Guest guest Posted November 15, 2001 Report Share Posted November 15, 2001 I finally finished " Boundaries " tonight - took forever! I wish I'd had that book so long ago - even before I knew what BPD was, I could have been getting better. Allowing someone to hurt me means I have poor boundaries - my nada definitely hurt me but now that I'm an adult, I can choose to stay in a hurting relationship or get out of it. FOG kept me there, but now that I know that guilt came from nada's teaching, which wasn't based on healthy reality, I can put it away. It was a novel idea that when guilt rears it's ugly head to embrace it as a sign of healing - of breaking free. Knowing that healthy people can say no and be respected for it, is not a nada concept! Learning to say no won't be easy for me - saying yes or even volunteering before they ask, has been a habit for a long time. I plan to do more for myself. I plan to make my kids do more for themselves - next book is " Boundaries for Parents " ! I see said the blind man!!!! Hugs from TX Ilene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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