Guest guest Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Remember you can be diagnosed with more then one condition at a time. If someone is blaming you for something, ask them to be supportive instead. good luck! - From: aspires-relationships [mailto:aspires-relationships ] On Behalf Of zoo35511@...Sent: Tuesday, October 16, 2007 8:47 AMTo: aspires-relationships ; aspires-relationships Cc: lnewland977011Subject: new here! Hi Everyone, Thanks for letting me join. I have been married for 14 years, but I'm not sure how much longer I can take it. My husband is very explosive, he freaks out over things and breaks things and screams at us. He can't handle stress at all. He doesn't seem to understand why I am upset when he acts like this. My son is 13 and also has a lot of problems. He was hospitalized last March and the doctor there said he thought both my son and husband have Aspergers. Previously, they had been diagnosed with Bipolar, but the mood swings didn't seem to fit. So I am really not sure what is wrong with my husband, but I just can't seem to get through to him. He does fine as a manager at work, but he has no friends or no interest in being with other people. He loves to play a game called Civilization on the computer (my son is also obsessed with computer games). He will play all night long. He doesn't really talk much. My husband can seem to fake things at times when he is with others and joke, but i t seems forced to me. When my son and husband are together, it's a nightmare. They argue and fight about everything. We're going to a new doctor this Thursday, but we've been to so many doctors and tried so many medications that I'm not too hopeful at this point. I guess it could be that my husband is just an abusive person. His family has some weird genes that's for sure. His sister freaks about things and can't work because she gets so stressed. She has OCD and anxiety and depression. My son has alot of anxiety at night. He's scared to go to sleep unless he sleeps on the floor in my room. He's always been like this. My family blames me for not leaving my husband sooner. Sorry to write so much! Any advice would be appreciated! -------------- Original message from "lnewland977011" <opubendbroadband>: -------------- Houston, we copy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Hi ,I just wanted to say that my un-dx BF and I used to have horrible fights and there were times I thought he was abusive, but it was confusing because he would try so hard to make up afterwards and work through our problems. He also can't handle stress and freaks out. Since I figured out that he has AS and have learned about his inability to control his meltdowns, we have had far fewer fights. Instead of trying to continue the argument or force him to see reason, I know I won't get anywhere until he calms down. It's amazing what a change in perspective can do. Welcome, and good luck!-On 10/16/07, zoo35511@... < zoo35511@...> wrote: Hi Everyone, Thanks for letting me join. I have been married for 14 years, but I'm not sure how much longer I can take it. My husband is very explosive, he freaks out over things and breaks things and screams at us. He can't handle stress at all. He doesn't seem to understand why I am upset when he acts like this. My son is 13 and also has a lot of problems. He was hospitalized last March and the doctor there said he thought both my son and husband have Aspergers. Previously, they had been diagnosed with Bipolar, but the mood swings didn't seem to fit. So I am really not sure what is wrong with my husband, but I just can't seem to get through to him. He does fine as a manager at work, but he has no friends or no interest in being with other people. He loves to play a game called Civilization on the computer (my son is also obsessed with computer games). He will play all night long. He doesn't really talk much. My husband can seem to fake things at times when he is with others and joke, but i t seems forced to me. When my son and husband are together, it's a nightmare. They argue and fight about everything. We're going to a new doctor this Thursday, but we've been to so many doctors and tried so many medications that I'm not too hopeful at this point. I guess it could be that my husband is just an abusive person. His family has some weird genes that's for sure. His sister freaks about things and can't work because she gets so stressed. She has OCD and anxiety and depression. My son has alot of anxiety at night. He's scared to go to sleep unless he sleeps on the floor in my room. He's always been like this. My family blames me for not leaving my husband sooner. Sorry to write so much! Any advice would be appreciated! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 , I am not sure I am following the correct procedure as I am trying to participate in a new format, but just wanted to welcome you to this list and tell you that I hope it will be as helpful to you as it has been to me. My husband has Aspergers, he has not been offcially diagnosed but we do both agree that he has most of the symptoms. It is very challenging for me as an NT(neurotypical) to relate to his AS (aspergers) mental processes as they are different from mine. Reading the posts on this list takes some time, but it has been worth it for me. I hope the counseling your family is getting proves beneficial. that's all for now, good luck to you ! Janet Zee Hi Everyone, Thanks for letting me join. I have been married for 14 years, but I'm not sure how much longer I can take it. My husband is very explosive, he freaks out over things and breaks things and screams at us. He can't handle stress at all. He doesn't seem to understand why I am upset when he acts like this. My son is 13 and also has a lot of problems. He was hospitalized last March and the doctor there said he thought both my son and husband have Aspergers. Previously, they had been diagnosed with Bipolar, but the mood swings didn't seem to fit. So I am really not sure what is wrong with my husband, but I just can't seem to get through to him. He does fine as a manager at work, but he has no friends or no interest in being with other people. He loves to play a game called Civilization on the computer (my son is also obsessed with computer games). He will play all night long. He doesn't really talk much. My husband can seem to fake things at times when he is with others and joke, but i t seems forced to me. When my son and husband are together, it's a nightmare. They argue and fight about everything. We're going to a new doctor this Thursday, but we've been to so many doctors and tried so many medications that I'm not too hopeful at this point. I guess it could be that my husband is just an abusive person. His family has some weird genes that's for sure. His sister freaks about things and can't work because she gets so stressed. She has OCD and anxiety and depression. My son has alot of anxiety at night. He's scared to go to sleep unless he sleeps on the floor in my room. He's always been like this. My family blames me for not leaving my husband sooner. Sorry to write so much! Any advice would be appreciated! -------------- Original message from "lnewland977011" <opubendbroadband>: -------------- Houston, we copy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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