3rd time proves it. Protecting Myself!!!

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To Cyndie, ( & others who are attacking me!)

It seems that none of you who are attacking me, have

gone back & read my entire post/s!!! (???)

I just went back & read them, & in the portion that

you had said that I had left on the post in the last

post to Anon, it was Anon who left that portion in the

post & not me!!! I just re posted back to her what

she had posted to me. The full version of my post was

somewhat different to this half cut & paste version

designed to make me sound the way that someone else

obviously wanted me to sound like! I suggest that you

do go back & re read it, & if you'd like to comment on

something that I have said, please use the full

paragraph that I had written & not half of it, with

words missing to make it appear to mean something

else. If you did re read this particular post, then

you would see that I had written, that it is MY

PERSONAL OPINION & MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, not the

opinion & /or experiences of anyone else!!!

I am allowed to have My Own opinions in relation to My

Own Experiences, aren't I???

> I haven't gone back and read your entire post.

> When I opened it initially, and read the first few

> passages, my thoughts were exactly that of Anons. I

> simply didn't have the energy or inclination to

> confront you with it. However, after reading this, I

> felt the need to validate Anons post.

> Please take a look at the portion of what you had

> left

> of the post in the last post to Anon:

PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO READ THE COMPLETE PARAGRAPH IN

MY VERY ORIGINAL POST WHICH WAS TO IlENE A COUPLE OF

DAYS AGO BEFORE SAYING THAT I POSTED THIS HALF CUT

VERSION OF WHAT I SAID HERE, WHICH IS WHAT I WAS

TALKING ABOUT AT THE START OF THIS POST TO YOU!!!

> Dee wrote:

> > " For one, if you don't point out to a person what

> > their problems are, & you lie, by telling them

> that

> > everything's OK all of the time, then they will

> > never

> > be given the chance to look at their behaviours

> > properly. "

>

> This clearly states that you believe that it is

> someone elses responsiblity to take care of the BP

> and

> point out their behaviors. Given this you might be

> inclined to say... " You are hurtful, hateful and

> controlling and you are behaving like a two year

> old. "

> That just doesn't fly with anyone I know.

>

> Then you wrote this:

I DO NOT SEE ( & IF YOU TOOK THE TIME TO READ MY

COMPLETE POST) THAT THIS CLEARLY STATES THAT I BELIEVE

THAT IT IS ANYONE ELSES RESPONSIBILITY TO TAKE CARE OF

THE BP, OR ANYONE ELSE FOR THAT MATTER, I DON'T KNOW

WHAT YOU DID WITH MY LAST POST, & WHERE ALL OF MY

WORDING HAS GONE TO???

YOU'VE EVEN LEFT OUT THE FULL PARAGRAPH THAT I HAD

WRITTEN IN MY LAST POST TO ANON HERE!!!

> > I AM NOT IN CONTROL & /OR RESPONSIBLE FOR ANYONE

> > ELSE'S

> > BEHAVIOURS OR FEELINGS, I AM ONLY RESPONSIBLE FOR

> MY

> > OWN! SO, I DON'T KNOW HOW YOU MISUNDERSTOOD ME

> > HERE!!!???

>

> This statement and the initial statement above

> completely contractdict each other. That is where

> boundaries come in. This is where you take

> responsibility for your own behavior and protect

> yourSelf. You say to the BP, *I don't accept your

> behavior. I find it hurtful, hateful and

> controlling.*

> Rather than stating as I wrote above. In either

> case,

> neither I nor You statements worked with any of the

> BPs I've had in my life.

>

> Just the same, the two statements are completely

> opposite and contradictory.

THE 2 STATEMENTS ABOVE ARE CONTRADICTORY, BECAUSE YOU

DID NOT GET THE FULL VERSION OF MY FIRST STATEMENT,

BECAUSE AS I POINTED OUT ABOVE, SOMEBODY CUT MY

PARAGRAPH IN HALF TO MAKE IT SOUND DIFFERENTLY TO THE

WAY THAT I HAD ORIGINALLY POSTED IT!!!

> & IF THAT'S THE WAY THAT YOU INTERPRETED

> > WHAT I HAD SAID, THEN I AM NOT SURPRISED THAT YOU

> > FOUND FAULT WITH THIS LOGIC, AS I WOULD TOO.

>

> I completely understand how Anon's logic found fault

> with the logic in the initial post.

AND ISN'T THAT WHAT I HAD JUST SAID IN THAT SAME

PARAGRAPH THAT YOU ARE REFERRING TO, THAT STARTS ABOUT

7 LINES ABOVE THIS ONE??? DID YOU READ THE WHOLE 3

LINES? THE ONES WRITTEN IN UPPERCASE, LIKE I AM

WRITING IN NOW???

> Here's what *I* think is the key to what you were

> actually trying to say:

>

> BUT IF PEOPLE HAD OF CONTINUED TO

> > DANCE

> > AROUND ME ALL OF THE TIME, & DID EVERYTHING THAT I

> > WANTED, & NEVER POINTED OUT MY PROBLEMS TO ME, I

> > PROBABLY WOULDN'T HAVE WANTED, OR FELT THE NEED TO

> > HEAL

>

> This tells me that you were *enabled.* I think this

> is

> a matter of your *projecting* your issues of being

> enabled that caused you to say what you did in your

> initial post?

YOU WOULDN'T KNOW WHAT I HAD SAID IN MY INITIAL POST,

BECAUSE YOU HAVEN'T BOTHERED TO READ IT.

BUT THANKS ANYWAY, FOR YOUR DIAGNOSIS OF WHO I AM, &

WHY I DO THE THINGS I DO.

> That it was only when people stopped

> enabling you that you took ownership of your issues?

>

> However - how did this come about? Did someone tell

> what you were doing wrong and you suddenly saw the

> light? That's not what you said here...

>

> IT WAS ONLY THROUGH CONTINUED LOSSES &

> > FRUSTRATIONS THAT FINALLY GOT ME INTO THERAPY.

>

> This tells me someone set a very strong boundary

> with

> you by cutting ties.

HOW DOES THAT PART OF MY PARAGRAPH, THAT YOU'VE CUT,

TELL YOU THAT SOMEONE SET A VERY STRONG BOUNDARY WITH

ME BY CUTTING TIES??? ONLY THE REST OF MY STORY WOULD

TELL YOU THAT.

> I suppose that's also another

> way of saying " You are hurtful, hateful and

> > controlling and behaving like a two year old. "

> Best Wishes,

> Cyndie

THANKS CYNDIE FOR YOUR INPUT, IT'S LOVELY PEOPLE LIKE

YOU, THAT MAKE ME FEEL SO WELCOME IN THIS GROUP!!!

I'D BETTER HIRE A PROOF READER BEFORE 'I DARE' SEND

ANY MORE POSTS TO THE GROUP, IN CASE THAT SOMEONE

READS IT THE WRONG WAY!!!

FROM DEE:

http://pages.ivillage.com/scasos/thescasossurvivorsupportersite/

BTW EVERYONE IT WAS CYNDIE WHO WROTE THE NEXT PART OF

THIS POST & NOT ME!!!

> ps...On the note of being a Non and being an

> enabler.

> Either you're an enabler or you're gone - in most

> instances. (Kudos to those who can stand it and

> stick it out.)

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