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Thanks Elena. Everything went great. My head is still in a bit of a fog

from the meds though. I just realized that I put you guys 3 hours ahead of

me instead of 3 hours behind me on monday in my last message! lol When you

were with Irene, I was under the knife! lol

Who is Irene!?

Thank you for everything!

God Bless

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>> , I hope the surgery went well and that they were able to

>perform it the way you wanted. Get lots of rest. I worked out super

>hard during Irene's 6:30 a.m. (pacific time) workout at the WTC

>yesterday in your honor.

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Hi, I think there was a recent thread about surgery on here, but I can't get to

the archives right now to check. My son broke his elbow yesterday and the

emergency room doctor said he needed surgery. He then started freaking out and

saying " No, they're not going to do it. They're not going to cut me. They're

not going to cut me. "

They gave him some pain medication which also calmed him down. They then

decided he was to go home to rest the arm for a couple of days to get the

swelling down and then will go to the surgeon on Friday. Then the surgeon will

decide if he needs surgery or not. But if he does need surgery, it will be done

later on Friday.

So I'm not sure what to do to prepare him for this. Should I bring it up even

though I know he's going to freak out. He does know it's a possibility, but we

haven't discussed it much. I have no idea how to approach this in the best way

so that he doesn't spend too much time freaking out over something that may

never happen--but so that he's prepared in case it does happen. Any ideas?

[Guest guest]

Hi, . I always found that if I brought a situation like this up, that our

son was fearful of, it just prolonged the " freaking out " . So, right or wrong, I

just waited until right before leaving to say anything, to minimize the stress

on both of us. The only exception was if our son wanted to talk about it. If

not, I let it go too. Often he would distract himself with something and be

able to forget about it until he had to confront it.

When our son had to have an emergency appendectomy, I explained to the doctor

that he had an anxiety disorder and asked if they could give him something (I'm

guessing it was some Valium or a benzodiazapine) to keep him calm as he waited

for the surgery to begin. They were great about it, and it made it easier on

all of us. Situations like that are nerve wracking even on people without OCD,

so I can only imagine it is really heightened for those with it.

I'm so sorry your son was injured. I hope the swelling goes down and they find

they don't have to do surgery. Let us know how everything turns out.

BJ

[Guest guest]

Ugh, , so sorry he broke his elbow! And you'll probably get 2 kinds of

answers on this. Even with 3 sons of my own, not 100% sure what I would do.

Well - he knows he has the appt on Friday? So probably tomorrow I would ask how

his elbow feels, swelling, etc. And - if you are sure he knows surgery IS a

possibility on Friday - then maybe drop it. But - and this is me - if I felt

one of my sons thought " there'll be no surgery " , I would probably add a comment

about how I hope surgery isn't needed and heals fine on its own; see what

reaction I got. And if discussed, I'd probably say that he's already had the

worst pain (the actual break & swelling) and he won't feel a thing from here on

out.

Anyone in your family ever had any type of surgery to compare it to, how they

are fine and they were " cut " ? Gosh, kids are so fast healing (compared to my

age 51, LOL).

OK, just saying I would try to find others' experiences to reassure my sons,

like " no big deal " , etc. I had 2 C-sections so can use that. had an

operation for a hernia and a cyst below his navel. My mom had surgery on her

hand to put a bone back in position after she fell and it moved it.

Sigh, that's just me. You know best from experience how anxious he gets so

waiting until Friday's appointment might work best for him.

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> Hi, I think there was a recent thread about surgery on here, but I can't get

to the archives right now to check. My son broke his elbow yesterday and the

emergency room doctor said he needed surgery. He then started freaking out and

saying " No, they're not going to do it. They're not going to cut me. They're

not going to cut me. "

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> They gave him some pain medication which also calmed him down.

[Guest guest]

Can you get an appointment with the therapist to help you?

Bonnie

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> Hi, I think there was a recent thread about surgery on here, but I can't get

to the archives right now to check. My son broke his elbow yesterday and the

emergency room doctor said he needed surgery. He then started freaking out and

saying " No, they're not going to do it. They're not going to cut me. They're

not going to cut me. "

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> They gave him some pain medication which also calmed him down. They then

decided he was to go home to rest the arm for a couple of days to get the

swelling down and then will go to the surgeon on Friday. Then the surgeon will

decide if he needs surgery or not. But if he does need surgery, it will be done

later on Friday.

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> So I'm not sure what to do to prepare him for this. Should I bring it up even

though I know he's going to freak out. He does know it's a possibility, but we

haven't discussed it much. I have no idea how to approach this in the best way

so that he doesn't spend too much time freaking out over something that may

never happen--but so that he's prepared in case it does happen. Any ideas?

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