working single mom's fit

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Ok, here's my first " written portion " I've shared

publicly...and I'm still not done with my mental fit

over this (feeling like a 6 yo jumping up & down

shouting, " it's not fair " )

Background: I'm job hunting; have a 28-hr max job that

doesn't pay well, but I have fun and work with neat

people; I have been separated for several years,

officially divorced since Dec.; I was a stay-at-home,

homeschooling mom for the past 7 years, only working

at night/weekends for a few hours doing photography;

totally financially dependant on DH; I have a BS in

journalism (photo-oriented) and have no " experience "

writing, yet would really enjoy writing if I could

swallow my fears and just do it...

enough history?

anyway...I was interviewed this week for a job with

more pay, closer to my kids' school, more hours, etc.

What I pitch a fit about is the inevitable

interviewers question: What back-up plan do you have

for when the kid(s) is/are sick?

I feel like this is a " no win " question: " well,

sir/ma'am, I am totally committed to your employment

and will take them to school where they will get

everyone sick and feel miserable/or leave them with

their grandmother who has a weak immune system that

lands her in the hospital when she catches a cold... "

~or~

" well, sir ma'am, don't bother hiring me 'cause my

kids' health/welfare come first and I'm going to miss

5-6 days a year when they get sick "

Ok, I ~~hear~~ that there are great employers out

there that work with parents as far as sick days,

etc.; but I have yet to find one of those gems...

MY Work:

(of which has yet to be completed, since my anger at

this perceived unjust situation has me feeling

reluctant to go inside and find the peace...(I'm not

done pitching a fit at " this man's world " )

1. I don't like workplaces because they are unfair to

single mothers.

2. I want workplaces to allow extra sick days for

single working mothers.

3. Workplaces shouldn't treat work more important

than an ill child.

4. I need bosses to be more tolerant/flexable.

5. Bosses are biased against single mothers.

6. I don't ever want to prioritize work over my

children expecially when they're sick.

I welcome any/all feedback...and I will finish my fit

soon so that I can release my anger and do The Work...

(other than having a live in nanny/housekeeper, I

can't see many options...)

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