into 2008.

>

> our dear friend,

>

>

>

> There is absolutely no need to apologize for the content of your

letter.

> You are simply and honestly sharing a specific and most important

thing that

> has happened in your life, and one that is of crucial significance

in your

> AS journey.

>

>

>

> This sort of occasion, a 'coming out' as it were, has occurred in

many of

> our lives, maybe at times in small intimate circles, and sometimes

in bigger

> settings. You obviously had a pretty good understanding of your

church

> community and just how it ought to support you. It has fulfilled

itself,

> and well and truly paid off. It is most gratifying these days to

find that

> many more people than we care to imagine, know about Aspergers, and

> surprisingly often have had first hand experience of it.

>

>

>

> I'm sure that everyone of us here on the List, regardless of

religious (or

> non) affiliations is quite delighted that you have found such

splendid

> support and comfort in your life. You are on a great and

fascinating life

> journey. May it continue with many more highlights and some great

> discoveries.

>

>

>

> All the very best,

>

> Ron.

>

>

>

>

>

> _____

>

> From: aspires-relationships

> [mailto:aspires-relationships ] On Behalf Of

> Sent: Monday, 31 December 2007 10:24 AM

> To: aspires-relationships

> Subject: How this morning went...PLEASE

PLEASE

> PLEASE..read the disclaimer first

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you, Marjory. I was fired from the very reason I came down

here in the first place - a position I took with a well-known

organization in the area. Everyone thought the experience on my

resume was incredible, my references were excellent, blah blah blah.

Two months later, I was let go. I hold no grudges against the

company. It had a reputation with many companies in the area and I

was just merely the " fall guy " .

As for your situation, do you have a counselor/therapist who works

with you with your Asperger's? You might want to contact that

individual. As for how I got out of my space, I realized that no one

was going to do this for me. So, I chose to be proactive about my

situation. I think that is key for anyone who has AS.

I think one of the keys for me that enabled me to push myself out of

withdrawal was volunteering. As you have alluded to one of the

characteristics of people who have AS, how does one get out of

withdrawing? By pushing yourself out of your " comfort zone " . How?

Doing something that you're passionate about in life through

volunteering (and if you can get paid for it, terrific). For me,

that involves homeless issues, since I was homeless as a child and

was earlier this year temporarily. I found that the homeless don't

care if I had Asperger's or ADHD. All they cared was that I was

there to listen to them. They didn't care if I was " different " . As

the saying goes, " people don't care what you know until they know you

care " .

So, while you're looking for another job, go volunteer someplace even

if just for a few hours. It'll push you out of your " comfort zone "

of wanting to withdraw, and give you the opportunity to meet more

people and make contacts and network connections. What to volunteer

for? That's for you to decide.

Does that help?

>

> ,

>

> I am so glad to hear that this went well for you. I was working as

an " Education Minister " and some of the people expressed that they

thought there was something " Different " about me. I was not openly

social and I did not like people to close in my space.I shared with

the other minister working with me that I had Asperger's. He asked a

few questions and then stated that the few people that were

questioning these things may not want me to represent them any more

and with in three days I was fired with out a reason . I did try to

fight this but the labor laws stated that there were to few employees

to make an " official " case against them. I have gone into my " space "

and want very little outside of it . I have been working on my skills

and there are some that think I am doing very well but I do not

trust " people " I can not read them and I can not process

conversations . This has been a huge set back for me. There are

people in my life that just do not understand this withdrawal into

my " space " and I do not know how to find words to fit ..that is if I

could say the words out loud...I accept that I have Asperger's. If

anyone who has ever experienced this kind of withdrawal help me to

see why or how I can get out??

>

> Thank you for listening..

>

> Marjory

> How this morning went...PLEASE

PLEASE PLEASE..read the disclaimer first

>

>

>

>