supportive partners

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Hi everyone,

I am (unfortunately) in the middle of a rotten

infection. Just started anti’s today. Hopefully those will stop it in its

tracks.

I can’t believe the posts that are coming

through about unsupportive partners. My husband has been wonderful, although I

do think that when my illness was undiagnosed he wondered whether or not I really

was ill. I spent over ten years just trying to get a proper diagnosis, as I’m

sure others here also endured.

It may be a little different in my situation, I guess,

because hubby was extremely ill about four years ago and spent a month in

hospital. He is still undiagnosed and periodically unwell himself. Bottom line

is: we both know what it means to be totally dependant on other people, and

appreciate and understand what it is like to be so ill that you are suddenly dependent

on others.

We have been married almost twenty-nine years, so we’ve

always been there for each other, and hopefully, always will be. In the last

year or so (since I became really ill), we have realised that neither of us

will go into old age with our health intact. This has been a major concern for

us, but our families are understanding, and do what they can.

From my own point of view, the salvation was to

realise my strengths and weaknesses and then adjust my lifestyle to suit. If you

don’t, if you plod on, then your quality of life will just go down the

gurgler and you will eventually wither up and survive, rather than thrive.

For the most part, I have thrived this year. My last

hospitalisation was February, and I have kept relatively well. Melbourne’s winter did not drag

me down, hubby and everyone else’s flu did not drag me down BUT two days

ago, I went to the hairdresser, and a patron there had a really bad cold. That got

to me. (I despise people who share their bugs!)

Anyway, I guess what I’m trying to say is that

we need to support each other – our partners and ourselves. It is

extremely difficult for the partner of someone with a chronic illness. I found

that out when hubby was so ill. Little did I know the roles would be reversed

less than five years down the track. Losing my independence has been the

hardest for me, but with some lifestyle adjustments, and hubby’s help, I have

thrived and survived.

Cheryl

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Can you tell us what the precursor is called so we can go to Wal Marts and ask for it. I am very interested in purchasing one.

Right now the top of my left lung is collapsed . I am due to go into the hospital this coming Tuesday for a bronchoscopy they are going to do a biopsy there is something there that has caused it to collapse. I am a little uneasy about it I have never had a bronchoscope. The doctor said he wasn't going to put me to sleep but would give me something to make me relax and then would spray something in my throat to deaden it. Please say a prayer for me. Thank you , Ina from Missouri USA

Re: supportive partners

Good Morning , I have a dear granddaughter with your name. Yes, I also have a percussor which gave me back my independence. I only use it now when I come down with bronchitis as I find steaming and postural drainage does the job for me. I think too many today go into marriage with a different view than we had years back. "Walk in the front door of the church and if it doesn't work pass thru the court house on the way back from the honeymoon," if any babies get caught up in it - oh well. There does not seem be much permanency today, everything is perfected for quick destruction. Paves the road for a destructive world, I believe. I did not know Walmart carried the percussor. I was lucky in that our insurance provided one. You take care.Nonastarbaby@...