Re: Withdrawing: was ...PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.

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Thanks, . I tend to be better socially in some situations than

others. I laugh at the other day when I was on a city bus and just

going back and forth with the bus driver about her experiences growing

up in the neighborhood where I live and thought it was all too cool

On the flip side, I will be having a discussion soon with this one

individual who is like me with ADHD/Asperger's. I set a boundary

earlier this month that I would NEVER share my experiences with

ADHD/Asperger's with a stranger. What happened? This individual

opened her mouth and mentioned about me having ADHD/Asperger's while

many other people were on the bus. Think I was happy or pleased? Far

from it. This person needs to realize why boundaries exist (and why I

chose to set them for me). Talking about " withdrawing " , this was a

perfect example when it was ok for me to " withdraw " from talking with

this person. I wasn't about to tell her it was wrong to do what she

did and humiliate her on a bus. But, I will remind her in a gentle,

yet affirming, way and tone of voice that she needs to be careful about

talking about ADHD/Asperger issues around total strangers.

> (3) Deciding that it is OK not to share at work, but that it is OK

to share a few things with people at church. I would like to share

more in that arena, and , you have given me great encouragement.

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, I am glad for you that you found her, anyway. I would have been freaked out too- here is one of my own- as a teacher, the last time one of my students disclosed that she is AS and that I would need to make accomodations, I was just in the process of learning and receiving the inforation that I am as well- and as i came out of denial, I realized that i very much wanted to tell her, "Me too!"- but I cannot. If I do, then she is free to tell as many people as she likes, while I cannot reveal her name, by confidentiality. wrote: Thanks, . I tend to be better socially in some situations than others. I laugh at the other day when I was on a city bus and just going back and forth with the bus driver about her experiences growing up in the neighborhood where I live and thought it was all too cool :)On the flip side, I will be having a discussion soon with this one individual who is like me with ADHD/Asperger's. I set a boundary earlier this month that I would NEVER share my experiences with ADHD/Asperger's with a stranger. What happened? This individual opened her mouth and mentioned about me having ADHD/Asperger's while many other people were on the bus. Think I was happy or pleased? Far from it. This person needs to realize why boundaries exist (and why I chose to set them for me). Talking about "withdrawing", this

was a perfect example when it was ok for me to "withdraw" from talking with this person. I wasn't about to tell her it was wrong to do what she did and humiliate her on a bus. But, I will remind her in a gentle, yet affirming, way and tone of voice that she needs to be careful about talking about ADHD/Asperger issues around total strangers.> (3) Deciding that it is OK not to share at work, but that it is OK to share a few things with people at church. I would like to share more in that arena, and , you have given me great encouragement.

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Actually, this person found me on the bus. Asked if I was , I

said yes. Then she went into everything left and right. I can see

why my recent ex-girlfriend was wary of meeting with her. If someone

told total strangers things that were confidential, I would have

issues in thinking of trusting that person.

Understandably, you couldn't disclose her name. It would go against

the rules of teacher-student-school confidentiality.

> > (3) Deciding that it is OK not to share at work, but that it is

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> to share a few things with people at church. I would like to share

> more in that arena, and , you have given me great

encouragement.

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