Re: FEEL GOOD STUFF

[Guest guest]

Exercise- a half hour to an hour five times a week at target heart rate is

as good for some people as an anti depressant drug!

Manicure, pedicure, massage.

Watching funny movies or show- laughter helps.

Having a big ole good ole cry!

Make a gratitude list of five things I am grateful for ...every day. This

habit is life changing.

Realizing we all have the marbles and coping skills to deal with our

children with Autism.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 9/10/2005 2:42:08 PM Central Daylight Time,

gracekeh@... writes:

What do you all do on the kind of day when you just don't want to do what

you do anymore, for today anyhow?

1. talk on the phone...there is nothing like having a conversation with my

best girl friends, and getting it off my chest what a " yuck " day i'm

having...we always end up laughing about things we did way back when and it

takes me out

of my " autism thinking mode " even for just a while...

2. call a babysitter to come so i can take a REAL shower and actually shave

my legs and do a face mask...then put on jammies and take a MUCH needed nap...

3. go for a drive in the car...and listen to some music that I enjoy, for

once...i can only do this when hubby or babysitter are here...if i take the kids

then i end up listening to barney or kids songs...i love to just drive and

look at the scenery...it's very calming to me...this can be done without getting

showered/dressed for the day

4. put a video in for the kids so I can watch television, even if for a short

time...i NEVER watch tv b/c i always have something else to do...

5. bake...today i'm going to make some snickerdoodle cookies...the smell of

them in the oven just gives me a good feeling...i rarely have time to make

supper much less bake...oh, and i SO LOVE eating the finished product with a

tall

glass of milk...

6. go out and swing on the swingset in the early evening...this is my

favorite time of the day, and the kids are finally undwinding so i take them out

and

we all swing or they play in the sandbox while i swing...

7. exercise....i am by no means an " exercise aholic " , but after going for a

very brisk walk, i my mood is always better...i listen to my music really loud

in my headphones and i feel like i am able to get some of my

anger/frustration out by a tiring workout...

that about sums it up for me....i LOVE to shop and that's probably at the top

of my list, but our home ABA program has left me with NO leftover spending

money...oh how i can't wait for due process to get here...

[Guest guest]

> So.

>

>

>

> What do you all do on the kind of day when you just don't want to

do what

> you do anymore, for today anyhow?

> Some might call this the " I want to stuff myself silly and go to

sleep " kind

> of day... others call it " I wish I never woke up and were still

sleeping "

> kind of day.

> I was fine last night and come tomorrow might be great again.

>

> But for the moment - I am writing my resignation only I don't have

anyone to

> turn it into. <the kids, maybe?>

>

> So I was wondering if you guys have any good, happy things you do

for

> yourself on days like this.

> I have my own list, but I've exhausted them all over and over again

and am

> fed up with most aspects of this list, too. )

>

>

> My list:

>

> 1. Read: ain't nothing like falling into a novel for hours on

end, or in

> some cases days on end, living life vicariously through whoever the

main

> character in the book is. You'd think I would read a romance novel

about

> beautiful but no - - I much prefer suspense, action, conspiracies,

etc.

> Something on the wild side... and no science fiction stuff either.

I have

> enough unbelievable stuff in real life, thank you. But in the last

month, I

> have stayed up until 4 AM near nightly reading books- and after 30

something

> books, always one whole book per day it seems - - I am quite

finished with

> books.

>

> 2. Taco Bell - - - aka " Comfort Food " as far as I am concerned.

Only I

> have to get dressed to go get it, and today - I'm not much in the

mood to

> get dressed.

>

> 3. Beauty Salon / Hair Makeover day: nothing can be as quick of a

lift as

> getting a good hair cut and color. Until you realize you STILL look

> exhausted and like crap and then it ends up making you feel worse

and $200

> or so poorer. I guess I could still try it, and goodness knows I

need a cut

> and should get a new color <maye blue to match my mood>. Hmm.

>

> 4. Dog Training: there is something truly refreshing <for me

anyhow> about

> taking my dogs out and training them to work in an endeavor. Or

taking them

> swimming... or doing anything with them. As you watch your dogs

run in the

> fields or park - - without a true care in the world - - you see the

beauty

> of being a dog. They aren't children, even if some people treat

their dogs

> like their children. But in the end, they are not my children - -

my dogs

> actually listen and they don't destroy the house. This always

works, except

> it's too cold for me to motivate myself to do that with them

today. I guess

> I could go tracking but then laying a track and aging it.....

ugh. Refer

> back to my reason for not doing #2.

>

> 5. Massage: don't know - never actually did go out to get it

done. But it

> sounds good, huh? Manicure, pedicure - - all good stuff but never

made me

> feel better - - and besides, where am I going? Answer: NOWHERE.

>

> 6. Internet Shopping: now here is one of God's <or man's>

greatest gifts.

> Splurge in your jammies. I did that this morning already... and in

a week

> or so, I will be happy but it sure doesn't do damn thing for my

mood TODAY.

>

> 7. COFFEE: This, I do many times in a day, but to have a fresh

pot of

> coffee made just for me..... it always works for a good 30 minutes

to 1 hour

> of " feel good " time. But today, even the coffee tastes like OIL.

>

> 8. When all else fails - - VEGAS. But I just got back in

August. Can't

> make a case for why I need to go back tonight.

>

> Then that leaves me exactly where I am - asking you all what YOU

do. I

> know this has nothing to do with autism, and maybe it's not the

right list,

> but I'm thinking you guys can understand best the mood I am in - -

and was

> hoping perhaps there is something you guys do that I haven't

thought of that

> accomplishes the same thing.

>

>

> Grace

> Home of the Working German Shepherd

> www.vomtauglich

Garage sales, anyone???

Joan-'s mom

>

>

[Guest guest]

I crank up my fav music and clean the house. Trust me, if you saw my

house you'd see why you would find pleasure in getting it clean, lol.

Debi

[Guest guest]

Yes, I love a 2 mi walk through a beautiful greenway trail just put in

near our house. There's a pond at one point with some fountains. I

feel physically better and emotionally clearer after a good walk.

Debi

> Exercise- a half hour to an hour five times a week at target heart

rate is

> as good for some people as an anti depressant drug!

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, I love a 2 mi walk through a beautiful greenway trail just put in

near our house. There's a pond at one point with some fountains. I

feel physically better and emotionally clearer after a good walk.

Debi

> Exercise- a half hour to an hour five times a week at target heart

rate is

> as good for some people as an anti depressant drug!

>

[Guest guest]

I agree with the recommendations re: laughter. See a movie, or go to a comedy

club, or maybe rent some old favorites. I just saw the (believe it or not,

documentary) " Aristocrats " . It's gross, crude and incredibly hysterical. I

laughed so hard I cried rivers of tears. Felt great afterwards too.

Grace Keh wrote:

So.

What do you all do on the kind of day when you just don't want to do what

you do anymore, for today anyhow?

Some might call this the " I want to stuff myself silly and go to sleep " kind

of day... others call it " I wish I never woke up and were still sleeping "

kind of day.

I was fine last night and come tomorrow might be great again.

But for the moment - I am writing my resignation only I don't have anyone to

turn it into. <the kids, maybe?>

So I was wondering if you guys have any good, happy things you do for

yourself on days like this.

I have my own list, but I've exhausted them all over and over again and am

fed up with most aspects of this list, too. )

My list:

1. Read: ain't nothing like falling into a novel for hours on end, or in

some cases days on end, living life vicariously through whoever the main

character in the book is. You'd think I would read a romance novel about

beautiful but no - - I much prefer suspense, action, conspiracies, etc.

Something on the wild side... and no science fiction stuff either. I have

enough unbelievable stuff in real life, thank you. But in the last month, I

have stayed up until 4 AM near nightly reading books- and after 30 something

books, always one whole book per day it seems - - I am quite finished with

books.

2. Taco Bell - - - aka " Comfort Food " as far as I am concerned. Only I

have to get dressed to go get it, and today - I'm not much in the mood to

get dressed.

3. Beauty Salon / Hair Makeover day: nothing can be as quick of a lift as

getting a good hair cut and color. Until you realize you STILL look

exhausted and like crap and then it ends up making you feel worse and $200

or so poorer. I guess I could still try it, and goodness knows I need a cut

and should get a new color <maye blue to match my mood>. Hmm.

4. Dog Training: there is something truly refreshing <for me anyhow> about

taking my dogs out and training them to work in an endeavor. Or taking them

swimming... or doing anything with them. As you watch your dogs run in the

fields or park - - without a true care in the world - - you see the beauty

of being a dog. They aren't children, even if some people treat their dogs

like their children. But in the end, they are not my children - - my dogs

actually listen and they don't destroy the house. This always works, except

it's too cold for me to motivate myself to do that with them today. I guess

I could go tracking but then laying a track and aging it..... ugh. Refer

back to my reason for not doing #2.

5. Massage: don't know - never actually did go out to get it done. But it

sounds good, huh? Manicure, pedicure - - all good stuff but never made me

feel better - - and besides, where am I going? Answer: NOWHERE.

6. Internet Shopping: now here is one of God's <or man's> greatest gifts.

Splurge in your jammies. I did that this morning already... and in a week

or so, I will be happy but it sure doesn't do damn thing for my mood TODAY.

7. COFFEE: This, I do many times in a day, but to have a fresh pot of

coffee made just for me..... it always works for a good 30 minutes to 1 hour

of " feel good " time. But today, even the coffee tastes like OIL.

8. When all else fails - - VEGAS. But I just got back in August. Can't

make a case for why I need to go back tonight.

Then that leaves me exactly where I am - asking you all what YOU do. I

know this has nothing to do with autism, and maybe it's not the right list,

but I'm thinking you guys can understand best the mood I am in - - and was

hoping perhaps there is something you guys do that I haven't thought of that

accomplishes the same thing.

Grace

Home of the Working German Shepherd

www.vomtauglichkeit.com