Re: Q. for NTs on Anger: Was --Getting it - a process, an ephiphany or both??

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NTs and anyone, I would like to know more about this too! What are a few of the ways we can know if an NT is doing this (yelling about A, but angry about B and not about A)? My pastor says that if a person is under stress and the anger as stated by the person does not fit the situation, we should suspect it. What other ways can we tell? How can we make the NTs in our lives know that it is better just to be truthful and be through- as jennie says, healther for them, adn easier for us? If that is not easy, then what are a few other things we can do to help? Thanks, Jennie Unknown wrote: wrote: >>Yelling about one thing, when you are angry over something completely different! (I have recently learned that this behavior is hard for an NT NOT to do- because you may feel it is not OK to be angry about what is really bothering you, or you may be under stress and not know why you are angry.)<< I thought this was a really interesting comment here. Would any of you NT have anything to contribute about this particular point? This is something I have really struggled with understanding. It hasn't been until recent times that I actually understood that people do this. This is something my NT husband does a lot. Partly I know it's because of the way his

orginal family is but also it seems to be an innate thing for him and other NTs I know. I never knew anyone could do this as I never had unless I did it on purpose after thinking it out. I have had to help my NT husband see that with me at least he is welcome to express his anger on whatever it is he is really angry about. It has been almost impossible for him to really get past this ingrained quality though. Unfortunately as numerous studies show, undealt with anger causes all sorts of problems later in life, healthwise and other. Anyway, I'm not sure what I am asking from you but just am very curious if anyone has looked at this particular part of themselves and could explain some of what motivates them to act this way. Thanks Jennie

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